Saturday, February 28, 2009

Maggie Tuttle - A cry for More Women, Mothers and Grandparents to speak out

I am posting these emails with permission.. on behalf of ..

Maggie Tuttle

Update - another few emails .. posted here by request from Maggie Tuttle.

In a message dated 3/16/2009 3:46:07 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, maggietuttle@btinternet.com writes:

Hi, I am forwarding this email, which I sent to James Deuchars at Grandparents apart. If grandparents, dads or mums followed up what I have said in this email to Jimmy, there could be a lot of media attention if the information was correctly researched, Why on earth Governments world wide want to pay millions of pounds a year of tax payers money to foster carers or to people who adopt children, there has to be a fiddle in this some where, especially when most kids apart do have a loving family.

Thank you for putting my letter on Google.
Maggie Tuttle

mobile 07767710756
www.hrtsideeffects.com

----- Original Message -----
From:
Maggie Tuttle
To:
James Deuchars
Cc:
Traks
Sent: Sunday, March 15, 2009 7:41 AM
Subject: Payment of Allowances
Morning Jimmy,


If you look at some of these figures in this email, you will see approx how much foster carers receive, but I have been speaking to various people in the system, and the rates for different parts of the country do vary, if you are a foster carer on 24 hours stand by, then you can receive emergency money for this and the rates again are very well paid.

If we look at all the different benefits paid to foster carers, they can earn well over £500 a month, I have also been told, some foster carers can claim up to £1000 a months, if they know how to work the system, it just does not make sense to me, if this was bought out in the media big time, then I am sure there could be a lot of support for grandparents or fathers who could look after the kids free.

And god knows how much the tax payer would save. Can you see the logic behind all of this fostering at an enormous expense. I will continue to do some more research in to payment foster care.

Did you receive the letter I sent of David Cameron's reply, I will also again write to him regarding the money paid for fostering a child.
Maggie Tuttle

http://www.devon.gov.uk/index/childrenfamilies/fostering/foster_carer-2/rates-allowance/fosrates_poa.htm

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My name is Maggie Tuttle, I feel it is time that more women, Mothers and Grandparents spoke up on behalf of what is really happening in this world, not only to fathers, but to our Grandchildren.

Having been a field worker and women's campaigner for more then 30 years, (and no I am not a do gooder,) I can only say, what a sad world every one now has to live in.

Most of all for the children who are born with a voice, but not allowed to voice their opinions' the only voices kids have these days, are the social workers and Governments. There is no one in this world can know how a child feels, unless these kids are allowed to speak, and the same is with dads, how on earth can fathers get any rights, if they cannot afford to go to court to gain access to their kids.

I will repeat what I wrote to David Cameron MP here in the UK.

For any person wanting access to his rights which is, his kids, he first has to employ a solicitor, Barrister and maybe a QC, There is so much money made, that the courts and the likes would lose, so dads and kids will never get any rights, and if they did go to court, they would just be fleeced of all their money, and still end up with no rights to their kids, only the memory of them. And the same is for Grandparents.

Some Brit in the dark ages when Britain ruled many counties, this was a law passed that no dads had any rights, nor Grandparents. Who ever it was who passed such a law, perhaps hated his family, or, lets make money for the courts and create employment and jobs for Solicitors Barristers and more. Think about it.


Maggie Tuttle
www.hrtsideeffets.com

copy sent to

info@fatherhood.org.au
traks

senator.bernardi@aph.gov.au
menshealth.sen@aph.gov.au

Subject: Fw: WORLD WIDE GRANDPARENTS REMEMBRANCE DAY - The Petition Site
please sign grandparents petition and forward please to all you know. we need one million signatures

Maggie
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/world-wide-grandparents-remembrance-day


Maggie Tuttle is endeavouring to help Grandparents BE grandparents. As society breaks down more and more family relationships are being broken and grandparents can be just as big as losers as some parents AND let's not forget the kids.

If you are a Grandparent and believe that we should be doing something to make the world a better place for our children and Grandchildren perhaps you could sign up for Maggie's list.

If Family Law and Welfare Agencies are involved in your life also consider the Rationshed which is run by Grandfather Jim.

Jim Bailey from Rationshed asks: please have a look at what we are up to and if appropriate come join using this link -
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/rationshed

PLEASE send these invitations to join Maggie Tuttle AND Rationshed to every Grandparent you know.

Yours Faithfully,
A. Mark Bourne.
Chairman Richard Hillman Foundation.
www.rhfinc.org.au

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Friday, February 27, 2009

Why Parental Alienation is the Act of an Emotionally Abusive Bully

Are you and your ex going through a difficult divorce or break up? Do you worry that she or he is turning your child(ren) against you? Are you shocked and confused by how your once warm and affectionate relationship with your kid(s) has become distant and hostile?

Parental alienation is no joke. It’s a form of child abuse. The custodial parent is usually the mother and it’s typically the custodial parent who engages in parental alienation. However, there are men who also engage in parental alienation.

Original research found women to be the perpetrators of this abusive behavior in 90% of reported cases. Recent research indicates both genders equally engage in parental alienation. It’s difficult to know the exact figures because of under-reporting, false accusations, and the positive bias toward mothers that’s rampant in most
family courts.


Profile of Parental Alienation

Individuals who engage in parental alienation are like the mean kids in high school who demand that their friends be angry with whomever they’re angry with and hate whomever they hate. In children, this phenomenon is called relational aggression. Now she or he is a parent. They’re mad because your relationship ended—even if they’re the one who initiated the break-up.
Your ex requires, implicitly or explicitly, that your child(ren) feel and act the same way she or he does. The parent who engages in alienation tactics enlists your children to take on his or her battle against you. This is not the act of a responsible, mature adult, much less a responsible, loving parent. This is a bullying behavior called
mobbing.

Bullying, Mobbing and Parental Alienation

Mobbing is usually written about in the context of workplace bullying, but that’s a limited use of the concept. It can occur in any kind of system, including a family system. Mobbing is the impassioned psychological harassment of one individual by a group. The attack is usually instigated and led by one or two people who are typically in a position of authority or a peer leader. The International Herald Tribune describes it as “group victimization of a single target” with the goal of demeaning, discrediting, alienating, excluding, humiliating, and isolating the targeted individual.

Mobbing ringleaders are bullies who try to dominate and control others in most situations and relationships. Namie and Namie (2000) describe them as, “inadequate, defective, and poorly developed people.” They’re generally angry, unpredictable, critical, jealous, and manipulative (Davenport, Schwartz and Elliot, 1999; Namie and Namie, 2000). The emotionally abusive bully who engages in mobbing (or parental alienation) revels in the excitement produced by their animosity. It produces a pleasurable buzz or rush in them. Westhues (2002) refers to this as “the euphoria of collective attack.” Sound familiar?

Parental Alienation and Personality Disorders

People that have no compunction about using their kids to hurt their exes seem to fit the profile of the emotionally abusive Cluster B personality disorders (Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder). These individuals play the professional victim as they emotionally bully anyone who confronts, challenges, or criticizes them. They don’t recognize appropriate boundaries, won’t accept personal responsibility for their actions—in fact, they blame you for the horrible things they do and always have an excuse to justify their indefensible behaviors.

If your ex is actively or passively alienating your child(ren)’s normal affection toward you, he or she was probably emotionally abusive while you were together. Parental alienation is her or his way of continuing to abuse and hurt you via remote access. Generally, most bullies don’t see themselves as such. If you confront your ex about this behavior, they’ll deny it and blame you for your deteriorating relationship with your child(ren), even as you make every effort to be a present and involved parent.

The only way to stop a bully is with the threat of a greater authority. Appealing to their “better nature” is futile. Emotionally abusive bullies don’t have a better nature. Attorneys and the courts will probably need to be involved as well as an UNBIASED children’s therapist and a lot of documentation. If you believe you’re the target of parental alienation, I encourage you to educate yourself about it and to know, protect and fight for your rights.

Note from the author: Two weeks ago, I was contacted by the gentleman who runs WashingtonSharedParenting.com and USSharedParenting.com. He invited me to be a guest blogger on these two sites because he values the information I offer on A Shrink for Men.

Writing about parental alienation isn’t a topic I planned to cover when I began this blog.

However, I considered his kind invitation and realized that parental alienation is another aspect of the emotionally abusive bully’s repertoire of behaviors and accepted his offer to guest blog.

This post will appear on WashingtonSharedParenting as well.

California Men’s Centers has also linked to my blog and Washington DV Press reposted one of my blogs to their site. I’m grateful and honored that they find my writing helpful to the populations they serve.

Photo credit:
Justice is blind by Professional Recreationalist on
flickr.

Why Parental Alienation is the Act of an Emotionally Abusive Bully « A Shrink for Men

My Two Cents -

I couldn't have said it better myself - I love the bluntness of this article as well as others on his site. I will put this web page in the links section as well as in my blog roll.

Please take a moment to thank the author for this fantastic article!

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Staten Island baby starved to death unnoticed by ACS

BY Oren Yaniv
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER
Wednesday, February 25th 2009, 1:04 AM

The city's Administration for Children's Services closed a probe regarding a Staten Island boy one day before his 7-week-old brother, Matthew Mason, starved to death, sources said Tuesday.
Joanna Fezza, 43, and Peter Mason, 47, pleaded guilty to second-degree manslaughter Monday, admitting they unintentionally starved their baby.

They are expected to be released from jail next week for time served.

The ACS flatly declined to comment yesterday on the family history of little Matthew, who weighed only 2 pounds when a relative found him dead last March.

The agency had monitored the parents since Matthew's 5-year-old brother was 8 months old, and caseworkers had visited the home after Matthew was born, a law enforcement source said.

The older brother's case was closed without further action being taken. Matthew, who was never the subject of any investigation, died the next day from bronchopneumonia due to malnutrition.

Their parents had completed training programs suggested by ACS, the source said. Both were described as having "a very low IQ."

The older child is now in foster care, and the couple was banned from contacting him for at least eight years, court papers show.

Another source said the older boy had also suffered from malnutrition and asthma, adding that the mother was bulimic and fed him a candy-only diet.

Assistant District Attorney Karen Varriale told a judge that Matthew's death wasn't caused by an "intentional act," but "the parents failed to feed the child properly."

Fezza and Mason, who already served eight months in jail, are expected to be released March 6 after the one-year sentence agreed upon in their plea deal is accepted.

News that the couple will soon be back on the streets outraged neighbors.

"I can't believe they're letting them out," said a man who lives near their decrepit Oder Ave. home, where highchairs and small mattresses were strewn outside Tuesday amid garbage bags.

"That's disgusting," he said.

A man who works in a nearby deli and gave his name as Charlie said he used to see the couple walking around the neighborhood at all hours idly pushing a shopping cart.

"It doesn't make sense," he said of their impending release. "They should get psychiatric help or something."

With Kathleen Lucadamo


oyaniv@nydailynews.com

Staten Island baby starved to death unnoticed by ACS

My Two Cents-

While children are dying like this poor baby - in Richmond County .. child "protective" services is off "legally kidnapping" innocent children like mine.. who were never abused and there was AMPLE DOCUMENTED PROOF that they weren't abused!!!

When my day in court comes for the Malicious Prosecution and Negligent Misrepresentation lawsuit I've filed against them.. I'll keep these innocent and now dead children in the front of my mind!

Child protective services needs to be eradicated! Let the neighbors take care of child abusers!

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Hanged teen was in jail for ignoring protection order

BY LAURA RIVERA AND ERIK GERMAN laura.rivera@newsday.com
8:47 PM EST, February 23, 2009


The teenager who apparently hanged himself in his jail cell in Riverhead was there because he wouldn't stop calling his former girlfriend, despite court orders to leave her alone, according to law enforcement officials.

On Jan. 15, Jesse Haszinger, 17, of Lindenhurst, was jailed for repeatedly violating an order of protection that barred him from calling or visiting his former girlfriend, authorities said. He had been out of prison for just a week, after serving two years for breaking into her home.

Officials with the sheriff's department said they had received no indication that Haszinger was a suicide risk.

Suffolk County Court Judge Ralph Gazzillo issued the protection order on Nov. 20, 2007, after Haszinger pleaded guilty to charges that he broke into his former girlfriend's Copiague home and attacked her. Newsday is not identifying her because she is a minor.

Haszinger climbed in the girl's bedroom window, confronted her about their recent breakup, then pounced, according to a statement she gave to police on April 29, 2007.

"Both of his hands were around my neck, he squeezed real hard and hurt my neck real bad," the statement said.

In his statement to police, Haszinger said he'd just come to talk things over. "I wanted to tell her I don't want to be your boyfriend but I still wanted to be your friend," he said in the statement. "All I wanted to do was talk but she wouldn't listen."

Haszinger, then 16, was initially charged with burglary, assault and harassment, but he pleaded guilty to second-degree attempted burglary in a deal that sent him to prison for two years, records show.

Haszinger's lawyer in the case, Jason Bassett of Central Islip, declined to comment.

Haszinger was released on Jan. 8. Haszinger then made several calls between Jan. 11 and 15 in violation of the protection order, said Suffolk district attorney's office spokesman Robert Clifford. Haszinger was charged with second-degree criminal contempt, a misdemeanor, and violation of parole.

At about 9 p.m. Saturday, a correction officer on his rounds found Haszinger hanging from the bars of his jail cell, a piece of bed sheet tied around his neck, according to Chief of Staff Michael Sharkey of the Suffolk Sheriff's Office.

The department's criminal investigations bureau is investigating the death as a suicide, he said. Haszinger's 18th birthday would have been Wednesday.

For more than five weeks, Haszinger was housed in a one-person cell among the general population in a section for minors, Sharkey said.

Haszinger was not on suicide watch, Sharkey said, because the teen had been evaluated by mental health professionals at the jail and found to pose no suicide risk.

Correction officers are required to conduct rounds of each section every 10 minutes, on average, Sharkey said.

When Haszinger was found, prisoners were in their cells for an inmate count, Sharkey said.

Heather Groll, a spokeswoman for the state Division of Parole, said Haszinger violated his parole "by repeatedly attempting to contact a person that he was instructed not to contact."


Hanged teen was in jail for ignoring protection order -- Newsday.com

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Monday, February 23, 2009

5-Year-Old Tattles; Mom Arrested for Attempted Murder

NBC LosAngeles.com
Sun., Feb. 22, 2009

LOS ANGELES -- Three people were in jail Thursday on suspicion of attempted murder for a drive-by shooting in South Los Angeles that wounded a 7-year-old girl, and police said the gunfire was not gang-related, but the result of a child-custody dispute involving a 5-year-old girl.

Toni Valentine, 29, is accused of driving a van, with her 5-year-old daughter inside, to her ex-husband's home in the 300 block of West 47th Street, around 7:25 p.m. Tuesday, according to the Los Angeles Police Department.

Valentine's boyfriend, Dante Quezada, 32, allegedly got out of the van and opened fire at the house, injuring the 7-year-old girl -- who is the niece of Valentine's ex-husband, police said. Quezada is a known gang member, police said.

The girl, whose name was withheld, was with her grandparents when she was wounded. She remains hospitalized in serious but stable condition.

Police, who initially said the shooting was gang-related, now believe the motive for the shooting was an ongoing child custody dispute between Valentine and her ex-husband, said LAPD Officer Jason Lee. The ex-husband was not home at the time of the shooting.

"Although this is not a gang motivated crime, the M.O. in this case is unfortunately all too emblematic of the way the gangs in our city operate, and I suspect that Mr. Quezada learned the cowardly little trick of shooting into the house blindly," said LAPD Deputy Chief Sergio Diaz.

Valentine and Quezada used 36-year-old Felipe Carias' van to commit the drive-by shooting, and Carias provided the weapon, police said. Police believe Carias was also in the van when the shooting occurred.

Police said Quezada got out and "fired numerous rounds into the residence, striking the 7-year-old girl" in the arm and chest.

Valentine, Quezada and Carias were all arrested Wednesday night and booked on suspicion of attempted murder. They were each being held in lieu of $500,000 bail.



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Child to be tried for murder of pregnant woman

UPDATE from -

Disgusted with the system: 11 Year Old Slays His Dad's Gal - Pregnant Victim Shot

As we Americans observe the world's battles we notice that children are in the thick of it.

They are soldiers; they are killers.

Some of us wonder how children can be involved in such things.

Are they forced into service?

Do they volunteer?

Either way, we are often alarmed that such seemingly naive, delicate individuals could be a part of such heinous acts.

We look at our own children and think there is no way they could ever participate in such activities.

We cannot imagine that our nieces, nephews, and grandchildren could possibly be so brutal.And then we turn on the news...

What is going on?

Yet another child is being charged with murder just as the case involving a 8-year-old killer ends.

This time, the boy is 11-year-old Jordan Brown of Wampum, Pennsylvania.

It was reported that on Friday before the fifth grader boarded the bus to go to school, he allegedly shot and killed his father's fiancee.

Jordan was taken into custody after police discovered the body of 26-year-old Kenzie Marie Houk. She had been fatally shot in the back of the head with a 20-gauge shotgun while she lay in bed. She was eight months pregnant. The unborn child died within minutes, according to the report, due to a lack of oxygen.

It was said that there were problems with Jordan and that he had told another boy that he wanted to kill Kenzie. Jealousy was suspected.

Apparently, Kenzie's 4-year-old daughter told some people who were cutting trees on the property that her mommy was dead. They alerted the police.

It was reported that Jordan led police on a wild goose chase by telling them that there had been a black truck on the property when he left for school. But police officials began noticing inconsistencies in Jordan's story so they reinterviewed Kenzie's 7-year-old daughter.

The 7-year-old daughter told police officers that she saw Jordan with what she thought was a gun and heard a loud bang. Officers found the shotgun in what they believed to be Jordan's bedroom.

Jordan was charged on Saturday, as an adult, for Kenzie's murder. On Monday, defense attorney Dennis Elisco intends to ask that the boy be released on bail and that the case be referred to juvenile court.

It was reported that Jordan's father was "in a state of actual shock and disbelief." He reportedly was not aware that Jordan had a problem with Kenzie.

The gun that Jordan allegedly used was a youth model that belonged to him. He and his father used to go hunting together.

Jordan's preliminary hearing is set for Thursday. In the meantime, he is being held in Lawrence County Jail.

Everyday People Examiner: Child to be tried for murder of pregnant woman

My Two Cents-

I've said it once.. I've said it twice.. I've said it 100 times.. what is going on with our children? Does anyone care? This is an ELEVEN YEAR OLD in this story- the story referenced in the above article was A CHILD OF EIGHT YEARS OLD that allegedly killed his father and his fathers friend?

WHAT HAVE WE DONE AS A SOCIETY TO OUR CHILDREN?


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Teen found hanged in Suffolk County jail

A 17-year-old jailed on a criminal contempt charge was found hanging from a piece of sheet in his maximum security cell at Suffolk County jail, authorities said.

The teen's death is being considered a suicide, said Chief Michael Sharkey of the Suffolk County Sheriff's Department. A cause of death will be determined by the county medical examiner.

A correction officer found Jesse Haszinger, of Lindenhurst, hanging from the bars of his single-person cell at about 9 p.m. Saturday, Sharkey said.

Haszinger had been held since Jan. 15 in the Riverhead jail, Sharkey said, in an area for minors that houses inmates 18 years and younger.

He had been charged as an adult, Sharkey said.

A woman who answered the door at Haszinger's family's Lindenhurst home Sunday night said the family did not wish to comment.


Teen found hanged in Suffolk County jail -- Newsday.com

My Two Cents-

What the hell is going on?

This CHILD is 17 years old - how the &%$@ as a society can we be ok with this?

What led to this child needing to be in maximum security?

What went so wrong in his life?

Who caused it?

Wake up people - these children are our future - we are ALL responsible!

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Domestic violence: Men are victims of abuse, too

BY DOUG HARLOW
Staff Writer
02/22/2009

HARMONY --

Every 21 seconds, somewhere in America a woman is raped or battered, according to a November 2000 Department of Justice report on the National Violence Against Women survey.

And every 38 seconds, somewhere in America a man is battered or raped by his intimate partner.

An estimated 1.5 million women and 835,000 men are the victims of domestic violence each year.

The reports show a raw, new face of spousal abuse -- where men and boys are also victims, said Jan Brown, director and founder of Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women, based in Harmony.

Brown, 52, and members of her support staff are to be the subjects of an upcoming documentary about male victims of domestic violence. The one-hour documentary is part of the series called "Secret Lives of Women" and will be aired this spring on WE tv, a cable-TV outlet.

"For 30 years, we've giving women more rights than men," Brown said in a recent interview at her rural home. "That's what has developed over the last 30 years; the pendulum has swung way too far."

Brown said the general public was previously taught domestic violence happens because of men's need to dominate and control women. While that may have appeared to be the case in the 1950s and 60s, it isn't today. Women aren't all at home taking care of the kids, but have high-paying jobs. In some cases, it's the man who is home taking care of the children.

"We've switched that around, (so) why do we have this antiquated belief about domestic violence?" Brown said.

Nick Verbitsky, with his brother Paul, and Blue Chip Films, a production company from Norwalk, Conn., traveled to Harmony recently to film the documentary.

"(Brown) is going to be part of the piece," Nick Verbitsky said during a break from the filming. "We're profiling a few different people; other people who have been the victims and we have one woman who's admitting to abusing her domestic partner. How we got involved with Jan was just the fact that she's kind of one of the only ports in the storm for any man who is involved in a domestic violence situation; not just in Maine, in the whole country.

"It's astounding how few services are available for men all over this country. They're almost nonexistent."

Another subject of the Blue Chip documentary is David Woods, a man from Sacramento, Calif., who was involved in a landmark lawsuit when he sued the state of California for domestic violence services for men, not just women.

"What (Brown) does is inspiring on a number of different levels, not the least of which is she's doing it with almost no funding and the fact that she's really dedicated her life to helping men who are in these situations," Verbitsky said. "Because really, when you talk to these men as I have over the past year researching this project, they're just in such desperate straits -- financially, emotionally -- and there's literally nobody out there to help them and Jan is that port in the storm."

Lyn Wright of York County is involved with Brown doing court advocacy work for men who believe the system does not work for them.

"Typically I get calls from Jan for men who have been abused and are in an abusive situation and I go into court with them and support them," Wright said. "Thirty to 35 percent of all victims are men. That comes from a study in 2000 by the Department of Justice that said that 835,000 men are physically assaulted annually by their intimate partners."

Brown said the stigma of men taking an abuse case to court or reporting domestic violence often prevents men from reporting.

That's where her agency comes in.

The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women is a 501(c)(3) non profit organization, and is a member of the Maine Association of Nonprofits.

Brown said she has been running the 24-hour-a-day, all-volunteer hotline for eight years, generating most of her contacts via the Internet.

"We have a Web site and a toll-free hotline, nationally," she said. "People call the line and we have trained advocates -- we have an online training course -- we do everything pretty much by phone or Internet, e-mail, chat rooms, that kind of stuff."

Brown said her group takes the calls and offers safety plans and counseling, offers advice on getting court orders and contacting police.

There are five volunteers in Maine.

"We've been around eight years, but the fact of the matter is we're not well known in the state as far as having the ability to reach out," Brown said. "That's our challenge: Getting the information out there. We don't get a ton of calls from Maine, yet, because I don't think we're visible in Maine. We're visible on the Internet, we're national and we're virtual.

"I have 27 other people in other states that help with the help line. The help line is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week. We get 500-600 calls a month from all over the country."

Brown said her group's help line information is available in some telephone books and on data bases for mental health and domestic violence hotlines and "2-1-1" information lines.

Brown said she sometimes works for stipends when grant money is available and from private donations, but for the most part, she does not get paid very much for her efforts. She and her husband Tedd rely on his oil burner service and repair business to make ends meet.

So why do this?

"A friend came to me for help," she said. "He was a male friend in a situation like this and I looked around and discovered men were ignored and turned away. Basically there was no help for them, so I said if not me, who?"

Doug Harlow -- 474-9534 ext. 342

dharlow@centralmaine.com


Domestic violence: Men are victims of abuse, too

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Judge: No Visitation for Amber Alert Mom

TACOMA, Wash. -

The woman at the center of Wednesday's Amber Alert now says it was all a misunderstanding, and now she's worried about her kids' safety.

But the state says a physical exam found purposefully inflicted injuries on the children dating from the time when they were in the mother's care, and it's not safe for the kids to be with her.

Tivice Evans went before a Pierce County Juvenile Court judge Thursday to determine who would get immediate custody of her two children, about 24 hours after she took them during a state-supervised visit.

But by the end of the hearing, Evans had not only lost custody of her kids, she had lost all her visitation rights as well - at least for the time being.

Thursday's hearing was scheduled before she took her kids and the Amber Alert was issued, but it took on new importance in light of the latest developments.

The series of events began Feb. 11, when the state took Tivice Evan's two young children from her home.

The action was taken following accusations of negligent treatment or maltreatment of the kids by Evans, and physical abuse by her boyfriend, Ahzariyah Yasharahla.

"OK, a neighbor says they heard me beating a child, but nobody ever seen me there, you know why, because I was never there so how can they hear me beating anybody?" Yasharahla says.

Evans stands behind her boyfriend.

"It's so false that I'm not even worried about it," she says.

Evans said social workers misinterpreted her son's skin condition and the resulting sores as signs of abuse by her boyfriend.

But doctors who examined lesions on the 3-year-old child’s back said the mother’s explanation of skin sensitivity is not consistent with the injuries.

The doctors' report noted multiple areas of healed or healing injuries, many of which were patterned scars not typical of accidental injuries. Medical personnel concluded that these were inflicted injuries.

While the investigation continued, the state allowed Evans to have a supervised visit with her children Wednesday, and that's when police say she walked out with them.

"I haven't seen my children for seven days," she said later.

Hours after the Amber Alert was issued, the kids were found inside the St. John Baptist Church at 2001 South "J" Street, at around 6:30 p.m. One-year-old Zariyah Brown and 3-year-old Deon Brown did not appear to be harmed.

The children were found in the company of their mother and her boyfriend. State officials took the children back into custody.

In court Thursday, state Assistant Attorney General Jon Morrone asked the judge to deny any visitation at all, and the judge agreed.

"Their safety is paramount so we have to be sure that their safety is insured as much as possible," Morrone says.

Until the investigation is finished, the kids are in foster care.

It will be at least a week before Evans can see her children again. She heads back to court next week for another hearing.

Meanwhile, police are still investigating what happened Wednesday, that led to the Amber Alert.

The state says Evans knew she did not have custody, but she says she didn't know it was illegal to take her children from that visit.

In the meantime, she says she's concerned for the health of her children, espeically her daughter, who has eczema.

"They don't take care of her like a parent should, because they don't care," she says.



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My Two Cents-

The mother in this story needs to open her eyes and stop being so trusting of "our system"

PLEASE... if you are reading this and you know this woman personally .. LISTEN CAREFULLY to what I'm going to say!

Her statement above "It's so false that I'm not even worried about it" will cause her much pain in the future- tell her those words are VERY DANGEROUS to her and her children's well being!

Child Protective Services has federal funding going to the states for every child they "save" from abuse! That same federal funding is being used as an INCENTIVE to legally kidnap our children!!!

False allegations or not this woman needs to step it up and take this serious VERY SERIOUSLY!!

Find an attorney that will fight these animals- there aren't many- get references- don't sign anything and don't believe a word of what they tell you - go read and find out for yourself!

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Sunday, February 22, 2009

Judge Guilty in Kickbacks Is Accused of Fixing Suit

A Pennsylvania judge who pleaded guilty last week to taking part in a kickback scheme has been accused by a Wilkes-Barre newspaper of fixing an unrelated defamation case in which he ordered the paper to pay $3.5 million.

The accusation was filed Thursday with the State Supreme Court in a petition asking that the award be overturned. The petition maintains that the former judge, Mark A. Ciavarella Jr., may have had close ties to a reputed mobster at the heart of the defamation case and that the award should be reviewed in light of the corruption to which Mr. Ciavarella has now admitted.

The filing, by The Citizens Voice, comes as the list of possible conspirators continues to grow in the kickback case, one of the worst episodes of judicial misconduct in Pennsylvania history. In that case, Mr. Ciavarella and Michael T. Conahan, a judge with whom he worked in the court system of Luzerne County, in northeastern Pennsylvania, pleaded guilty last week in a federal court in Scranton to wire fraud and conspiracy.

Prosecutors say the judges took payoffs of more than $2.6 million to send teenagers to two privately run youth detention centers. Their plea agreements call for sentences of more than seven years in prison.

In the latest turn in that case, federal officials on Friday charged a high-ranking Luzerne County probation official, Sandra Brulo, with obstructing justice and altering an official record.

Ms. Brulo is a defendant in a class-action lawsuit filed by families of juveniles who appeared before the two judges, and her lawyer quoted prosecutors as saying that she had altered the document so as to hide her culpability. The lawyer, Joseph Sklarosky Sr., declined to comment further, and the nature of the culpability attributed to Ms. Brulo is unclear.

Federal authorities said that their corruption investigation in the county was far from finished and that others might be charged in coming weeks.

As for the defamation judgment, it dates from 2006, when Judge Ciavarella awarded $2 million to a businessman, Thomas Joseph, and $1.5 million to Mr. Joseph’s direct-mail marketing firm.
Mr. Joseph had sued The Citizens Voice over a series of articles that tied him to a money-laundering case involving William D’Elia, reputed head of the Bufalino crime family in northeastern Pennsylvania, who had been convicted of witness tampering and conspiracy to launder drug money.


In its new petition, the paper said Judges Ciavarella and Conahan had improperly ensured control of the case by skirting established procedures for the assigning of cases and getting this one routed to themselves.

They had help in this, the petition said, from the court administrator, William Sharkey, Judge Conahan’s cousin. Mr. Sharkey pleaded guilty this week to stealing $70,000 in illegal gambling proceeds that were to be turned over to the county treasurer’s office.

The newspaper said the recent developments in the continuing investigation of the former judges’ conduct on the bench “have fueled rampant rumors and speculation that Judge Conahan and Judge Ciavarella were fixing cases at the behest of William D’Elia.”

And, it said, it has a witness who can testify that Judge Ciavarella or Judge Conahan, or both, had direct connections to Mr. D’Elia. The witness was not identified.

Lawyers for the two former judges declined to comment.

The authorities say the two judges initiated the scheme of kickbacks from the privately run juvenile detention centers by first shutting down a county-owned center, claiming that it was in poor condition. This week the union representing employees who were laid off when the facility was closed sent a letter to county officials demanding redress.

The union, the American Federation of State, County and Municipal Employees, which represented the 16 full-time child care workers who lost their jobs, said they should be offered reinstatement with the county and be “made whole for any damages they may have suffered.”

Judge Guilty in Kickbacks Is Accused of Fixing Suit - NYTimes.com

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Parental Influence

I came accross this article this morning.. which in part states...

"I have seen firsthand that parent alienation syndrome is very real and have known many adult friends and family members who look back and see that they were brainwashed to hate their other parent for no good cause. They realize now that they were merely pawns in their primary parent’s vindictive game to hurt their non-custodial parent"...

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Parental influence can’t be overlooked www.tennessean.com The Tennessean

Since I'm dealing with an adult who is still very influenced by thier dominating mother.. as well as being a moter myself who's own children have been turned against me... I won't stop until socioty does something about these manipulative controlling parent's out for thier own agendas at the risk of innocent children!

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11 Year Old Slays His Dad's Gal - Pregnant Victim Shot


By JULIA DAHL and ANGELA MONTEFINISE, Post Wire Services

GUN HORROR: Jordan Brown (top left), 11, allegedly shot pregnant Kenzie Houk (top right), his dad's girlfriend, in this Wampum, Pa., house (bottom).

Last updated: 4:05 am
February 22, 2009

A baby-faced 11-year-old Pennsylvania boy killed his father's pregnant fiancée with a kiddie shotgun - and then hopped on the bus to school, authorities said yesterday.

Jordan Brown allegedly shot Kenzie Houk, 26, in the back of the head as she lay in her bed in the family home in Wampum, Pa. - a rural area about 45 miles from Pittsburgh - Friday at around 8 a.m., in an apparent jealous rage over the baby on the way.

"There was an issue with jealousy. He told my son stuff," said Houk's brother-in-law, Jason Kraner, 34, who described the boy as "rough."

"He actually told my son that he wanted to do that to her."

The fifth-grader then took a school bus to Mohawk Elementary, leaving the victim, who was eight months pregnant, to die, according to New Castle State Police Lt. Steve Ignatz.

Houk's 4-year-old daughter, who was eating breakfast and watching cartoons as the bloodshed unfolded, made the startling discovery about an hour later.


The terrified child ran outside in her pajamas and told tree-trimmers her mom was dead.

Houk's unborn child - a 7-pound, 4-ounce boy - died minutes after his mom from lack of oxygen, said Lawrence County Coroner Russell Noga.

Brown was yanked out of school at 11 a.m. and questioned by State Police, said Lawrence County District Attorney John Bongivengo.

Initially, the boy told police he'd seen a suspicious black truck on the property, sending investigators on a wild goose chase for several hours.

But the story fell apart when police re-interviewed Houk's daughter, 7, who was also at home at the time of the shooting.

The girl said she "heard a loud bang" and saw Brown with what she thought was a shotgun, according to Bongivengo.

A "youth"-sized 20-guage rifle, a model designed for children for which registration is not required, was later found in the home, investigators said. Relatives said the boy hunted regularly with his father.

At about 3:30 a.m., Brown was arrested and charged as an adult with two counts of criminal homicide, officials said.

The victim's distraught father, Jack, was trying to make sense of the bloodshed.

"An 11-year-old kid - what would give him the motive to shoot someone?" he asked.

"Maybe he was just jealous of my daughter and the baby and thought he would be overpowered."

The horrific shooting also baffled other relatives, who told The Post yesterday that Houk lived happily with Jordan and his dad, Chris Brown.

"Kenzie loved [Jordan]," said Alaina Kraner, Kenzie's sister-in-law. "She was a part of the family. We've all gone camping together and he wasn't a bad kid or anything.

"Kenzie never had problems with Jordan. Everybody got along with Kenzie, especially kids.
My Two Cents -
When is the public going to open thier eyes?
When you were growing up how many of these kinds of stories did you hear in your childhooh?
None? Me either !!
Children were jealous back then as well... children didn't want to get spanked back then as well (refering to the case out in texas where the allegations were that the 8 yeaar old shot his father and his fathers friend because he did't want to get spanked again...
People wake up! What is going on in our world with Child Services .. Parent Alienation and with the big pharma co's drugging our children is and will continue to cause destruction of families well into the next FEW generations!
When will we as parents say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH - Get out of our lives and let us raise our children!!
Of course there are parent's that should be sterilized and never even allowed to lay eyes on thier children again.. but those are few and far between - the rest of the destruction is because of money! Did this child kill the fathers girlfriend because of money - of course not - but if our socioty were as it is.. I'll bet that childs thoughts of killing this prenant woman would have stayed just that.. the thoughts of a child jealous that he will have to share his paren't love!
(CBS) An organization offering free, constant care for the octuplets born late last month and their six young siblings says it hasn't heard back yet from their mother, Nadya Suleman.

Angels in Waiting estimates that such care would cost $130,000 a month.

Suleman has drawn the wrath of many in California since word got out that her family will rely heavily on government assistance to pay for raising her kids.

On The Early Show Friday, attorney Gloria Allred explained to co-anchor Julie Chen that, "Last week, unbeknownst to Angels in Waiting, I contacted the Department of Children and Family Services in Los Angeles County. I filed a complaint to ask them to open an investigation into whether these babies, these octuplets, in addition to the six siblings, were possibly endangered because the octuplets are soon going to come out of the hospital. And the grandmother had indicated that she didn't think her daughter, Nadya, was capable of caring for them.

"At the same time, Angels in Waiting, a wonderful organization with a registered nurse, with prenatal care, neonatal intensive care for medically-fragile infants, had contacted Nadya, or tried to ... to say that this is what they do: They provide for the care of high-risk, premature, medically-fragile infants, and they would be willing to provide 24/7 care to these babies when they come out of the hospital. In fact, to the siblings, as well, with nurses and educational development specialists. And so, when Nadya didn't respond to this offer, which is so important to these babies' development, then we had a news conference and made that offer public to Nadya."

Allred pointed out that, "They would all be together in a home if the Angels in Waiting offer is accepted. If not, then they may be taken by the Department of Children Services, placed in foster care, all children put in different homes, and they won't get the care from public agencies because of budget restrictions that they would get from angels in waiting." Also, Nadya cold stay in the home with them if she takes Angels in Waiting up on its offer.

Angels in Waiting founder Linda West Conforti, a registered nurse herself, told Chen all 14 "kids would come in. We have a property that's set up. And that's why I contacted Gloria, because time is of the essence here. We have to -- you know, we have the property, but we have to make a home. It will take two days just to put 14 beds together, eight of them being cribs. And I was really concerned when I watched (a TV) special. I saw how small these preemies were. And I'm set up for it. I have occupational therapists. I have physical therapists. I have behavioral feedback doctors. It's all on board to help these kids.

"We're looking for donations" to provide the funds needed for their care, and for therapy for Suleman, Conforti added.

An infant developmental needs expert for Angels in Waiting, Jackie Peebles, says, "Preemies that are born at such an early age, they're two-and-a-half months early at this time, the brain development is so crucial. They need to be -- to have the care that they are going to have to be successful. Brain implanting that these babies need, you know, they need constant rocking. They need the same patterning so that the brain will pattern right and that they can start developing. If they don't, then a lot of the time, the statistics are out there that these babies will end up with failure to thrive and have other issues."


Octuplets Mom Spurning Offer Of Free Care...

Octuplets' Family Facing Foreclosure

Octuplets' Grandma On Plastic Surgery Talk

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Friday, February 20, 2009

Foster Care Scam Grows By 155 G

Wednesday, February 11th 2009, 7:15 PM

Three women took $155,000 in city funds to care for foster kids they never saw, federal prosecutors said Wednesday as their probe into sham adoption subsidies widened.

Mother and daughter Oletha Rhodes and Tammy Moore took $100,000 in welfare subsidies, Manhattan federal prosecutors said. The money was funneled their way by Nigel Osarenkhoe, a former adoptions supervisor for the city's Administration for Children's Services, prosecutors say.

Rhodes works as a lunchroom aide at Queens Vocational High School and Moore is a seasonal employee for the city's Housing Authority who used to work at ACS.

Also charged was Brenda Towe, a relative of a dead ACS employee, who's accused of accepting $55,000 in bogus subsidies.

Of the three, only Rhodes cared for foster kids, and she took more money than she was entitled to, prosecutors said.

In exchange for kickbacks, Osarenkhoe doled out $578,000 in adoption subsidies to numerous individuals by claiming they needed the cash to care for hard-to-place foster kids, prosecutors say.

Also yesterday, accused co-conspirator Philbert Gorrick, 54, pleaded guilty to accepting $375,000 in illegal payments from former ACS official Lethem Duncan.

Foster-care scam grows by $155G

My Two Cents-

What's that I always say? FOLLOW THE MONEY! Ohh yeah that's it!

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Thanks Rolando for this article!

Boy, 9, pleads guilty in killings

UPADTE -

A 9-year-old boy was accused of shooting his father and a family friend in St. Johns, Ariz. The boy pleaded guilty Thursday to a single count of negligent homicide.

ST. JOHNS, Ariz —

A 9-year-old Arizona boy accused of killing his father and another man pleaded guilty Thursday to one count of negligent homicide in juvenile court, avoiding an adult murder trial while virtually assuring judicial supervision until he turns 18.
The third-grader was accused of shooting his 29-year-old father as well as family friend Tim Romans, 39, with a .22 rifle Nov. 5. He pleaded guilty in the death of Romans. The charge for the death of his father was dropped in exchange for the plea.

USA TODAY is not naming the defendant or family members because of the boy's age.

Judge Michael Roca of Apache County Juvenile Court will sentence the boy after reviewing the results of court-ordered evaluations. The sentence could include intensive probation, counseling and possible jail time.

FIND MORE STORIES IN: United States Arizona Arizona Republic St. Johns Vincent Romero Whiting Benjamin Brewer Timothy Romans Ron Wood Roca Mike Morgan Tim Romans Arizona Child Protective Services
Under the agreement, the boy faces follow-up evaluations at ages 12 and 15 and before his 18th birthday. The boy won't be allowed to enroll in any public or private school unless evaluations determine that he doesn't pose a threat to himself or anyone else.

The boy is due back in court for a pre-sentencing hearing March 5.

In court Thursday, he was attentive and clear-eyed. He leaned to the microphone and answered the judge with "yes, sir" and "no, sir" responses.

Defense attorney Ron Wood said that he believed the boy understood the plea and that its acceptance by Roca was in the boy's best interest. Wood said the boy's mother "does not believe that her son, given his age, understands what he's being asked to plead guilty to, and the consequences of it. … The mother doesn't believe he did this (murder)."

The case generated international attention because the child was 8 at the time of the slayings and because investigators early on released a controversial videotaped confession.

Police interviewed dozens of family members and friends, most of whom described the suspect as a normal kid with good parents, according to court records. Others suggested the crime was planned after the child set a limit on the number of spankings he would tolerate, court records show.

Although the boy confessed, prosecutors would have faced challenges if they'd elected to try him as an adult. No child 8 years old or younger committed homicide in the USA during 2005-2007, according to FBI statistics.

Also, the confession was thrown out because detectives did not read the boy his rights or allow a family member or lawyer in the room.

"I think that the good thing about it is he's going to be in the court's jurisdiction to get some psychological help for years to come. That's what he needs," said Mike Morgan, football coach at St. Johns High. "You don't want to come into adulthood and have it affect him there, too."

Wagner reports for The Arizona Republic. Contributing: Associated Press


Boy, 9, pleads guilty in killings - USATODAY.com

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Some attribute child abuse spike to recession

Readers.. don't for a second think I'm posting this article for face value.

We all know child abuse IS NOT on the rise..

However.. CHILD ABUSE CLAIMS ARE ON THE RISE.. removal of safe children from good homes is REALLY whats on the rise..

Don't believe me? Follow the money oh ye easily fooled one!

Title IV Federal Funding goes to the states per "child or woman they save" yeah ok save.. my
*#@!*&^%

They should say .. for every false child abuse claim they can muster up.. and make up reasons to remove perfectly healthy and safe children from good homes... and for every false D.V restraing order they can get filed!


Meanwhile REAL ABUSED women like myself like Jessica Gonzalez like Karlene Gordon and MANY OTHERS get ignored while the ones that file false allegations get the royal treatment?

Oh yeah.. I think I've got it.. they're willing to play the game.. and we're not.. yep that sounds about right! )&^$%$ them all I'll never "play" the game.. this is real life no time for games wake up people!

How is it that the general public still believes this BS?

Some attribute child abuse spike to recession

The stream of abused children into Nassau University Medical Center is relentless and growing.

But what's more disturbing, says the East Meadow hospital's child abuse specialist, Dr. Bella Silecchia, is a shift in their problems: long-untreated broken bones, severe malnourishment and children who "are homeless and out stealing and begging."

"I have no hard proof, but my feeling is this is related to the economy," Silecchia said. "I come from Brooklyn, that's where I was trained, and this is what we used to see in the city, not [in one of the richest counties] in the country."

Nassau Child Protective Services investigated record numbers of child abuse and neglect reports last year, a 9 percent increase that county officials and some social workers attribute in part to the recession.

"It's the economy, that's the No. 1 reason," said Cynthia Scott, executive director of the Coalition Against Child Abuse and Neglect, based in Garden City.

Officials with the state and Suffolk - both of which also had record child abuse and neglect cases - aren't so sure, citing other factors like high-profile cases and a change in state law.

But other counties, cities and states have begun asking the same question as Nassau: "Is the increase in child abuse and neglect reports related to the economy?" said Connie Hayek, director of national data analysis at the Child Welfare League of America.

On Thursday, the league sent out a survey to child welfare agencies in all 50 states, asking about abuse and neglect reports, how many were substantiated and whether applications had jumped for programs such as food stamps or welfare.

"I wanted to get at what's happening on the ground," Hayek said. "It is known that unemployment is correlated with child abuse and neglect."

John Imhof, Nassau commissioner of the Department of Social Services, said he also ordered a data review to see if a concrete link can be made between the recession and the spike in child abuse cases.

And yet the "hard proof" linking the spike to the economy may be hard to come by, some child welfare experts say.

After the Sept. 11, 2001, terror attacks, when the economy soured and unemployment rose 1 point, child abuse and neglect reports decreased in 2002, according to the federal Administration for Children and Families.

"In general, I don't think you're going to see some huge spike in numbers because of the economy," said Julie Altman, an associate professor at the Adelphi University School of Social Work. She noted that abuse and neglect reports have, generally, been increasing nationwide for the past six years.

In New York and Long Island, abuse reports have fluctuated, hitting a record high in 2008 of about 17,000 in Nassau and Suffolk and more than 160,000 statewide. That spike came as Long Island's welfare rolls hit the highest level since 1999, state records show.

For now, county officials like Imhof are relying on anecdotes from caseworkers and nonprofit agencies, which suggest that abuse and neglect cases more often come with a back story of financial stress at home.

Silecchia said she is seeing more unexplained broken bones in children age 3 and younger. Their guardians are often single mothers, she said, or fathers "who are not working, who are home all the time, men who may have lost their jobs."

Scott said: "A lot of these parents are unemployed. ... They're worried about, 'Do I pay the rent or put food on the table,' and then you have a crying baby."

Just when advocates say child abuse prevention programs are needed most, a sputtering economy likely means they will be cut. Gov. David A. Paterson has proposed a 25 percent cut to Healthy Families New York, which has an office in Bay Shore and helps young, low-income parents find infant medical care, manage domestic problems and get jobs.

"The choice to cut that funding ... is recklessly putting children in harm's way," said Jennifer Matrazzo, a spokeswoman for Albany-based Prevent Child Abuse.

Edward Borges, spokesman for the New York State Office of Children and Family Services, which pays for Healthy Families New York, said: "The state is facing a $15 billion budget deficit, forcing us to go through all our programs and to look for some savings."

Making the connection

Poverty and financial stress. The two leading causes of child abuse and neglect are more widespread during a recession.

No job, no health care. Uninsured parents are more likely to delay medical care for their children, which can result in being accused of medical neglect.

Reduced supervision. Financially unstable parents often have less time to watch their children, leading to more reports of inadequate guardianship.

Emotional problems. Parents with substance abuse problems and depression - more prevalent during bad economic times - are more likely to physically abuse children.

Government's role. Fiscal woes often result in cuts to child abuse prevention programs.

Some attribute child abuse spike to recession -- Newsday.com

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Heres Another on Persuasion PA/PAS

Man oh man.. here's a little more on the subject ..

Persuasion Techniques


Persuasion isn't technically brainwashing but it is the manipulation of the human mind by another individual, without the manipulated party being aware what caused his opinion shift. I only have time to very basically introduce you to a few of the thousands of techniques in use today, but the basis of persuasion is always to access your RIGHT BRAIN.

The left half of your brain is analytical and rational. The right side is creative and imaginative. That is overly simplified but it makes my point. So, the idea is to distract the left brain and keep it busy. Ideally, the persuader generates an eyes-open altered state of consciousness, causing you to shift from beta awareness into alpha; this can be measured on an EEG machine.

(some more of what I posted yesterday.. then this) ..

And I think you've heard all that before. But you might also watch for what are called Embedded Commands. As an example: On key words, the speaker would make a gesture with his left hand, which research has shown is more apt to access your right brain. Today's media-oriented politicians and spellbinders are often carefully trained by a whole new breed of specialist who are using every trick in the book - both old and new - to manipulate you into accepting their candidate.

The concepts and techniques of Neuro-Linguistics are so heavily protected that I found out the hard way that to even talk about them publicly or in print results in threatened legal action. Yet Neuro-Linguistic training is readily available to anyone willing to devote the time and pay the price. It is some of the most subtle and powerful manipulation I have yet been exposed to. A good friend who recently attended a two-week seminar on Neuro-Linguistics found that many of those she talked to during the breaks were government people.

Another technique that I'm just learning about is unbelievably slippery; it is called an INTERSPERSAL TECHNIQUE and the idea is to say one thing with words but plant a subconscious impression of something else in the minds of the listeners and/or watchers.
Let me give you an example: Assume you are watching a
television commentator make the following statement: SENATOR JOHNSON is assisting local authorities to clear up the stupid mistakes of companies contributing to the nuclear waste problems." It sounds like a statement of fact, but, if the speaker emphasizes the right word, and especially if he makes the proper hand gestures on the key words, you could be left with the subconscious impression that Senator Johnson is stupid. That was the subliminal goal of the statement and the speaker cannot be called to account for anything.

Persuasion techniques are also frequently used on a much smaller scale with just as much effectiveness. The insurance salesman knows his pitch is likely to be much more effective if he can get you to visualize something in your mind. This is right-brain communication. For instance, he might pause in his conversation, look slowly around your living room and say, "Can you just imagine this beautiful home burning to the ground?" Of course you can! It is one of your unconscious fears and, when he forces you to visualize it, you are more likely to be manipulated into signing his insurance policy.

The Hare Krishnas, operating in every airport, use what I call SHOCK AND CONFUSION techniques to distract the left brain and communicate directly with the right brain. While waiting for a plane, I once watched one operate for over an hour. He had a technique of almost jumping in front of someone. Initially, his voice was loud then dropped as he made his pitch to take a book and contribute money to the cause. Usually, when people are shocked, they immediately withdraw. In this case they were shocked by the strange appearance, sudden materialization and loud voice of the Hare Krishna devotee. In other words, the people went into an alpha state for security because they didn't want to confront the reality before them. In alpha, they were highly suggestible so they responded to the suggestion of taking the book; the moment they took the book, they felt guilty and responded to the second suggestion: give money. We are all conditioned that if someone gives us something, we have to give them something in return - in that case, it was money. While watching this hustler, I was close enough to notice that many of the people he stopped exhibited an outward sign of alpha - their eyes were actually dilated.
Subliminal Programming


Subliminals are hidden suggestions that only your subconscious perceives. They can be audio, hidden behind music, or visual, airbrushed into a picture, flashed on a screen so fast that you don't consciously see them, or cleverly incorporated into a picture or design.

Most audio subliminal reprogramming tapes offer verbal suggestions recorded at a low volume. I question the efficacy of this technique - if subliminals are not perceptible, they cannot be effective, and subliminals recorded below the audible threshold are therefore useless. The oldest audio subliminal technique uses a voice that follows the volume of the music so subliminals are impossible to detect without a parametric equalizer. But this technique is patented and, when I wanted to develop my own line of subliminal audiocassettes, negotiations with the patent holder proved to be unsatisfactory. My attorney obtained copies of the patents which I gave to some talented Hollywood sound engineers, asking them to create a new technique. They found a way to psycho-acoustically modify and synthesize the suggestions so that they are projected in the same chord and frequency as the music, thus giving them the effect of being part of the music. But we found that in using this technique, there is no way to reduce various frequencies to detect the subliminals. In other words, although the suggestions are being heard by the subconscious mind, they cannot be monitored with even the most sophisticated equipment.

If we were able to come up with this technique as easily as we did, I can only imagine how sophisticated the technology has become, with unlimited government or advertising funding. And I shudder to think about the propaganda and commercial manipulation that we are exposed to on a daily basis. There is simply no way to know what is behind the music you hear. It may even be possible to hide a second voice behind the voice to which you are listening.

The series by Wilson Bryan Key, Ph.D., on subliminals in advertising and political campaigns well documents the misuse in many areas, especially printed advertising in newspapers, magazines, and posters.

The big question about subliminals is: do they work? And I guarantee you they do. Not only from the response of those who have used my tapes, but from the results of such programs as the subliminals behind the music in department stores. Supposedly, the only message is instructions to not steal: one East Coast department store chain reported a 37 percent reduction in thefts in the first nine months of testing.

A 1984 article in the technical newsletter, "Brain-Mind Bulletin," states that as much as 99 percent of our cognitive activity may be "non-conscious," according to the director of the Laboratory for Cognitive Psychophysiology at the University of Illinois. The lengthy report ends with the statement, "these findings support the use of subliminal approaches such as taped suggestions for weight loss and the therapeutic use of hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming."

Mass Misuse
I could relate many stories that support subliminal programming, but I'd rather use my time to make you aware of even more subtle uses of such programming.


I have personally experienced sitting in a Los Angeles auditorium with over ten thousand people who were gathered to listen to a current charismatic figure.

NOTE HERE THE WORD CHARISMATIC - Aren't all Psychopaths/Malignant Narcissists Charismatic? (Shaking my head- unless your aware- these bastards will use and abuse the naive our poor kids and so many naive adults - didn't have a chance - but that can all change with this information and dedication to prevail over evil at all costs)

Twenty minutes after entering the auditorium, I became aware that I was going in and out of an altered state. Those accompanying me experienced the same thing. Since it is our business, we were aware of what was happening, but those around us were not. By careful observation, what appeared to be spontaneous demonstrations were, in fact, artful manipulations. The only way I could figure that the eyes-open trance had been induced was that a 6- to 7-cycle-per-second vibration was being piped into the room behind the air conditioner sound. That particular vibration generates alpha, which would render the audience highly susceptible. Ten to 25 percent of the population is capable of a somnambulistic level of altered states of consciousness; for these people, the suggestions of the speaker, if non-threatening, could potentially be accepted as "commands."

Persuasion Techniques @ Everything2.com

Next article in part states ..

So, to begin, I want to state the most basic of all facts about brainwashing: IN THE ENTIRE HISTORY OF MAN, NO ONE HAS EVER BEEN BRAINWASHED AND REALIZED, OR BELIEVED, THAT HE HAD BEEN BRAINWASHED. Those who have been brainwashed will usually passionately defend their manipulators, claiming they have simply been "shown the light" . . . or have been transformed in miraculous ways.

The Battle for Your Mind @ Everything2.com

My twenty two cents -

This is scary shit Ollie.. I'm so glad I came across it.. bet those animals wont be very happy with this kind of info in the "wrong hands" (MINE) and now YOURS!

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I am adding my children's names to this post.. so that if they or anyone they know .. is searching for them.. they will get this wake up call.. and see what's been done to them!

Christopher John Uccio aka Chris Uccio <>
S.U.
Dawn Marie Uccio aka Dawn Uccio
Louis Micheal Anthony Uccio aka Louie Uccio aka Lou Uccio
Nicholas James Uccio aka Nick Uccio aka Nicky Uccio
And of course I want to add.. my estranged husband Mr. Louis M. Argenziano's apparently favorite political connections names so that if anyone wants to know what they may possibly be up against if in contact with them.. they also get an eye full..
Most from Richmond County New York's Family and Supreme Courts ...
Judge Barbara Panepinto
CYO Executive Director Joseph Panepinto
Aggie Panepinto (except this one- she's the LINK that the ex lives with)
Judge Terrence McElrath
Bonnie Cohen Gallett (she's in the Bronx now I believe- but she did the initial legal kidnapping- it appears that the rest of em .. just played along.. or were somehow involved indirectly!
Judge Debra Silber
Hearing officer Cheryl Weir Reeves
Cahterine Bridge Esq.
Thomas Connigatti Esq.
Judge Philip Minardo <>
Sherrill Spatz Special Inspector General - (see above- for her apparent role)
Normally I have no respect for any of these apparent players in the [il]legal kidnapping of my children .. so I'd use lower case letters and leave off their titles.. but I want to make sure .. they are found by strangers who have no clue .. what they may be getting themselves into if they come across these people!


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Tuesday, February 17, 2009

By George.. I think I've got it! PA/PAS

UPDATED -

WARNING - ADULT LANGUAGE BELOW MILD TO MODERATE ANGER SLIPPED THROUGH MY FINGERS AS I WROTE THIS .. AND I LEFT IT THERE.. COULDN'T HIDE THE SHOCK AND AMAZEMENT I FELT WHEN I PUT THE PIECES TOGETHER.. SO WHY SHOULD I KEEP IT FROM YOU?

By George I think I've got it!!

Have I stumbled upon the "Parent Alienation Manual?"

You know the one.. we all "feel" these animals use to program our innocent children...

Of course it appears there is a manual.. they ALL operate the same.. the children are ALL running around like little programed mini me's of the alternator's.. and well.. I may have accidentally through research till my eyes bled found the answer...

I don't know.. I wouldn't put money on it .. but it sure appears that way...

Earlier I said "I think" .. as in my unprofessional opinion that I would bet my left kidney on!

I've spent the last five or more .. no wait.. eight years desperately trying to figure out how my estranged husband got my children who by the way.. I adored .. and they adored me back.. since the day they were born.. to hate me.. or at least to make it appear they hated me...

Man O man.. that task was bigger than life..(especially with my non professional training and sixth grade education) That task was bigger than you can imagine..

But within the last year .. things became clearer and clearer.. little by little more and more made sense...

Here's where I'm gonna kinda well almost leave ya hanging.. not really but ehhh I can't spell it all out for ya .. but I can say .. that there's more to the story below that helped me "get it" than I can safely say online...

Anywho.. in "getting it" there were many things I had to learn and stick on a back burner.. I guess to be brewed at a later date when all the pieces were found to put into the pot? Yeah that sounds about right..

Some of the things that were really important were that ...

Predators .. read you like a book.. they pry information out of you.. to use against you.. they couldn't care less about small talk.. they want your soul.. so they'll sit through the BS small talk to see what your made of.. what they can consume from your naivety...

The see someone that is naive as ignorant.. something to be abused... they hit gold when they find a "naive one" .. if you don't believe me.. do your OWN research on the psychopath/Malignant Narcissist - co- dependent relationship!

And as we all know.. children are dependent on us adults for EVERYTHING .. including their lives.. and these blood sucking predators/including alienating parents KNOW THIS..

So for the sake of this post I'll pretend that you did your homework and now your back to finish reading this story because you now see for yourself that what I said is 10000% accurate!

I've also had to figure out .. what makes a predator tick.. what thought process do they use.. how can they destroy for shits and giggles.. then sleep well that night..

Ha... they have ice running through their veins that's how - NO EMPATHY - NONE!

So right about now .. I'll bet your thinking .. ok ok so what is it that "you got?"

Ohhh hell no.. this information and conclusion took me eight years to learn and I didn't earn a degree where I'm making any money off of it so hell no- you ain't getting it out of me that fast.. ooooo no brother!

What I can tell you is this ..

The first word I typed into the computer to try to figure out what my children were going through .. was BRAINWASHED!


That word alone .. took me on the information trail .. heading straight to parent alienation..

Do not pass go.. do not collect $200..

Stop.. read.. start.. stop read.. start.. stop read.. start.. stop read.. start...

Learn.. learn and learn some more.. trust no one - listen to YOURSELF figure it out for yourself .. KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT .. even if it's only an opinion.. YOU can then say .. I figured this out by my OWN critical thinking.. I researched .. I studied .. I absorbed..

I UNDERSTAND .. all there is to understand for a layman about dysfunctional families..

Ironically the bazillionth gadtrillianth word (before I actually saw the entire picture unfold before my eyes)... was BRAINWASHED- this morning.. and I truly think I found the answer...

Let me share part of it with you-

Lots of people hear/read or see something and if it doesn't immediately fit into this perfect spot somewhere in the middle of their personal lives/problem(s) they see the new information as useless..and dismiss or ignore it...or kinda scan it without interest..

For some ungodly reason.. I don't have that habit.. who knows maybe to much time on my hands.. maybe to eager to learn.. maybe maybe maybe .. who cares.. I have it and it is what it is.... and so far it hasn't caused me any problems so I guess for now I'll keep it (smile)

THIS TIME THO..(this past few months) It actually worked to my advantage!

I picked up this book.. TOXIC PARENTS a few weeks ago.. as many of you (my regular readers) know I have a dear friend that is driving me up the friggin wall.. and has been for years now .. where it relates to their family...

It's like they are in total denial.. ha.. that's an interesting word.. let me look that up and see how close I came to deciding this person was in denial..

Holy batshit batman! What an education I got from that word.. whewwwwww

This dear friend is much more than "in denial" they are so totally enemeshed within their dysfunctional family unit .. it's scary!

I've said to this friend on MANY occasions that they "SHORT CIRCUIT" when they get stressed out talking to their mother.. it's like HELLO YOUR AN ADULT .. what's up with this??

Worse yet is the joke.. so and so put the "fun" in dysFUNctional.. didn't even apply to this family... for the most part they are professionals in well respected jobs.. (shaking my head)

They were sooooooooo unsuspecting of being dysfunctional in my untrained eye..

I probably woulda never guessed!

They were.... "The perfect family"

HA! Perfect? Not by a long shot.. but you had to get in deep to see it..

You had to spend a considerable amount of time with them while they were stressed to actually "get it" and it didn't help that I myself was dysfunctional .. or perhaps the warning signs would have jumped up at me MUCH SOONER..

But then again.. if I hadn't been dysfunctional.. that dear dysfunctional friend wouldn't be in my life..

You see.. I've learned that dysfunction.. surrounds itself with dysfunction.. on a long term basis .. I'm not saying that a healthy person couldn't get sucked into it.. O even pretending I thought that would be absurd!

However.. healthy people.. would see the red flags way faster than I had .. and would have been LONG GONE..

Had I been healthier back when I originally noticed the red flags.. I would have been gone as in ...

SEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE YA!

But .. someone up there has/had a bigger plan for me.. or so it appears..

There was no getting away from the dysfunction until I knew what the hell dysfunction really was.. and that wouldn't be before years of on again off again therapy..

Then finally hitting rock bottom (when my wonderful estranged husband and his political cronies legally kidnapped my children).. and so I've read after the fact .. that it's usually only after one "hits rock bottom" that they can manage to find their way out of the trash can what I've called... life in the dysfunction zone!

Ok so.. back to where I was about the book Toxic Parents. I would have suggested this friend buy and read the book them self but that ain't happening.. this friend HATES to read.. and HATES to read about their dysfunctional family even more than hating to read..

The book was 16 bucks and I love to read .. so how bad of an investment in my life and in my friendship could it have been .. to buy the book and highlight some scenes from both of our dysfunctional lives!

I was very impressed.. actually I learned MUCH MORE than I imagined I would have learned..

I know there's all kinds of dysfunction out there.. ya got your....

(1) Adult children from parents that.. abused them leaving broken bones.. as in my case..

(2) Adult children from parents that ... smothered them.. as in a few people I know cases..

(3) Adult children from parents that ... sexually molested them.. as in a few people that I know cases..

(4) Adult children from parents that ... were alcoholics .. yep again 'magine that.. I some of those too!

(5) Adult children from parents that ... emotionally dominated.. emotionally manipulated.. and emotionally controlled them with a smile... from my experience this type of enmeshment was the worst.. it's so unrecognizable to a child.. they feel they were raised in ...

"The Perfect family" or so it seems from the outside.. to an untrained and or an unaware eye.. as most people are that will come in contact with these special kind of abusers!

I'm sure I've missed a few .. but these will be enough for the intent of this post..

So here I am moseying along minding my own business reading this book .. as well as another book "Listening with a Third ear" and BAMMMM !

It smacks me upside the head.. by the way.. if you can get a hold of either of these books GRAB EM AND DON'T LET GO!

Here I'm thinking .. wow .. it really don't matter much what kind of dysfunction you grew up in.. the resulting personality issues aren't far from the others...

There's a list or three on what defense mechanisms one might pick up as a child to cope with the abuse .. but more or less I think it's fair to say .. these children as adults will have MANY ISSUES that must be worked out .. and it can take a very long time to begin to get it.. especially if you are in denial and refuse to accept that there's a problem that you need to get!

Here's where I want to put the emotional manipulators.. right here in this category..

Those children/adult children have a much harder time "seeing" and ultimately "accepting" that there was abuse.. in some cases as in with my friend (who knows it may be every case- like I said this is on experience and self teaching) they are so traumatized that they "get stuck" somewhere in development... and remain "children" in grown up bodies!

EXACTLY like their predators appear to be.. "stuck" somewhere around TWO ok maybe SIX!

Tell me your thinking .. Ohhh comeon .. there's no way an adult can be stuck somewhere around TWO and function in the world.. get a job .. raise a family .. and so on..

BINGO! They can't .. but they do .. hence the multi generational dysfunction.. over and over again.. the never ending spiral downhill fast!

Ok.. so what's so spectacular about that.. any interested mind can figure that out.. just read a lot!

Ahhhh but that wasn't what "I got" this morning..

What I got was more of an answer- to the question I didn't know I was looking for an answer to..

How's that for confusing?

Oh yeah before I tell ya what it was .. I have to fill you in on two more books I'm simultaneously reading along with the two above..

The Angry Heart (workbook) and Ooops.. the last one isn't a book.. it's a web link A typical roster ("inner family") of personality subselves

Ok so why would I want to read the Angry Heart (workbook)... (it's about Borderline personality disorders and addictions) Well .. I didn't want to read it at all.. hell I was reading enough .. dontcha think?

Well it kinda fell into my possession unintentionally ...

I was driving my sister somewhere and she left this book in my car.. the next day I was driving another friend somewhere and had to wait about an hour for her to finish her interview and I had forgotten to bring something to keep me buzy.. Vola.. my sisters workbook.. what the heckk .. it's something to do.

I pick up the book and start to read....

My sister was diagnosed with both borderline and bi polar - quite frankly after reading the book and the author freely admitting "one factor" as in one way to become borderline was blah blah blah.. then he labeled it Post Complex Stress Disorder.. hogwash! Separate them.. because labeling someone borderline when in fact they are simply suffering from learned helplessness aka victimization from being an abused child..will further harm them than help them.. most victims love a crutch.. and labeling them .. gives them what reason to not get better? Oh yeah.. as my sister likes to say.. Lou you don't understand I'm sick.. I can't help being co-dependent- and a drug addict! AGAIN HOGWASH.. wait no that one deserves a full BULSHIT!

IMUO - there can't be two ways to borderline when one clearly is CPTSD and the other they claim was reached without childhood abuse.. now that one is probably a horse of another color!

Like I said to my sister for years.. Jo- you suffer from Carmela syndrome or Camilleitis just like I do ... Carmela is our mother.. I told her these doctors OFTEN mistake one for the other and intertwine which one they misdiagnoses between all three..

Oooo let me stop before I get lost again..

Lets recap= there's tons of ways to dysfunction- there's tons of different kinds of dysfunction - there's many ways to defend yourself against being abused by the dysfunction- were all screwed!

Hahaha.. no no no I'm only HALF kidding...

I can't take all I read and follow each one as if it were the bible -- there are to many conflicting opinions.. to many ways to misdiagnose... to many to manys..

So I take what I can use and leave the rest on the back burner.. if need be it's available..

Well.. something I read last week in one of these web pages referred to three parts of your brain.. and what uses which to process different kinds of information.. That was simple enough lol

Ok in all seriousness.. here's a link on the part of the brain that I'm talking about.. not sure if this is the actual article I read tho... How the Human Brain Developed and How the Human Mind Works

Anywho.. the page I was reading spoke of Reptilian Brain responding better to PICTURES than to voice .. Hmmm ok I took that info and put it close to the top of that pot of info I have brewing on the back burner.. figuring I may need it soon enough..

Little did I know .. that this morning.. I was wondering if this dear friend of mine could possibly be brainwashed? They are acting like someone out of the twilight zone..

Yeah been down that road before.. WAIT.. Louise... say that again.. out loud this time?

YEAH BEEN DOWN THAT ROAD BEFORE.. yes you have ! Holy shit batman.. and here you have it.. back to the drawing board... B R A I N W A S H E D ... damn damn damn.. back where I started but this time.. I was looking for something other than why my kids treated me like they did which I found out through extensive research 8 years ago .. was PA/PAS.. but wait..

I think - haven't you already called this dear friend a ghost of Christmas future.. referring to my children when they reach adulthood...

HOLD ON HERE.. what's up with this? wait wait wait.. I had to slow down and pinch myself here..

Ok Louise.. go grab that pot on the back burner that you keep brewing with information.. that's been there .. forever and you'll keep .. indefinitely.. uncooked..

In the mean time.. I'll take a fresh look at B R A I N W A S H I N G ...

Son of a bitch!

I come across these two articles (in part they say)


Brainwashing is Done on the Basis of Feelings, not Logic..
The most effective method for brainwashing someone is to appeal to his feelings. Logic is rarely used in brainwashing. The brainwashed individual must be deprogrammed using logic to prove that the ideas in the their mind are in conflict. All of the beliefs of the brainwashed cannot be true. Some must be discarded. Little by little the brainwashing is reversed as the person learns and accepts the truth.


Emotional Manipulation/Coercion/Persuading aka - Brainwashing
Brainwashers Have a Obsessive Compulsive Controlling Disorder
Those who attempt to brainwash others are suffering from an obsessive compulsive controlling disorder. In his private life, his mate and children are miserable.


The person with an obsessive compulsive controlling disorder has an overly inflated opinion of himself, and they go to great lengths in an attempt to force their opinion upon others. Many will write to this website and to others trying go make changes which fit their agenda, but always without success. They are constantly frustrated in life because everyone simply ignores them. The only stable relationship they have is with someone suffering from a compulsive submissive disorder.


Brainwashing, Psychiatry, Psychology, Psychotic, Sociology, Sociopath, Schizophrenia, Anorexia, Bulimia, Depression, Obsessiv...


What if I put the words -

Emotional Manipulation/Coercion/Persuading aka - Brainwashing


Up on top of this article - wouldn't it be easier to read? Easier as in .. it may apply to you.. of course brainwashed wouldn't ever apply to any of us.. right? But those words soften the blow..

Ok go on.. I'm not done yet... I'm going to label this one below with my softer more acceptable words..


Emotional Manipulation/Coercion/Persuading aka - Brainwashing USE THE ...


"Yes Set"

First, let me give you an example of distracting the left brain. Politicians use these powerful techniques all the time; lawyers use many variations which, I've been told, they call "tightening the noose." Think- MOST lawyers/ politicians/ MANIPULATIVE PEOPLE!

Assume for a moment that you are watching a politician give a speech. First, he might generate what is called a "yes set." These are statements that will cause listeners to agree; they might even unknowingly nod their heads in agreement. Next come the truisms. These are usually facts that could be debated but, once the politician has his audience agreeing, the odds are in the politician's favor that the audience won't stop to think for themselves, thus continuing to agree. Last comes the suggestion. This is what the politician wants you to do and, since you have been agreeing all along, you could be persuaded to accept the suggestion. Now, if you'll listen closely to my political speech, you'll find that the first three are the "yes set," the next three are truisms and the last is the suggestion.

"Ladies and gentlemen: are you angry about high food prices? Are you tired of astronomical gas prices? Are you sick of out-of-control inflation? Well, you know the Other Party allowed 18 percent inflation last year; you know crime has increased 50 percent nationwide in the last 12 months, and you know your paycheck hardly covers your expenses any more. Well, the answer to resolving these problems is to elect me, John Jones, to the U.S. Senate."


Brainwashing, Psychiatry, Psychology, Psychotic, Sociology, Sociopath, Schizophrenia, Anorexia, Bulimia, Depression, Obsessiv...

S O N OF A BITCH!!!

Will you look at that? These parent alienators appear to all read from the same book.. don't they? They all seem to use the same methods.. dont they? They all seem to get the same results from our children .. don't they? It's been questioned if all those abusing power ahemm most politicians... are psychopaths or malignant narcissists.. hmmm

I' L L B E A M O N K E Y S B A N A N A ! ! ! !

OOooo but wait it gets better...

I had the displeasure of reading the pathetic pull on my dear friends heart strings when they finally told thier mother they were sick of her abuse (after long term therapy- there was a breakthrough) and she emailed them a plea.. she needed help understanding.. blah blah blah.. every word of it was a manipulated play to pull at his enemeshed family strings.. and to discredit anyone that didn't agree with her abuse (me)

Sooo wait a sec here.. thats how they do it?

SON OF A BITCH!

First is the enemeshment - DAMN IT I remember my estranged husband pulling my daughters heart strings telling her I was cheating on him and blah blah more and more BS..

I THOUGHT my daughter was old enough (12) to KNOW better.. but Oooo no was I wrong.. he got her! Of course his political connections keeping me away [il]legally from my kids for eighteen months was an enormous help for his programing.. but that manipulative bastard!

PLAY THE VICTIM! Thats what they do best!

Oooo man I want to chew nails right now just re-typing this..

So I go back to the letter my dear friend recieved from his disgruntled mother .. and low and behold as if it were a training manual...

Paragraph one - plead for help .. play the confused victim... make the real victim FEEL all kinds of confusing FEELINGS! "I need your help" was her opening statement...

Then it went on ... "

"I am so aware that you are carrying a tremendous emotional burden. You appear troubled. I am so saddened for you. Nothing is more important to a parent than the well being of their child. No matter how old you are, the difference in our ages remains the same and our relationship, parent to child, does also. It is extremely precious."

"As I stated in my last message to you, you have support. You have my support and love and that of your other family members. I am there for you and will always be, if you allow it. I just need to know why you are ignoring my calls. "

Paragraph two - Bad mouth the target! The one the manipulator wants out of the picture..

" That being said (insert name), I must speak about how your situation appears. You have a lot on your shoulders. Louise is a person with a lot of issues, some very serious. Her reaction to her situation has been and is as the persecuted. Her estranged husband, the court system, her mother, her sister, your mother, your brother, your father, etc. The bottled and explosions of anger have been on-going with her and I'm sorry to say, will continue. Very little has changed. She lashes out whenever she sees fit no matter how distorted her perception. As her friend, you feel a need to be protective, which is an admirable trait, however, because of her situation, has the potential of working to her detriment as well as yours."

Paragraph three... SUGGEST how dangerous the target can be if ... fill in the blanks.. with something horrifying..

"You fail to see that which is obvious. You don't want to admit that there are very, very serious problems. I hope that one of the heated arguments doesn't lead to absolute disaster. There is a strong potential."

Paragraph four.. tell the victim how concerned you are for their safety.. and how much you know they must be going through with this potential animal.. (the target)

" I am not the problem. The problem is right there with you. For a person to impact your life to the extent that you turn against your most intimate family members, mother, father, brother speaks volumes. Just for a minute think about how Louise relates to her mother, sister, etc. Think of the anger that is mercurial at best and potentially lethal at worse."

Paragraph five - play on their sympathy again - FEELINGS! Suggest they are not seeing things clearly.. and you have to help them see the light!

"Believe it or not, I feel for you, (insert name). You have something on your hands. I hope that you find someone you can trust, who is knowledgeable, to talk to. Someone who can help you see the light. "

Paragraph six - pretend you have nothing to hide.. suggest they seek therapy.. leave the victim so confused.. if this person thinks I should go to therapy then what they are saying MUST BE TRUE!

"(insert name) when we are in a friendship that may have some dysfunctional areas, it is difficult to see everything clearly. I hope that sooner than later, you seek advice to assist you with your life and its quality. Just as Louise sees a therapist, it may not be a bad idea for you to consider seeing one for yourself."

Paragraph seven .. SUGGEST - a solution.. (subliminally - set them out to destroy)

" I don't know where we will go from here. I do feel saturated of it all. I am on overload. My heart is heavy. This is the most difficult problem that I have encountered in a very long time.

Hopefully, there will be resolution.

Take care.
Mom"

Side note- many of my readers know me in person.. and know this letter above is full of hogwash.. no no no I'm not going to put a pink bow around it.. it's pure BULLSHIT!

Yeah I told this woman where to go.. politely well ok sorta politely.. maybe I got a lil loud?

Nah I got loud! But she earned it and then some.. she's an evil manipulator.. and she pushes all the right buttons.. yeah yeah yeah I know.. I have to get a grip on how I allow these animals to push my buttons.. I'm working on it.. and quite sucessfully I must say.. I've learned how to stab em with the same smile they stab me with!

What she DOESN'T know is that I beat her to the punch.. and her adult child has been in therapy for a year..

That's why they chose NOT TO TALK to this manipulative parent.. they SAW how evil she is with their own eyes and the help of long term therapy..

Yet after this letter.. the adult dear friend .. began to take steps backwards.. it was so clear that contact with this manipulative alienator was disastorous.. hence the implications that our alienated children have NO CONTACT with the alienator..

Anywho.. back to how they program..

Repeat as often as possible .. and vola.. B R A I N W A S H E D into believing what the Psychopath/Malignant Narcissist wants you to believe!

DESTROYED RELATIONSHIP WITH ONCE LOVED PARENT/PARTNER/FRIEND..

SON OF A BITCH.. OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN !!!!

But wait.. was that all I got?

Hmm all.. well that's enough aint it?

But NO.. that wasn't all I got.. here's the even better part -

HOW TO FIX IT - IMUO

L O G I C -- L O G I C --- L O G I C -- L O G I C -- L O G I C -- L O G I C -- L O G I C !

Is that all? Maybe not .. LOGIC IN PICTURE FORM? BINGO! I think I got it!

Fastest way to "get it" or UNGET IT as it would apply to brainwashed victims.. accessing their Reptilian Brain - Human Nervous System and begining to deprogram them at the same time! Then of course you would need professionals that also GOT IT!! (the whole alienated child thing)!

Thank God I have both on this blog (my TRUTHFUL unarguable DOCUMENTS IN PICTURE FORM - as well as PICTURES OF THEM WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER) ready right here when my children want to know the truth!

DAYUM.. I'm feeling pretty shmart right about now.. lol... sixth grade education and all!

All kidding aside.. this sounds to well thought out to not work...

And of course .. lets not forget always leaving breadcrumbs back to you on their trail of life.. using the six senses.. any chance you can!

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I am adding my children's names to this post.. so that if they or anyone they know .. is searching for them.. they will get this wake up call.. and see what's been done to them!

Christopher John Uccio aka Chris Uccio <>

S.U.

Dawn Marie Uccio aka Dawn Uccio

Louis Micheal Anthony Uccio aka Louie Uccio aka Lou Uccio

Nicholas James Uccio aka Nick Uccio aka Nicky Uccio

And of course I want to add.. my estranged husband Mr. Louis M. Argenziano's apparently favorite political connections names so that if anyone wants to know what they may possibly be up against if in contact with them.. they also get an eyefull..

Most from Richmond County New York's Family and Supreme Courts ...

Judge Barbara Panepinto

CYO Exucitve Director Joseph Panepinto

Aggie Panepinto (except this one- she's the LINK that the ex lives with)

Judge Terrence McElrath

Bonnie Cohen Gallett (she's in the Bronx now I believe- but she did the inital legal kidnapping- it appears that the rest of em .. just played along.. or were somehow involved indirectly!

Judge Debra Silber

Hearing officer Cheryl Weir Reeves

Cahterine Bridge Esq.

Thomas Connigatti Esq.

Judge Philip Minardo <>

Sherrill Spatz Special Inspector General - (see above- for her apparent role)

Normally I have no respect for any of these apparent players in the [il]legal kidnapping of my children .. so I'd use lower case letters and leave off thier titles.. but I want to make sure .. they are found by strangers who have no clue .. what they may be getting themselves into if they come accross these people!


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Go ahead wench aka Mr. Louis M. Argenzinao and or his side kick - the one that looks like a poodle- email this to all of your cronies.. to bad the gag order was only as long as Judge Silber kept the case in her court room.. but she freaked and dropped it like bag of explosive poison .. didn't she? .. nice try at gagging me- wasn't that a violation of my first amendment right? SURE WAS!

I love my site meter! Wutz that you ask Mr. Louis M. Argenziano? Ohh come now .. stop scratching the top of your head all that fake hair may fall out. Don't worry what site meter is.. just keep on stalking me and sending your cronies my blog posts and I'll worry about what site meter is...

Please have a wonderful day! I get the feeling they won't be so wonderful forever!