Thursday, January 22, 2009

Implacable Hostility Leading to Parental Alienation

L.F. Lowenstein
Justice of the Peace, (2008), Vol 172, No.12, 185-187

It has been well established by numerous investigators in the area of family problems that the implacable hostility between parents or partners in a relationship which results in a break- up of that relationship due to that implacable hostility, features largely in the tendency of the custodial parent to alienate a child/children against the non custodial parent (Gardner 2002 a, b,c,d; Ancona. 1998; Knight, 2005; Kelly, 2003; Anthony 2005). While the courts are eager to accept the term “implacable hostility” they are less inclined to consider “parental alienation” or “parental alienation syndrome” as this as yet has not been accepted as a “condition” or “syndrome” by the American Psychological Association, or indeed the British Psychological Society. The article which follows attempts to show how the connection between ‘implacable hostility’ and ‘parental alienation’ is very strong indeed. One virtually follows the other.

A recently published book by the author of this article (Lowenstein, 2007) emphasises that link and attempts to make the courts aware of legitimacy of using “parental alienation”, if not parental alienation syndrome, in association with implacable hostility. (Heiliger, 2003; Caplan, 2004; Lorandos, 2005).

Those in the Judiciary who feel that the term parental alienation syndrome or parental alienation cannot be used (Lowenstein, 1999) must also consider the fact that implacable hostility is also not part of DSM-IV of the British and American psychological associations and yet it is accepted readily by the courts. An article published by the author (Lowenstein, 2006) and Enoch (2001) on the subject of “Folie a Deux” produces considerable evidence to the effect that frequently the custodial parent will ally himself/herself with the child and members of the extended family to create a situation where the absent or non custodial parent is alienated in every way, including contrived accusations being made of physical and sexual
abuse towards the former partner and/or the child (Baker, 1997; Lowenstein, 1994b, 2001b).

This is virtually always disproven, as a reason for preventing contact between the alienated,absent non custodial parent and children. It is nevertheless a powerful weapon used by the custodial parent to attack and attempt to nullify the very existence of the absent partner or demonising that partner, and preventing contact between that former partner and children of that relationship. Hence, many devious and destructive manoeuvres are practiced by custodial parents (both fathers and mothers) in their effort to annihilate the presence of the absent parent due to the implacable hostility (Gardener, 2003) existing during the relationship and even more, following the break up of the relationship. It is especially likely to occur when the custodial parent has established a new relationship with a partner and wishes that partner to play the role of the absent parent. Such individuals will even go to the length of attempting to change the name of the child to the new partner in the relationship. This provides considerable harm and injustice to children who are caught in the middle and to the alienated parent who seeks eagerly to play a role of responsibility in having contact with his/her child.

Signs of parental alienation due to implacable hostility

Signs of parental alienation have been recorded by the current author (Lowenstein, 2007) and Lorandos (2005) and include at least 28 signs many of which are readily observable in children who have been alienated against the absent parent. It must be emphasised again that the result or basis of such alienation is due to the implacable hostility by at least one of the parents towards the other, usually the custodial parent, who wishes to eliminate the influence and contact of the non resident parent. Among the many signs a number will be produced at this point (Lowenstein, 2002; 2005e):

1. lack of independent thinking from the child who is imitating the alienator’s thoughts and feelings as well as in some cases instructions.

2. Destroying mail or even presents from the alienated parent so that the child will feel the absent parent no longer cares for him/her.

3. The alienating parent tends to seek to curtail all communication between the child and the alienated parent whether it is by telephone, in person, or by letter.

4. The alienated parent is shown to be a ‘scapegoat’ and blamed for everything that has gone wrong in the child’s life. The child of course will have no reason for doubting this.

5. The child no longer calls the alienated parent his/her father/mother and will frequently call him/her names such as ‘liar’ and other abusive names of various kinds. This has been inculcated in the child by the custodial parent predominantly.

6. The child is frequently insulting and shows disrespect in many ways if there is any contact at all between that child and the non custodial parent. This is done usually in front of the alienator.

7. The alienated parent is viewed as being a despicable individual who should be rejected by the child permanently.

8. The parent who alienates the child is actually seducing the child emotionally and in so doing is carrying out considerable ‘emotional abuse’ by carrying out this type of behaviour.

9. The child is made to feel guilty if he/she shows any interest or love towards the alienated parent. Hence the child will deny any involvement with the alienated parent being fearful of losing the custodial parent as support and security.

10. The child fears rejection by the programmer and will say and do things in front of the custodial parent to please that person, against the alienated parent.

11. The child appears to be under control totally due to the indoctrination by the alienating parent. Hence the alienator is viewed as being all good and wise while the other parent who is absent is viewed in the opposite manner.

12. The child tends to paraphrase statements used by the alienating parent and frequently this language is not typical of a child of that particular age. It is a type of cult-like influence of indoctrination.

13. As a result of the implacable hostility the child frequently suffers from paranoia in relation to the alienated parent. The child develops a fear of what the absent parent might do which could be harmful to him/herself or indeed the alienator.

14. The child will often speak in an exaggerated manner of abuse that he/she may have
suffered from the alienated parent due to the encouragement by the alienator.

15. The child or the alienating parent makes statements insinuating quasi or actual sexual,emotional and physical abuse suffered by the child.

16. The language through which the child portrays such information includes such phrases as: “He touches me inappropriately”, or “He has penetrated me”. These are borrowed scenarios from the alienating parent.

17. It must be realised that children who are alienated no longer know the truth from lies especially if they have been told lies by a parent upon whom they depend so much for security.

18. The child who is alienated against the non custodial parent will be alienated not only against that absent parent but against that parent’s family due to the inculcation of false information by the alienator.

19. The alienator will also poison the child against the therapist who may be involved in some form of mediation, unless the therapist supports only the alienator, which of course would be wrong. Hence the therapist is frequently seen as an “enemy” and on the side of the alienated parent because he/she is seeking to provide some contact between the parent who is alienated and the child (Gardner, 2002a,b).

20. It is often not what the alienator says but how it is said by saying nothing positive about the absent parent. Such statements as: “Father/Mother would like to take you out, do you want to go?” is likely to provide an answer which is negative from the child because the child expects the custodial parent to feel that is what is expected of him/her.

21. The alienated child often tends to see himself/herself in a very powerful position(Gardner, 2002b) especially if they ally themselves with the alienator. This creates great antagonism against the alienated parent. This is done as a result of the programming of the alienator.

22. The female alienator, which is more common than the male alienator, since more
mothers have custody than fathers (Ancona, 1998), is likely to choose a female solicitor for the purpose of having an ally of her own gender who will back her up whatever occurs. Fathers may equally do the same thing and choose a male solicitor. Such sexual preferences are based on seeking support for their position.

23. Female alienators are often angry due to the fact that the alienated individual may have a new relationship and this increases the implacable hostility between herself and her former
partner.

24. Some alienators move away from where their ex-partner resides making it difficult for the alienated parent to seek contact and to have regular contact. This should not be permitted by the courts.

25. Sometimes, in extreme cases of alienation and implacable hostility the custodial parent will even change the name of the child to that of the alienator or the new partner of the alienator.

26. Frivolous reasons are often given for not wanting to be with the alienated parent by the child. This includes wanting to be out with his/her friends, watching a television programme or having some other excuse for not wishing to be with the absent parent often supported by the alienator.

27. The child is encouraged to be with friends or play video games by the alienating parent. Again, this is in order to stand in the way of the absent parent having regular contact with the child.

28. The child who has had a happy history and warm relationship with the now alienated parent before separation or divorce, will frequently fail to remember, or will not be reminded, of pleasant and happy times by the custodial parent. Hence, a child will forget the happy times and consider only those times, mentioned by the alienator, of all the negative experiences of the past, which the child has experienced or remembers again, possibly due to being reminded of this by the custodial parent. Negative experiences are thus reinforced.

It is important for psychologists or psychiatrists, or anyone acting as an expert witness to be aware of these undercurrents of activity going on and not merely accept the version that the child gives of not wishing contact with the absent parent. Frequently the courts will listen to what the child wants of says and abide by this without any deeper examination of the facts behind such decisions by children.

An article which follows will provide ways provided for combating parental alienation based on implacable hostility and hence the treatment of the problem which is so damaging to children as well as the absent parent seeking contact.

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* * *
Dr Ludwig F. Lowenstein M.A., Dip. Psych., Ph.D. founded Southern England Psychological
Services in 1978, following years of experience as a Consultant Psychologist and after serving
the Hampshire Education Authority as Chief Educational Psychologist. He obtained his M.A.
and Doctorate in Psychology and Education at London University, and is one of Britain's most
quoted authorities on psychology in Education. Over the years he has held such appointments
as: Director of Assessment and Guidance for maladjusted boys with learning difficulties,
London and Winchester; Chief Examiner in Education Psychology, College of Preceptors,
London; former educational psychologist in Essex and London; Visiting Lecturer to the
Universities of London, Southampton, Maryland (U.S.A.), and Visiting Professor to the
University of Khartoum (Sudan), as well as to many U.K. Colleges of technology and teacher training colleges. He is currently an Educational and Psychological Consultant. He was made a fellow of the college of Preceptors and has also published books and over 360 articles on a variety of subjects including those dealing with Forensic matters.

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My Two Cents- warning.. what you will read below is not for all eyes.. it's an angry rant.. from a devistated mother who lost her children due to political connections.. So consider yourself warned.. you might want to click the lil x up top now!

I'm sick and tired of trying to play nice.. these people are animals not worthy of kind or politically correct words.. they have destroyed my and my children's lives and will one day have to answer to someone.. if not in this life.. then in the afterworld!

My children, S.U., Dawn Uccio, Louie Uccio, and Nick Uccio, were alienated from me and my entire family...

Their father Mr. Louis M Argenziano, FRAUDULENTLY had custody removed from me... using a false then over turned "indicated" child protective services case against me... which was conceled by the courts for 6 years! I was labeled a dangerous drug addict then refused drug testing! My 100% negative hair drug test was precluded from the record! This enabled him to have 18 months of unintrupted sole custody (time he used to alienate my children from me- when my babies were little...

I'm sure if you have read up to this part.. you are wondering .. WTF? How is this possible?

This case is more likely than not to be a conspired "legal kidnapping" due to Mr. Argenziano's political connections to the Panepinto's.. his girl friend Aggie Panepinto - who took over as the phsycial stand in mother to my children (she could never fill my shoes no matter what she thinks- she's not even half the woman I am- but apparently her last name allowed her to play mommy to my children FOR NOW)

Her last name which happens to be the same as Mr. Argenzinao's boss in the Catholic Charities CYO, Mr. Jospeh Panepinto, who happens to be married to Judge Barbara Panepinto a Supreme Court Judge in Mr. Argenzianp's jurisdiction!

Before the alienation, I was the custodial mother holding a valid Order of Protection against Mr. Argenziano in another state!!! (who in his own words-admited to being an abuser- which can be seen in the documents of the article 78 on the right hand side of this blog)

The Richmond County, New York Court System is 100% to blame for this alienation.. and any current and or future emotional problems my children and I are suffering or will suffer

The apparenlty CORRUPT PLAYERS that worked/are working with Mr. Argenziano's in "legally kidnapping" my children are ...

His attorney Ms. Catherine Bridge

Hearing Officer Bonnie Cohen Gallet..

Family Court Judge Terrence McEltath..

Supreme Court Judge Barbara Panepinto

Supreme Court Judge Debra Silber

Richmond County, Family Court Services, forensic evaluators Ms. Amerose and Mitch Rouse (Ms. Amerose's initial evaluation was raving about me as the custodial parent then did a flip once Mr. Argenziano moved in with Aggie Panepinto- and as for ... Mitch Rouse.. he didn't even sign his evaluation- what a scam!)

The list goes on and on.. but I think I've made my point clear..

I'm going to warn anyone that want's to comment here..

Aggie Panepinto is a sick woman.. and Mr. Louis Argenziano is a very sick man.. then both stalk this blog.. harassing anyone that they can .. in their sad attempt to discredit my DOCUMENTED side of story..

If you get contacted by either of them.. I would simply ask them to show you documents to support thier side of the story.. when they can not produce them.. take a look at MY DOCUMENTS below on the right.. then if I were you I'd send them both on thier way.. and wouldnt give them the satisfaction of a reply.. as they both live for causing trouble.. and validation that they are human!

Mr. Louis M Argenziano was and is nothing more than an abusive manipulative politically connected mistake.. not only was he a horrible mistake I made but he should have been swallowed.. there would be much less pain and suffering for many people in this world... if his mother swallowed or spit.. including her own (his mothers) suffering!

Same goes for his pathetic politically connected girl-friend...and her cronnies!

P.S. Mr. Argenziano and or Aggie Panepinto.. Don't bother sending me annoying comments they will be deleted without being read.. same goes for any sick supporters you have aligned with!


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8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Richard Gardner, the man who invented Parental Alienation Syndrome, was a pedophile.

He invented Parental Alienation Syndrome to protect pedophiles!

Anyone with a smidgeon of decency would not touch this syndrome with a bargepole.

The old Marriage Guidance centres, which used to be free, were a lot better than these awful secret courts, which are just making divisions in families even worse, plus costing the taxpayer vast amounts of money. The government stopped funding these marriage guidance centres, I suppose in an attempt to save money - what a bad idea that was! They've ended up picking up a penny and dropping a pound - the big law firms are laughing all the way to the bank as they are robbing this country blind - and using these pedo syndromes to do it too! What a sting!

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smartnews said...

Information on Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)

http://ritualabuse.us/research/parental-alienation-syndrome/

“This article analyzes every precedent-bearing decision and law review article referencing PAS in the past twenty years, finding that precedent holds PAS inadmissible and the majority of legal scholarship views it negatively.”

“PAS as developed and purveyed by Richard Gardner has neither a logical nor a scientific basis. It is rejected by responsible social scientists and lacks solid grounding in psychological theory or research.”

“Both Gardner (PAS’s originator) and NAMBLA claim that adult-child sex is biologically natural, not inherently harmful to the child, and that any resultant harm is caused by social stigma rather than the sexual contact itself.”

“While Gardner claimed that “repeat offenders must be removed from society,” he advocated that they only be imprisoned after treatment has failed, advocating that they not be imprisoned with “hardened criminals,” or be subjected to lengthy sentences. As a political advocate, Gardner lobbied to abolish mandated reporting of child abuse, to abolish immunity for reporters of child abuse, and for the creation of federally funded programs to assist individuals claiming to be falsely accused.”

The Evidentiary Admissibility of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Science, Law, and Policy Jennifer Hoult - Children’s Legal Rights Journal, Vol. 26, No. 1, 2006
http://ssrn.com/abstract=910267
paper available at : http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/cf_dev/AbsByAuth.cfm?per_id=642440


Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: Getting It Wrong in Child Custody Cases Carol S. Bruch University of California, Davis 35 Family Law Quarterly 527 (2001)
http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=298110&rec=1&srcabs=910267
paper available at : http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/cf_dev/AbsByAuth.cfm?per_id=228611


Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force On Violence And The Family - ISSUES AND DILEMMAS IN FAMILY VIOLENCE Issue 5 http://web.archive.org/web/20000307233013/www.apa.org/pi/pii/familyvio/issue5.html

LOYOLA OF LOS ANGELES LAW REVIEW 29:1367-1415 (1994) THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME: A DANGEROUS AURA OF RELIABILITY Cheri L. Wood - PAS testimony should not be admitted in court because of the causation and evidentiary problems with the theory. Because of the dangerous aura of reliability and trustworthiness extant in Dr. Gardner’s self- published theory, admission of PAS is inevitable and particularly disconcerting. http://fact.on.ca/Info/pas/wood94.htm

Dr. Richard Gardner: A Review of His Theories and Opinions on Atypical Sexuality, Pedophilia, and Treatment Issues by Stephanie J. Dallam, RN, MSN, FNP Reference: Dallam, S. J. (1998). Treating Abuse Today, 8(1), 15-23. http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/res/dallam/2.html
http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/faq.htm

The Parental Alienation Syndrome: Is It Scientific? by Stephanie J. Dallam, RN, MSN, FNP Dallam, S. J. (1999). In E. St. Charles & L. Crook (Eds.), http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/res/dallam/3.html

Faller, K. C. (1998). The parental alienation syndrome: What is it and what data support it? Child Maltreatment, 3(2), 100-115 http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/docs/Faller1998.pdf

Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Professionals Need to Know Part 1 of 2 Update - Volume 16, Number 6, 2003 By Erika Rivera Ragland & Hope Fieldshttp://www.ndaa.org/publications/newsletters/update_volume_16_number_6_2003.html

Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Professionals Need to Know Update - Volume 16, Number 7, 2003 Part 2 of 2 By Hope Fields & Erika Rivera Ragland http://www.ndaa.org/publications/newsletters/update_volume_16_number_7_2003.html

Parental Alienation Syndrome: Frye V. Gardner in the Family Courts by Poliacoff, Ph.D., P.A., Greene, Esq., and Smith, Esq http://web.archive.org/web/20051124134133/http://www.gate.net/~liz/liz/poliacoff.htm

RICHARD A. GARDNER: IN HIS OWN WORDS “At the present time, the sexually abused child is generally considered to be the victim,” though the child may initiate sexual encounters by ’seducing’ the adult.” Gardner, Richard A., Child Custody Litigation (1986), p.93 http://web.archive.org/web/20061012010857/http://www.gate.net/~liz/liz/pedoph.htm

Louise Uccio said...

Apparently I have a few new haters.. or fans depending on how you look at it lol

Yesterday I received a link from the Liz files (of which I have no interest) on PA/PAS and how they want to trash the reality of PAS..

All I have to say to my new haters.. is D E N I A L is a very dangerous place to live!

Louise
An abuse survivor that KNOWS PAS IS REAL!

Sister Charity said...

Parental Alienation, Hostile Aggressive Parenting, Chronic Emeshment, it's all the same thing -ABUSE! It' real and it is destroying lives. You're doing a great job Louise and don't worry the new haters/fans we have 'em too.

God Bless.

Anonymous said...

Well, if you people are determined to use and justify the lifework of a notorious pedophile then what can I say?

Richard Gardner and Ralph Underwager ought to be as famous as Hitler and Stalin. It is creepy how both these men have been able to influence the justice system of so many countries, and yet most people have no idea who these men are, they have never heard of them! Likewise that disgusting hotbed of filth, the Kinsey Institute.

Well, people are talking now, the secrecy of the family court system has been well and truly breached. I suggest that if any of you people here are professional PAS junkies that you get yourselves another trade, ie bar work, road sweeping, cleaning toilets, whatever, anything, because PAS is going to be shown up for what it is, the light has been switched on in the dark room and all the rats are leaving the sinking ship.

Pedophilia is NOT acceptable to most people because most people are decent and have a desire to protect the next generation, not corrupt it! There will be hell to pay when the people realise the worldwide con trick that has been played on them for so long.

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toneygirl said...

Parental alienation absolutely exists! I don't give a shit if Gardner's "syndrome" isn't admissible! Leave off the "syndrome" because that seems to place the blame on the child, when left with "parental alienation'" the fault lies in the hands of the alienating parent, where it belongs!
I pray for you, I don't know how the healing ever even starts, I pray for my husband who is going through the same thing with his ex. One day, his children stopped speaking to him...a year and a half ago! Funny.....that was about the same time he and I got engaged. Hmmmmm.....

toneygirl said...

Parental alienation absolutely exists! I don't give a shit if Gardner's "syndrome" isn't admissible! Leave off the "syndrome" because that seems to place the blame on the child, when left with "parental alienation'" the fault lies in the hands of the alienating parent, where it belongs!
I pray for you, I don't know how the healing ever even starts, I pray for my husband who is going through the same thing with his ex. One day, his children stopped speaking to him...a year and a half ago! Funny.....that was about the same time he and I got engaged. Hmmmmm.....

Louise Uccio said...

Tonegirl,

First, I want to say, kudos to you for being so supportive of your man!

Second, I want to say... I've done an insane amout of research on PAS and abusive personalities... AND believe it or not- the kind of people that get alienated... without any of the trio

(1) the abuser

(2) the good guy

(3) the innocent children

what happens in a case of PA or PAS or the real name for what's going on which is "Cognitive Dissonance" (link below) is that 'abusers' have no problem bad mouthing the 'abused) good guy/gal over & over often times as in my case they are relentless!

And because they repeate these nasty negative things about the(abused) good guy/gal to the innocent children as often as possible while at the same time keeping the children from the (abused) good guy/gal as often as possible...

the innocent children have what I call... near breakdowns! And they must decide to either change thier minds about how much they know they love the (abused) good guy/gal or litterally have what is equal to a nervous break down!

So, those groups (of abused women) who are having their children taken frorm them by their abused husbands...

are further being abused by the ABUSIVE WOMEN (wolves in sheep clothing) WHO RUN THOSE D.V. groups... by brainwashing those abused DV women into having the leaders back and fighting that PAS is a buncha bullshit! (BECAUSE those groups put their giant abusive feet in their mouth way long ago.. and began a fight that is causing these DV survivers... nothing but heart wrenching pain from living a life without their children.. on the Gardner front...

Anyway, long story short- these womens groups get INSANE FINANCIAL FUNDING to (keep) protecting abused women... KEY NOTE- IF THEY EMPOWER THESE WOMEN.. WHERE ARE THEY GONNA GET THE INSANE FUNDING FROM?

So, when you hear a poor soul.. repeat what they've been brainwashed to say, "PAS is not real" know that they need more or just as much help as the alienated children are going to need when they're ready to be emoyional pain free- perhaps after getting into 5 or 10 nmore abusive relationships/friendships... who knows!

There is a link on the right side of this page for a Strategic Intervention Holistic Life Coach, perhaps your husband would benefit from working with her... the (abused) good guy/gal needs to figure out how they play a major role in being alienated and how to stop it!

Good Luck either way




http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/cognitive_dissonance.htm