This evening I finally returned a phone call from a long distance friend who has been kind enough to wait till I worked through my accident & figure out my recovery in my head before receiving a call from me. I truly appreciate her being so kind!
It's been a struggle for the last few months.. I have been on serious medication which has basically kicked my ass.. my head injury has played a major role in my day to day life.. I'm lucky I can remember what I said yesterday most days.
Anywho, thank you Jules!
Now, as for why I am beginning today's blog with a thanks to Jules...
Well, Throughout the years, I've had to accept that everything happens for a reason.
Today, I received a post from Kaleah's Website "the Narcissism Free Website", and it covered exactly what I was telling Jules about an hour earlier...
I've spent the last 10 years desperately trying to figure out how I managed to be taken out of my children's lives. During my search I've had to learn about Parent alienation, Stockholm Syndrome & most importantly..
Cognitive Dissonance and Conversatinal Hypnosis.
I had to learn how Cognitive Dissonance occurs & how Conversational Hypnosis worked before I would be able to figure out how my children went from cherishing me and our relationship to tossing it and me in the garbage. I'd have to learn how someone that adores another could suddenly hate that same person.
I also needed to figure out what Neuro Linguistic Programing (NLP) was..
I've had to understand what kind of people would be evil enough to create Cognitive Dissonance in another person, or who would intentionally manipulate anothers mind for their own benefit.
I've had to go to the depths of ugly within myself and revisit my abandoned abused inner child. I've had to learn all about her and how she responds to the world she lives in.
I think it's fair to say.. I've had to go through hell and back before "I'd get it!"
Knowing what "it" is... was the hardest part of all..
One part of the "it" is being ok enuff with myself and my inner child so that she/I don't respond to every perceived hurt,or to every perceived attack, or perceived abandonment.
The other part of the "it" is knowing my inner child and calming her down enuff to know when there are people around me who are operating off their own perceived hurts, perceived attacks, or perceived abandonment issues.
The latter part is a little harder, because when 'others' are acting off their perceived hurts, perceived attacks, or perceived abandonment issues. They are then operating off their inner child's hurts and their own self preservation. And in doing so, they are "in reality" hurting, attacking and abandoning us.
Whewwwwww say that fast three times! Ok, ok, ok all joking aside...
Those of us who have been alienated from our children can get them back into our lives once we are able to focus on our inner abused/abandoned children.
Once we 'go there' and come out the other side.. we can take whatever their inner scared children give us...
However, before taking on such a huge job, I suggest you learn all you can about Cognitive Dissonance... and take an in-print into your conscious of the blog below... (Her blog helped me enormously to get where I am today)
The Path Back To Self | Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
Here are one of the better definitions of Cognitive Dissonance that I have found, but do your own homework...
Cognitive Dissonance and learning
Covert hypnosis - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Thursday, August 11, 2011
I'm not sure how many of my readers also know me in the real world, but I'm thinkin.. not to many.
So with that in mind summ'a yawl mite be wudnerin where I've been.
I was in a pretty bad motorcycle accident, which left me in ICU for a lil over a week, then I was healing in "Kindred Hospital"
In case you, like I, don't or didn't know what kind of hospital "Kindred" is... it's a long term acute care hospital.
Well, it kinda went something like this... One minuite I was riding my bike with 25ish other people (see pic above- that was an hour or so before my accident), which I don't remember.. then the next thing I'm aware of is someone or something cutting threw my jeans... (see pic below)
I found out days later, that was them cutting my cloths off in or before or when, (shrug) I was put into the helecopter.
I arrived at Cumiunity Medical Center in P.A. (the closest trauma hospital) via helecopter, with a smashed femur, a cracked skull & a broken eye socket..
En if that wuzzent enuff, I also had a head injury.
There was blood on my brain, what wasn't known was if the blood was from my skull fracture or if my brain was bleeding!
As it turned out... the blood was from my skull fracture-which I rcieved dispite my wearing a DOT helmet.
The first responders at the sceen told my riding buddies that the only reason they were having me airlifted to a hosp. with some chance of survival was due to my wearing my helmet!
I have a google alert for any of the phrases that would bring me the article about my crash from the news paper and today I recieved the article below..
He also survived cuz he was wearing his helmet. I'm not a die hard "wear your helmet freak".. I've actually argued on the other side- if you don't want to wear it why should you have too! As it turned out I was in PA when I went down. PA is a no helmet law state- I didn't have to wear it. But after this past month.. you can bet your last dollar that I WILL!
Please enjoy the rest of this riding season a lil more for me, and always no matter what- Ride Safe!
It's been 40 years and 250,000 miles of motorcycling for me -- scarcely "dropping" my bike in the driveway. Until last Tuesday evening, when the ER trauma surgeon told my wife I'd not have survived the afternoon's traumatic brain injury without my helmet.
Awakening as if from a bad dream in a hospital bed at Mayo in Mankato with a mild concussion, my most recent memory was playing under a tree with my granddaughter at lunch nine hours earlier.
My confused eyes spotting the slightly abraded motorcycle helmet atop the hospital cabinet nearby, I learned I'd been in a minor accident with my motorcycle.
Witnesses said I stopped quickly to avoid rear-ending cars stopping suddenly ahead of me, ultimately going over with my bike sideways and hitting my head on the street. (A macho biker would say, "Just had to lay it down.")
Retrograde amnesia may prevent my ever remembering jumping on the smaller of my two BMW motorcycles that afternoon -- apparently quickly donning only the helmet and half-gloves to return some DVDs to the public library downtown.
It's scary; the woman who saw it all happen told me, to my astonishment, that I got to my feet conscious, amiably chatty, with only a scraped elbow. The other witness helped me upright and park my motorcycle, and called the police.
Thankfully, the Mankato police officer who lost a brother to motorcycling recognized my condition and called for an ambulance. Visiting with them days later -- my brain healing after losing two hours of memory before the accident and six hours afterward -- it's as if we've never met or talked before!
Though I'm mostly back to normal, my plans for Sturgis 2011 are canceled. If yours are on, use your helmet this week as you head to western South Dakota!
And do enjoy the gorgeous Black Hills vicariously for this recovering veteran motorcyclist.
JOHN BIPES, MANKATO, MINN.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Victory! Peter Spitz Reunited With Son After Outrageous Family Court Injustice
August 2, 2011
In one of the most outrageous injustices of our time, Peter Spitz (pictured right) was separated from his son and almost lost custody of him after his ex-wife shot him in the face and murdered his mother.
Fathers and Families advised Peter, helped him get legal counsel, and also publicized his case, and we are pleased to announce that Peter has now won full custody of his seven-year-old son.
Special credit and thanks goes to talented Colorado family law attorney Brett Martin (pictured below), who took on Spitz’s case and won a decisive victory–the court decision is here.
We also thank Fathers and Families Board Member Robert Franklin, Esq., who covered this case extensively and helped to advise Peter–his write-up of the new decision is below.
Together with you in the love of our children,
Glenn Sacks, MA
Fathers and Families
From Fathers and Families Board Member Robert Franklin, Esq.: