This email was fowarded to me this morning and I pass it along (I will gain nothing by passing this along, I have no affiliation with ParentalRights.org. except wanting the same end result... accountability in government and constitutional rights upheld for families!
Whith that said I bring you .....
Breaking News: Parental Rights Press Conference
This afternoon at 3:00 (EDT),
Representative Pete Hoekstra (MI) and Senator Jim DeMint (SC) will hold a joint press conference at Upper Senate Park, next to the Russell Office Building in Washington, D.C., to announce the introduction of the Parental Rights Amendment in both houses of Congress. Perhaps you will be able to catch a glimpse of it this evening on the national news!
Introducing the Amendment, of course, is only the beginning – and now the clock is ticking. Today’s announcement will no doubt get the attention of opponents to the Amendment, and we will have to stay ahead of them in the race to secure two-thirds votes in both the House and Senate. That’s why now, more than ever, we need your continued support.
The Call for Champions
The Parental Rights Amendment has sponsors to champion its passage in the U.S. House of Representatives and in the U.S. Senate, but we still need support at the grassroots level to get the number of votes we’re going to need: 290 in the House and 67 in the Senate. We need you to be a Champion where you live to protect children by empowering their parents through passage of the Parental Rights Amendment.
Get Off the Sidelines!
Here is what we need YOU to do TODAY:
1. Sign the petition at ParentalRights.org.
2. Sign up as a 10-and-2 Representative
Visit ParentalRights.org’s 10-and-2 page to download instructions and materials, then enlist 10 people to sign the online petition and recruit 2 more to serve as 10-and-2 Representatives
after you.
3. Sign up as a 10-and-2 Recruiter
Email Rebekah@parentalrights.org to sign up and to answer any questions.
Recruiters enlist ten (10) or more people to be 10-and-2 Representatives.
4. Forward this email to everyone you can possibly think of!
Ideas include your entire email address book,blog lists, local radio stations, community, civic
and church organizations, and the like.
5. Become a member of ParentalRights.org and post your decals
Anyone giving $25 or more at ParentalRights.org/donate becomes a member and will receive 2 window decals to post on your car, or next to your home front door.
6. Contact Congress
If your Representative is not on the list of supporters already, email or call them and ask,
“Why aren’t you a cosponsor of the Parental Rights Amendment?” You can find their contact information by inputting your zip code at Congress.org.
Tracking Our House and Senate Sponsors
TODAY the Parental Rights Amendment is being introduced in Congress with 71 sponsors in the House and 2 in the Senate. Look for your Congressman on our Sponsors List.
Hidden Signature Hunt
We have no way of knowing exactly how many "hidden signatures" were found last week, but our overall signatures total climbed by 3438 in the last seven days.
Thank you for hunting up the hidden signers around you!
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I want to also share with you this email (below) that I recieved today as well..
Send your representative a quick note like this:"I listened to this discussion on the upcoming reintroduction of a Federal Parental Rights Amendment on Get Your Justice Live and want to know if your office will support or supports the need for parental rights to be explicitly protected in our Constitution.
Please let me know the position of your office on this topic after listening to this short episode http://www.laryholland.com/serendipity/archives/582-Michael-Donnelly-of-Home-School-Legal-Defense-Association-Joins-Get-Your-Justice-live.html
"Peter Hoekstra was on Get Your Justice Live and thanked us all for the support, lets keep it up!!!!
This bill is still a baby!!!!!
We must rally till we can’t rally no more in favor of this….
Call every local representative… Make sure you forward this every one of your family members today and have them write letters and call in on this bill.
ON CAPITOL HILL
Who will raise kids: Mom, Dad or state?
Parental rights: 67 in Congress pushing to amend Constitution
Posted: March 29, 2009 6:52 pm EasternBy Drew Zahn© 2009 WorldNetDaily Rep.
Peter Hoekstra, R-Mich.
Though efforts to pass a constitutional amendment protecting parental rights have failed in the past, two U.S. legislators are preparing to reintroduce the idea this week; and this time, they say, the effort is backed by more than 60 congressional members.
Rep. Peter Hoekstra, R-Mich., who introduced a parental rights amendment by himself last year, told the Agence France-Presse that he will be joined by Sen. Jim DeMint, R-S.C., on Tuesday as they renew the fight.
According to a statement released to AFP by Hoekstra's office, the amendment "would clearly outline in the U.S. Constitution that parents, not government or any other organization, have a fundamental right to raise their children as they see fit." "At a time when government at every level seems to encroach upon the ability of parents to choose the best for their children,"
Hoekstra writes on his website, "it is important to preserve parental rights into the Constitution."
Discover the mindset behind the establishment of today's system of mass education, and where has it led us as a society with "The Little Book of Big Reasons to Homeschool."
Last summer Hoekstra introduced H.J.R. 97, proposing a constitutional amendment stating that the liberty of parents to direct the upbringing and education of their children is a fundamental right that cannot be infringed upon by federal, state, or international treaty law without demonstrating government interest "of the highest order."
Hoekstra asserts that legitimate cases of abuse and neglect fall under the "demonstrated government interest" clause. Without any co-sponsors, however, H.J.R 97 died in committee. According to ParentalRights.org, an organization dedicated to seeing the amendment passed, this year's effort, in addition to senatorial support from DeMint, has recruited 65 U.S. representatives who have committed to joining Hoekstra in co-sponsoring a parental rights amendment.
As WND reported, the president of the world's premier homeschool advocacy organization made a case for the amendment in a Washington Times commentarypublished last year: "Few dispute the vital role of parents in raising the next generation, but, regrettably, few recognize that the fundamental role of parents is under direct attack," wrote J. Michael Smith, president of the Homeschool Legal Defense Association.
Smith pointed to the U.N. Convention on the Rights of the Child, an internation treaty approved by the Clinton administration but stalled by opposition in the Senate, as one example of governmental attempts to infringe on parental rights. "It's possible that in the near future, the United States may significantly weaken the rights of parents to raise their children," Smith wrote. "Crucial decisions that parents are accustomed to making, such as what our children read, who they associate with, what kind of discipline is used, whether we take them to church, or whether we homeschool, all become decisions for the state if the United States ratifies the U.N. Convention on the Rights of the Child." He continued, "By allowing the government to define and determine what is in the 'best interests of the child,' outside the context of abuse and neglect cases, the UNCRC in effect diminishes the parental role, replacing it with government supervision."
As WND reported, Sen. Barbara Boxer, D-Calif., last month urged a hurry-up timetable for adoption of the UNCRC. "Children deserve basic human rights ... and the convention protects children's rights by setting some standards here so that the most vulnerable people of society will be protected," Boxer said, according to Fox News.
Critics like Smith, however, argue the document, which creates "the right of the child to freedom of thought, conscience and religion" usurps the role of parents in directing their children's upbringing. Hoekstra used a 3-minute video clip, viewable below, to explain how, he believes, parental rights are being overlooked in the nation's capitol and why a parental rights amendment is needed:
Opponents of the amendment, such as those that opposed a Colorado state version proposed in the 1990's, argue that the measure would protect child abusers, make public schools a battleground for parents' ideological issues and prevent teenage students from receiving sex education and family planning services through their schools.
Rob Boston, assistant director of communications for Americans United for Separation of Church and State argued against the amendment in a blog post last month, making many of the same arguments lodged against the Colorado initiative. Boston also argued that the amendment is a back door approach to mixing public education dollars and religion, claiming through the amendment "states would be forced to give parents tuition vouchers for private and religious schooling since the right to direct a child's education would be enshrined in the Constitution."
Sen. DeMint, who will join Hoekstra in offering the amendment, has been involved in similar legislation in the past. DeMint was a co-sponsor of the Parents' Rights Empowerment and Protection Act of 2007, which required schools to obtain written parental permission before teaching children about sex or sexuality. DeMint's bill, like Hoekstra's in 2008, never made it out of committee.
To succeed, the amendment Hoekstra and DeMint plan to introduce Tuesday will need to pass in both the U.S. House of Representatives and Senate by two-thirds majorities each, then win ratification by three-fourths of the states.
DON'T FORGET TO FORWARD AND SIGN THE PETITION other petions now available and "very important"http://www.rallycongress.com/fight-cps/1448
State Info for Every State: http://www.50states.com/
Josie Perez, co-chair
State of Florida
Disclosure Watch U.S.
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Monday, March 30, 2009
Great News from Expose Corrupt Courts: New York is Corrupt AND Dysfunctional
Since the [il]legal kidnapping of my children is apparently so riddled with corruption I felt it was my duty to add this post Expose Corrupt Courts: Great News: New York is Corrupt AND Dysfunctional from Expose Corrupt Courts as a post on this blog.. for future reference..
Perhaps one day my children, S.U., Dawn Uccio, Louie Uccio aka Lou Uccio and Nicholas Uccio aka Nick or Nicky Uccio, will want to know why I have been taken out of their lives while Aggie Panepinto was allowed to raise them without any input from me (take special note of her last name - then read the rest of this story)
Perhaps one day they will refuse to continue to believe the lies of the other parent (Mr. Louis M. Argenziano) that I didn't want to be in their lives or God only knows what other bull-shit LIES he's filled their heads with.
All the while Mr. Louis M. Argenziano's, political connections to sitting Richmond County (county my case has been in for EIGHT YEARS) Supreme Court Judge Barbara Panepinto via her husband Catholic Charities Exucutive Director, Joseph Panepinto (remember the live in lover's last name?) my estranged husbands boss where he has worked for the last 20 or so years... in the Catholic Youth Orginazation (CYO) are being ignored as the reason hearing officer Bonnie Cohen Gallet and Staten Island Family Court Services forensic evaluator Ms. Amerose both initially denied me drug testing yet sent in and acted on a bogus "report" to the court that I was a drug addict!
They both violated my and my children's constitutional rights by refusing me a drug test while labeling me a dangerous drug addict that should have no contact with my children..
These animals kept me from my children FOR SEVENTEEN MONTHS (initially- it would be EIGHT YEARS TOTAL thus far) before henchman court appointed attorney( henchman: Definition, Synonyms from Answers.com)= the now dead (to bad he went so painlessly via a heart attack) Mario Accunzo coerced (FORCED) me to give custody to my estranged husband with the threat of never seeing my children again if I argued that I wasn't a drug addict- despite my voluntary 100% negative hair drug test which was precluded from the record!
Then Judge Terrence McElrath picked up his role in the [il]legal kidnapping of my children where hearing officer gallet left off and he refused to allow me access to my children with a bogus (Staten Island Family Court Services) SIFCS report. Once again NO BASIS THIS TIME but the unsigned report claimed I was to continue to have no contact with my children... which Mr. Rousie (forensic evaluator) DID NOT SIGN! Yet that didn't stop Judge McElrath from playing his role in this [il]legal kidnapping! Business as usual for Richmond County Courts .. Just another day these power junkies get to go home and feel good about destroying families for personal gain! This power junky McRat as I so lovingly call him - had me arrested on a warrant for child support that my then worthless and apparently corrupt attorney Mr. Lawrence Sykes Esq. claimed he had under control - he claimed he sent a letter to the court telling them we wouldn't be able to be there for a child support hearing and to excuse us.. meanwhile they put a warrant out on me that day= which I would later find out was inflated child support by thousands of dollars! While the abusive estranged husband's back child support owed to me via an order of protection in another State DISAPPEARED BEHIND CLOSED DOORS - can you imagine that? YES IT'S ILLEGAL TO ZERO OUT BACK CHILD SUPPORT - But somehow his apparently corrupt attorney who by the way looks more like a penguine than an attorney - Catherine Bridge Esq. managed to get 40k owed to me in back child support wiped off the planet as if it didn't exist (I wonder who signed that order??) (bad Louise (smack on the wrist) - you know how much ms. bridge whines when you bad mouth her on your blog ((shaking my head))
I guess this insane story wouldn't have been so bad if the next judge Judge Louis Lubell from Westchester took the bull (bull-shit) by the horns and held the Richmond County hearing officers and judges by the apparently corrupt horns and took action.. but no, he wanted no part of this.. can't say I blame him... and he sent it back to richmond county.
Then as if this were some sick joke = Judge Barbara Panepinto herself thought she was going to hear this case! Ummm no flipping way! No on my watch she wasn't! However Mr. Peter Lomtevas my then attorney felt it was ok for her to hear the divorce.. Umm NO! Mr. Lomtevas thought I should voluntarily break my order of protection and allow my abusive kidnapping estranged husband to supervise my visits! Umm NO!
Then the [il]legal kidnapping got deeper and this time involved Richmond County's IDV Judge Debra Silber (Oppzzzz I was warned by judge silber herself that she didn't want to see her name on my blog- maybe I should leave her role in this apparent kidnapping out? Ummm NO!
So as I was saying.. Richmond County IDV Judge Debra Silber - thought it was appropriate to ASK an admitted abuser if it was ok if I could see my children after EIGHT YEARS of his having kept me out of their lives.. then when Mr. Wonderful (tongue in cheek) said No.. judge silber a DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Judge said .. Oh Ok! No Ms. Uccio you can't see your children! Proof of this is on the right hand side of this blog in an article 78 against judge silber. Then she had the gall to refuse to sign my Writ of Habeas Corpus brought on behalf of my children's illegal detention!
Ummm WTF is going on here if not corruption then what?
Then if this story isn't sick or twisted enough.. the appellate court second department didn't feel that I had a legal right to bring an article 78 against judge silber who was told by me that this case is based on fraud, who refused to hear or even sign my Writ of Habeas Corpus!
JUDGE DEBRA SILBER A RICHMOND COUNTY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE JUDGE CHOSE TO IGNORE A VALID ORDER OF PROTECTION!!
WHICH INCLUDES CHILD CUSTODY AND CHILD SUPPORT OWED TO ME - with her famous "I don't know what your talking about" (has to be said while whining and looking stupidly ignorant to get the full impact- and is always said when she's being held accountable to her apparent role in the apparent corruption keeping me from my children - or at the very least her IGNORING THE LAW in my case - and I've heard in many other survivors of DV cases!) Habeas Corpus (Protection of Parental Liberty) Disgusted with the system: Writ of Habeas Corpus to FREE the Uccio Children
Then judge silber had the nerve to GAG me from using her name online in this blog AGAINST MY FIRST AMENDMENT RIGHTS AND THE LAWS THAT HER OWN BOSSES PUT INTO PLACE CALLING FOR SUNSHINE ON CHILD CUSTODY CASES with exceptions only in VERY RARE instances.. which my case DID NOT MEET - SO THEREFORE SHE GAGGED ME UNCONSTITUTIONALLY- but then dismissed my case as soon as I brought an article 78 against her.. so therefore her unconstitutional gag order was null and void!
Oh so I wouldn't be surprised if your asking yourself .. well why didn't you contact someone higher than these clowns?
RIGHT! I did over and over again - the list is extensive but included people such as ..
Chief Judge Judith S. Kaye
Administrative Judges, Judge Philip Minardo (Administration), Judge Ann Pfau (Administration),
Office of the Inspector General, Sherril Spatz Office of the Inspector General
My one time attorney Peter Lomtevas wrote a letter to the FBI telling them he saw apparent corruption in my case (more on what that outcome was here - Disgusted with the system: NYC attorney said ".....even if I have to throw the client under the bus" )
So you see, I've exhausted my State remedies.. gotten no where... and you ask what's next?
I dunno sounds to me like the public should remind the government in New York State that corruption is a no no .. however it is a fact and does happen because as you can see NOT ONE OF THEM IS HELD ACCOUNTABLE BY ANY OF THEIR SUPERIORS!
What's that they say.. a fish smells from the top?
Believe me it's NOT JUST MY CASE - There are so many apparently corrupt child custody cases in new york.. these poor kids are being abused by the very government in place to protect them.. and the public does what? Yeah that's what I thought..
NOT A FUCKING THING THAT'S MADE ANY CHANGE!
These animals are better organized and better protected than the mob!
JUSTICE MY ASS!
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P.S. I'll keep you all posted as to how many times the courts read this post and how many times they email it to each other - THANK YOU SITE METER!
One more thought on this subject -
HaveUmistakenMe@aol.com ... Apparently you have mistaken me!
If I can give you all a word of advice --
Don't ever underestimate the love of a fit loving mother or father!
Don't think that because you have been able to alter documents, get co-conspires to obstruct justice or keep a parent in financial ruin.. that you will be able to hide your corruption.
As my therapist says-- you can't get to me to shut me up- I'M NOT ALONE!
Many people would fight to the end for me and justice if anything were to suddenly happen to me-- I'm an excellent driver -- no one would believe I got into an fatal "accident." No one would believe I took my own life -- I've never been a drug addict nor do I plan on taking it up now -
so an over dose wouldn't be believable either.. I love my children to much for that.
No one would believe any bullshit story anyone tried to sell if I suddenly were silenced.
I'm not delusional, I'm not paranoid, nor do I have any other mental/emotional disabilities EXCEPT Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that each and every one of you contributed to with this scam. Proof of this is evidenced by FIVE psychiatric evaluations I've had over the years.
The only way to silence me (about my case and your apparent corruption) is to give me back my children get out of and stay out of our lives.. then you might consider taking up washing dishes as a living-- because if it's the only thing I accomplish today..tomorrow and every day for the rest of my life -- it will be to prove to the public that they shouldn't hire a kidnapping/conspiring attorney(s), or allow corrupt Judges/Hearing Officers to get away with destroying their lives!
High Five Alec Baldwin- Our courts are in desperate need of over-hauling, our children are being destroyed by their corruption, entitlement and greed!
Have a wonderful day,
Louise Uccio
P. S. I'm not a gambeling woman, however, I bet right about now -- your wishing there was truth to the lie that -- I was an unfit- drug addict.
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Perhaps one day my children, S.U., Dawn Uccio, Louie Uccio aka Lou Uccio and Nicholas Uccio aka Nick or Nicky Uccio, will want to know why I have been taken out of their lives while Aggie Panepinto was allowed to raise them without any input from me (take special note of her last name - then read the rest of this story)
Perhaps one day they will refuse to continue to believe the lies of the other parent (Mr. Louis M. Argenziano) that I didn't want to be in their lives or God only knows what other bull-shit LIES he's filled their heads with.
All the while Mr. Louis M. Argenziano's, political connections to sitting Richmond County (county my case has been in for EIGHT YEARS) Supreme Court Judge Barbara Panepinto via her husband Catholic Charities Exucutive Director, Joseph Panepinto (remember the live in lover's last name?) my estranged husbands boss where he has worked for the last 20 or so years... in the Catholic Youth Orginazation (CYO) are being ignored as the reason hearing officer Bonnie Cohen Gallet and Staten Island Family Court Services forensic evaluator Ms. Amerose both initially denied me drug testing yet sent in and acted on a bogus "report" to the court that I was a drug addict!
They both violated my and my children's constitutional rights by refusing me a drug test while labeling me a dangerous drug addict that should have no contact with my children..
These animals kept me from my children FOR SEVENTEEN MONTHS (initially- it would be EIGHT YEARS TOTAL thus far) before henchman court appointed attorney( henchman: Definition, Synonyms from Answers.com)= the now dead (to bad he went so painlessly via a heart attack) Mario Accunzo coerced (FORCED) me to give custody to my estranged husband with the threat of never seeing my children again if I argued that I wasn't a drug addict- despite my voluntary 100% negative hair drug test which was precluded from the record!
Then Judge Terrence McElrath picked up his role in the [il]legal kidnapping of my children where hearing officer gallet left off and he refused to allow me access to my children with a bogus (Staten Island Family Court Services) SIFCS report. Once again NO BASIS THIS TIME but the unsigned report claimed I was to continue to have no contact with my children... which Mr. Rousie (forensic evaluator) DID NOT SIGN! Yet that didn't stop Judge McElrath from playing his role in this [il]legal kidnapping! Business as usual for Richmond County Courts .. Just another day these power junkies get to go home and feel good about destroying families for personal gain! This power junky McRat as I so lovingly call him - had me arrested on a warrant for child support that my then worthless and apparently corrupt attorney Mr. Lawrence Sykes Esq. claimed he had under control - he claimed he sent a letter to the court telling them we wouldn't be able to be there for a child support hearing and to excuse us.. meanwhile they put a warrant out on me that day= which I would later find out was inflated child support by thousands of dollars! While the abusive estranged husband's back child support owed to me via an order of protection in another State DISAPPEARED BEHIND CLOSED DOORS - can you imagine that? YES IT'S ILLEGAL TO ZERO OUT BACK CHILD SUPPORT - But somehow his apparently corrupt attorney who by the way looks more like a penguine than an attorney - Catherine Bridge Esq. managed to get 40k owed to me in back child support wiped off the planet as if it didn't exist (I wonder who signed that order??) (bad Louise (smack on the wrist) - you know how much ms. bridge whines when you bad mouth her on your blog ((shaking my head))
I guess this insane story wouldn't have been so bad if the next judge Judge Louis Lubell from Westchester took the bull (bull-shit) by the horns and held the Richmond County hearing officers and judges by the apparently corrupt horns and took action.. but no, he wanted no part of this.. can't say I blame him... and he sent it back to richmond county.
Then as if this were some sick joke = Judge Barbara Panepinto herself thought she was going to hear this case! Ummm no flipping way! No on my watch she wasn't! However Mr. Peter Lomtevas my then attorney felt it was ok for her to hear the divorce.. Umm NO! Mr. Lomtevas thought I should voluntarily break my order of protection and allow my abusive kidnapping estranged husband to supervise my visits! Umm NO!
Then the [il]legal kidnapping got deeper and this time involved Richmond County's IDV Judge Debra Silber (Oppzzzz I was warned by judge silber herself that she didn't want to see her name on my blog- maybe I should leave her role in this apparent kidnapping out? Ummm NO!
So as I was saying.. Richmond County IDV Judge Debra Silber - thought it was appropriate to ASK an admitted abuser if it was ok if I could see my children after EIGHT YEARS of his having kept me out of their lives.. then when Mr. Wonderful (tongue in cheek) said No.. judge silber a DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Judge said .. Oh Ok! No Ms. Uccio you can't see your children! Proof of this is on the right hand side of this blog in an article 78 against judge silber. Then she had the gall to refuse to sign my Writ of Habeas Corpus brought on behalf of my children's illegal detention!
Ummm WTF is going on here if not corruption then what?
Then if this story isn't sick or twisted enough.. the appellate court second department didn't feel that I had a legal right to bring an article 78 against judge silber who was told by me that this case is based on fraud, who refused to hear or even sign my Writ of Habeas Corpus!
JUDGE DEBRA SILBER A RICHMOND COUNTY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE JUDGE CHOSE TO IGNORE A VALID ORDER OF PROTECTION!!
WHICH INCLUDES CHILD CUSTODY AND CHILD SUPPORT OWED TO ME - with her famous "I don't know what your talking about" (has to be said while whining and looking stupidly ignorant to get the full impact- and is always said when she's being held accountable to her apparent role in the apparent corruption keeping me from my children - or at the very least her IGNORING THE LAW in my case - and I've heard in many other survivors of DV cases!) Habeas Corpus (Protection of Parental Liberty) Disgusted with the system: Writ of Habeas Corpus to FREE the Uccio Children
Then judge silber had the nerve to GAG me from using her name online in this blog AGAINST MY FIRST AMENDMENT RIGHTS AND THE LAWS THAT HER OWN BOSSES PUT INTO PLACE CALLING FOR SUNSHINE ON CHILD CUSTODY CASES with exceptions only in VERY RARE instances.. which my case DID NOT MEET - SO THEREFORE SHE GAGGED ME UNCONSTITUTIONALLY- but then dismissed my case as soon as I brought an article 78 against her.. so therefore her unconstitutional gag order was null and void!
Oh so I wouldn't be surprised if your asking yourself .. well why didn't you contact someone higher than these clowns?
RIGHT! I did over and over again - the list is extensive but included people such as ..
Chief Judge Judith S. Kaye
Administrative Judges, Judge Philip Minardo (Administration), Judge Ann Pfau (Administration),
Office of the Inspector General, Sherril Spatz Office of the Inspector General
My one time attorney Peter Lomtevas wrote a letter to the FBI telling them he saw apparent corruption in my case (more on what that outcome was here - Disgusted with the system: NYC attorney said ".....even if I have to throw the client under the bus" )
So you see, I've exhausted my State remedies.. gotten no where... and you ask what's next?
I dunno sounds to me like the public should remind the government in New York State that corruption is a no no .. however it is a fact and does happen because as you can see NOT ONE OF THEM IS HELD ACCOUNTABLE BY ANY OF THEIR SUPERIORS!
What's that they say.. a fish smells from the top?
Believe me it's NOT JUST MY CASE - There are so many apparently corrupt child custody cases in new york.. these poor kids are being abused by the very government in place to protect them.. and the public does what? Yeah that's what I thought..
NOT A FUCKING THING THAT'S MADE ANY CHANGE!
These animals are better organized and better protected than the mob!
JUSTICE MY ASS!
REFRESH - Go to Home-Page
P.S. I'll keep you all posted as to how many times the courts read this post and how many times they email it to each other - THANK YOU SITE METER!
One more thought on this subject -
HaveUmistakenMe@aol.com ... Apparently you have mistaken me!
If I can give you all a word of advice --
Don't ever underestimate the love of a fit loving mother or father!
Don't think that because you have been able to alter documents, get co-conspires to obstruct justice or keep a parent in financial ruin.. that you will be able to hide your corruption.
As my therapist says-- you can't get to me to shut me up- I'M NOT ALONE!
Many people would fight to the end for me and justice if anything were to suddenly happen to me-- I'm an excellent driver -- no one would believe I got into an fatal "accident." No one would believe I took my own life -- I've never been a drug addict nor do I plan on taking it up now -
so an over dose wouldn't be believable either.. I love my children to much for that.
No one would believe any bullshit story anyone tried to sell if I suddenly were silenced.
I'm not delusional, I'm not paranoid, nor do I have any other mental/emotional disabilities EXCEPT Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that each and every one of you contributed to with this scam. Proof of this is evidenced by FIVE psychiatric evaluations I've had over the years.
The only way to silence me (about my case and your apparent corruption) is to give me back my children get out of and stay out of our lives.. then you might consider taking up washing dishes as a living-- because if it's the only thing I accomplish today..tomorrow and every day for the rest of my life -- it will be to prove to the public that they shouldn't hire a kidnapping/conspiring attorney(s), or allow corrupt Judges/Hearing Officers to get away with destroying their lives!
High Five Alec Baldwin- Our courts are in desperate need of over-hauling, our children are being destroyed by their corruption, entitlement and greed!
Have a wonderful day,
Louise Uccio
P. S. I'm not a gambeling woman, however, I bet right about now -- your wishing there was truth to the lie that -- I was an unfit- drug addict.
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Judge Must Release Woman Sentenced to Jail for Being Poor, ACLU Says in Court Papers
IMMEDIATE RELEASE:
March 30, 2009
DETROIT –
The American Civil Liberties Union of Michigan asked for an emergency hearing today on behalf of an Escanaba woman sentenced to 30 days in jail because she is too poor to reimburse the court for her son’s stay in a juvenile detention facility.
“Like many people in these desperate economic times, Ms. Nowlin was laid off from work, lost her home and is destitute,” said Michael J. Steinberg, ACLU of Michigan Legal Director. “Jailing her because of her poverty is not only unconstitutional, it’s unconscionable and a shameful waste of resources. It is not a crime to be poor in this country and the government must stop resurrecting debtor’s prisons from the dustbin of history.”
In December 2008, Ms. Nowlin’s 16-year-old son was sentenced to the Bay Pines Center and Ms. Nowlin was ordered to pay $104 per month for his lodging. At the time of this order, Ms. Nowlin was homeless and working part-time with a friend after being laid off from her job. She told the court that she was unable to pay the ordered amount, however the judge found her in contempt for failing to pay. In addition, Ms. Nowlin’s requests for a court appointed attorney were denied.
Since March 3, 2009, Ms. Nowlin has been serving her sentence at the Delta County Jail. On March 6, 2009, she was released for one day to work. Once released she picked up her $178.53 check from work thinking that she now could pay the $104.00 to get out of jail. However, upon her return to jail that evening, the sheriff forced her to sign over her check to the jail to cover $120.00 for “room and board.” She was also charged $22 for a drug test and the booking fee.
According to the ACLU’s motion: “This country did away with debtors’ prisons more than a century ago. The imprisonment of Ms. Nowlin because she is too destitute to make payments to the court is a miscarriage of justice.”
In representing Ms. Nowlin, the ACLU of Michigan argues that the court unconstitutionally sentenced Ms. Nowlin to a debtors’ prison without assessing her ability to pay the court. Additionally, the court violated her rights by denying her request for a court appointed lawyer.
Recently, the ACLU of Michigan represented David Sutton of Detroit whose probation was extended because he could not afford his supervision fees. Mr. Sutton has no assets and his only income is the $262 monthly disability check he receives from the government. In 2003, Sutton was sentenced to probation for a year following a conviction in Wayne County Circuit Court. He performed community service and fulfilled all the conditions of his probation except one – he was not able to pay the supervision fee. Consequently, a Wayne County Circuit Court judge extended his probation year after year. In February, the ACLU successfully represented him at a hearing where the state had moved to revoke his probation once again.
In addition to Steinberg, Ms. Nowlin is represented by Karl Numinen of Pence and Numinen, P.C. in Marquette.
To see the brief filed on behalf of Ms. Nowlin, click here.
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March 30, 2009
DETROIT –
The American Civil Liberties Union of Michigan asked for an emergency hearing today on behalf of an Escanaba woman sentenced to 30 days in jail because she is too poor to reimburse the court for her son’s stay in a juvenile detention facility.
“Like many people in these desperate economic times, Ms. Nowlin was laid off from work, lost her home and is destitute,” said Michael J. Steinberg, ACLU of Michigan Legal Director. “Jailing her because of her poverty is not only unconstitutional, it’s unconscionable and a shameful waste of resources. It is not a crime to be poor in this country and the government must stop resurrecting debtor’s prisons from the dustbin of history.”
In December 2008, Ms. Nowlin’s 16-year-old son was sentenced to the Bay Pines Center and Ms. Nowlin was ordered to pay $104 per month for his lodging. At the time of this order, Ms. Nowlin was homeless and working part-time with a friend after being laid off from her job. She told the court that she was unable to pay the ordered amount, however the judge found her in contempt for failing to pay. In addition, Ms. Nowlin’s requests for a court appointed attorney were denied.
Since March 3, 2009, Ms. Nowlin has been serving her sentence at the Delta County Jail. On March 6, 2009, she was released for one day to work. Once released she picked up her $178.53 check from work thinking that she now could pay the $104.00 to get out of jail. However, upon her return to jail that evening, the sheriff forced her to sign over her check to the jail to cover $120.00 for “room and board.” She was also charged $22 for a drug test and the booking fee.
According to the ACLU’s motion: “This country did away with debtors’ prisons more than a century ago. The imprisonment of Ms. Nowlin because she is too destitute to make payments to the court is a miscarriage of justice.”
In representing Ms. Nowlin, the ACLU of Michigan argues that the court unconstitutionally sentenced Ms. Nowlin to a debtors’ prison without assessing her ability to pay the court. Additionally, the court violated her rights by denying her request for a court appointed lawyer.
Recently, the ACLU of Michigan represented David Sutton of Detroit whose probation was extended because he could not afford his supervision fees. Mr. Sutton has no assets and his only income is the $262 monthly disability check he receives from the government. In 2003, Sutton was sentenced to probation for a year following a conviction in Wayne County Circuit Court. He performed community service and fulfilled all the conditions of his probation except one – he was not able to pay the supervision fee. Consequently, a Wayne County Circuit Court judge extended his probation year after year. In February, the ACLU successfully represented him at a hearing where the state had moved to revoke his probation once again.
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Saturday, March 28, 2009
Teen Girl Faces Child Pornograpy Charges Over Nude Photos
A teenager from New Jersey has been arrested after she uploaded 30 nude photos of herself to her MySpace page, and is now facing child pornography charges.
The 14-year-old girl had posted the pictures to a social networking site "because she wanted her boyfriend to see them," a police spokesman revealed.
Authorities arrested her after receiving an online tip-off about the images, which could have been viewed by anyone who ' befriended' her on MySpace.
MySpace has not commented on the incident, but has a team that reviews content uploaded to the social network.
The girl, who has been released into her mother's custody, faces up to 17 years in jail if convicted of possession and distribution of child pornography.
She could also be placed on a state register of sex offenders.
"We consider this case a wake-up call to parents," News.com.au quoted the police as saying.
Teen girl faces child pornography charges over nude photos- Hindustan Times
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The 14-year-old girl had posted the pictures to a social networking site "because she wanted her boyfriend to see them," a police spokesman revealed.
Authorities arrested her after receiving an online tip-off about the images, which could have been viewed by anyone who ' befriended' her on MySpace.
MySpace has not commented on the incident, but has a team that reviews content uploaded to the social network.
The girl, who has been released into her mother's custody, faces up to 17 years in jail if convicted of possession and distribution of child pornography.
She could also be placed on a state register of sex offenders.
"We consider this case a wake-up call to parents," News.com.au quoted the police as saying.
Teen girl faces child pornography charges over nude photos- Hindustan Times
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B.C. court bars mother from seeing daughter for more than a year
Mar 9, 2009
VANCOUVER, B.C. — In a case of extreme parental alienation, a mother has been banned by a B.C. Supreme Court judge from seeing her teenage daughter for more than a year.
Because of the urgency of the matter, Justice Donna Martinson issued the terse, two-page ruling outlining 15 conditions the parents must follow, including that the mother, known only as Ms. A, not see her daughter until at least March 31, 2010.
The decision came after the mother alleged extreme emotional abuse by the father, which she claimed was putting the teen's safety at risk.
"I am satisfied that Ms. A's allegations are unfounded," Martinson wrote. "I am further satisfied that she has continued to undermine the relationship between M and her father and has acted in ways that are detrimental to M's psychological healing."
Names have been stripped from the court ruling to protect the girl's identity.
The judge has ordered that both the mother and maternal grandmother have no contact with the girl, which would be enforced by police if necessary.
The court has also ordered the mother to pay $320 per month for the girl's counselling, on top of the child support she is already paying.
Jessica Ko, the lawyer for the girl's father, said it's been a gruelling road for the dad who has been in court 17 different times to gain access to his daughter or defend himself against the mother's allegations.
"It went to the point where our client was essentially bankrupt from defending himself and pursuing this legal matter," said Ko.
She said the father is in a highly respected profession and should be able to recover financially.
Ko said the ruling banning the mother from any contact with the child was extremely unusual, because often the court attempts to find a balance in access between the parents.
"This is a case where there was found to be an extreme example of parental alienation by the mother towards the father."
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I dunno call me an optimist but If I were a gambling woman.. I'd bet my estranged husband Mr. Louis M. Argenzinao would wish that the only thing the court did to him was ban him from seeing our severely alienated children (S.U., Dawn Uccio, Louie Uccio, Nicky Uccio) for a year .. when all is said and done in my case.. where he alienated the children with what appears to be help from numerous benches in Richmond County Family and Matrimonial Court Judges.. and strong political connections to the Panepintos including Judge Barbara Panepinto and her husband, my estranged husbands boss, CYO Director Mr. Joseph Panepinto!
I'd like to guess the estranged abusive and alienating husband would consider a year penalty of staying away from the children a slap on the wrist compared to what I believe the out-come of this EIGHT YEAR LONG [IL]LEGAL KIDNAPPING will be!
VANCOUVER, B.C. — In a case of extreme parental alienation, a mother has been banned by a B.C. Supreme Court judge from seeing her teenage daughter for more than a year.
Because of the urgency of the matter, Justice Donna Martinson issued the terse, two-page ruling outlining 15 conditions the parents must follow, including that the mother, known only as Ms. A, not see her daughter until at least March 31, 2010.
The decision came after the mother alleged extreme emotional abuse by the father, which she claimed was putting the teen's safety at risk.
"I am satisfied that Ms. A's allegations are unfounded," Martinson wrote. "I am further satisfied that she has continued to undermine the relationship between M and her father and has acted in ways that are detrimental to M's psychological healing."
Names have been stripped from the court ruling to protect the girl's identity.
The judge has ordered that both the mother and maternal grandmother have no contact with the girl, which would be enforced by police if necessary.
The court has also ordered the mother to pay $320 per month for the girl's counselling, on top of the child support she is already paying.
Jessica Ko, the lawyer for the girl's father, said it's been a gruelling road for the dad who has been in court 17 different times to gain access to his daughter or defend himself against the mother's allegations.
"It went to the point where our client was essentially bankrupt from defending himself and pursuing this legal matter," said Ko.
She said the father is in a highly respected profession and should be able to recover financially.
Ko said the ruling banning the mother from any contact with the child was extremely unusual, because often the court attempts to find a balance in access between the parents.
"This is a case where there was found to be an extreme example of parental alienation by the mother towards the father."
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My two cents -
I dunno call me an optimist but If I were a gambling woman.. I'd bet my estranged husband Mr. Louis M. Argenzinao would wish that the only thing the court did to him was ban him from seeing our severely alienated children (S.U., Dawn Uccio, Louie Uccio, Nicky Uccio) for a year .. when all is said and done in my case.. where he alienated the children with what appears to be help from numerous benches in Richmond County Family and Matrimonial Court Judges.. and strong political connections to the Panepintos including Judge Barbara Panepinto and her husband, my estranged husbands boss, CYO Director Mr. Joseph Panepinto!
I'd like to guess the estranged abusive and alienating husband would consider a year penalty of staying away from the children a slap on the wrist compared to what I believe the out-come of this EIGHT YEAR LONG [IL]LEGAL KIDNAPPING will be!
It's about time these courts woke up to the emotional abuse children are suffering at the hands of an abusive bully who alienates them from the other parent, the bully they call mom or dad!
These children/young adults/adult survivors of alienation are destined for years of therapy to undo the damage these abusers (alienators) have done to them.. for nothing more than selfish abusive agendas!Thursday, March 26, 2009
Radio Mans Sex Date With The devil
A self-described Satanist teen with a penchant for knives admitted stabbing a beloved radio newsman to death during a kinky sex romp arranged on Craigslist, cops said yesterday.
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John Katehis, 16, of Queens, who was arrested in upstate Middletown, allegedly admitted he'd agreed to choke and masturbate 47-year-old ABC News Radio personality George Weber for $80.
"While en route back to New York . . . and in subsequent interviews, Kate his implicated himself in the homicide," Police Commissioner Ray Kelly said.
But the teen, whose MySpace page is littered with photos of himself wielding lethal blades, told cops it was Weber who drew a knife first during the sexual encounter last Friday night at the victim's Brooklyn apartment, sources said.
According to his story, Weber took out the blade to free his legs, which were duct-taped. But Katehis, high on cocaine and vodka, said he panicked, grabbed the knife from Weber, stabbed him twice and fled.
Sources said police were skeptical of the account -- not least of all because Weber had been stabbed some 50 times in the neck, chest and arms.
Katehis was nabbed with a dagger -- not the murder weapon -- on him.
At about 9 p.m. Friday, Katehis was spotted by a conductor on a Queens-bound G train, "bleeding profusely" from a cut on his left hand. He was treated at Elmhurst Hospital, and released after telling cops he'd cut his hand on a bottle.
Investigators pulled Weber's computer records and quickly zeroed in on Katehis, but on Tuesday morning, the teen fled to Middletown with a friend.
The boy's dad worked with cops to arrange a meeting in Middletown, promising to give his son $300. Instead, eight Brooklyn detectives were waiting.
On the MySpace page, Katehis declares himself heterosexual and professes his devotion to Church of Satan founder Anton LaVey.
He sports tattoos on his arm reading, "666" and "Diablo."
In Katehis' East Elmhurst neighborhood, residents painted a bleak picture of a family in disarray.
"They totally destroyed the apartment," said Cesar Chicaiza, the landlord of the family's previous home. "It was left in ruins. There was garbage everywhere. They even stole the toilet seat."
Katehis appeared in court for the first time last night, and lawyer Herb Moses previewed his defense.
"I think he was used by an older gentleman, I think these issues will come out," Moses said, calling Weber's death "a very tragic situation."
Katehis, wearing gray sweat pants, a long black T-shirt and hospital-style paper shoes, didn't enter a plea during the brief hearing.
Additional reporting by Erin Calabrese, Joseph Mollica and Perry Chiaramonte
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RADIO MAN'S SEX DATE WITH DEVIL - New York Post
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VIDEO: Watch Video of Katehis Making Prank Calls
John Katehis, 16, of Queens, who was arrested in upstate Middletown, allegedly admitted he'd agreed to choke and masturbate 47-year-old ABC News Radio personality George Weber for $80.
"While en route back to New York . . . and in subsequent interviews, Kate his implicated himself in the homicide," Police Commissioner Ray Kelly said.
But the teen, whose MySpace page is littered with photos of himself wielding lethal blades, told cops it was Weber who drew a knife first during the sexual encounter last Friday night at the victim's Brooklyn apartment, sources said.
According to his story, Weber took out the blade to free his legs, which were duct-taped. But Katehis, high on cocaine and vodka, said he panicked, grabbed the knife from Weber, stabbed him twice and fled.
Sources said police were skeptical of the account -- not least of all because Weber had been stabbed some 50 times in the neck, chest and arms.
Katehis was nabbed with a dagger -- not the murder weapon -- on him.
At about 9 p.m. Friday, Katehis was spotted by a conductor on a Queens-bound G train, "bleeding profusely" from a cut on his left hand. He was treated at Elmhurst Hospital, and released after telling cops he'd cut his hand on a bottle.
Investigators pulled Weber's computer records and quickly zeroed in on Katehis, but on Tuesday morning, the teen fled to Middletown with a friend.
The boy's dad worked with cops to arrange a meeting in Middletown, promising to give his son $300. Instead, eight Brooklyn detectives were waiting.
On the MySpace page, Katehis declares himself heterosexual and professes his devotion to Church of Satan founder Anton LaVey.
He sports tattoos on his arm reading, "666" and "Diablo."
In Katehis' East Elmhurst neighborhood, residents painted a bleak picture of a family in disarray.
"They totally destroyed the apartment," said Cesar Chicaiza, the landlord of the family's previous home. "It was left in ruins. There was garbage everywhere. They even stole the toilet seat."
Katehis appeared in court for the first time last night, and lawyer Herb Moses previewed his defense.
"I think he was used by an older gentleman, I think these issues will come out," Moses said, calling Weber's death "a very tragic situation."
Katehis, wearing gray sweat pants, a long black T-shirt and hospital-style paper shoes, didn't enter a plea during the brief hearing.
Additional reporting by Erin Calabrese, Joseph Mollica and Perry Chiaramonte
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RADIO MAN'S SEX DATE WITH DEVIL - New York Post
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Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Food For Thought pertaining to my last blog post
People's understanding of the world in which they live cannot correspond to the facts and be complete and coherent at the same time. Insofar as people's thinking is confined to the facts, it is not sufficient to reach decisions; and insofar as it serves as the basis of decisions, it cannot be confined to the facts. The human uncertainty principle applies to both thinking and reality. It ensures that our understanding is often incoherent and always incomplete and introduces an element of genuine uncertainty - as distinct from randomness - into the course of events.--George Soros, The Alchemy Of Finance
The human uncertainty principle bears a strong resemblance to Heisenberg's uncertainty principle, which holds that the position and momentum of quantum particles cannot be measured at the same time. But there is an important difference. Heisengberg's uncertainty principle does not influence the behavior of quantum particles one iota; they would behave the same way if the principle had never been discovered. The same is not true of the human uncertainty principle. Theories about human behavior can and do influence human behavior. Marxism had a tremendous impact on history, and market fundamentalism is having a similar influence today. --George Soros, The Alchemy Of Finance
The process of transformation, even if it brings revolutionary change, is likely to be a long one, absent some catastrophic and catalyzing event -- like a new Pearl Harbor. --Project for a New American Century, in 1998 - 3 years before 9-11. [www.newamericancentury.com]
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The human uncertainty principle bears a strong resemblance to Heisenberg's uncertainty principle, which holds that the position and momentum of quantum particles cannot be measured at the same time. But there is an important difference. Heisengberg's uncertainty principle does not influence the behavior of quantum particles one iota; they would behave the same way if the principle had never been discovered. The same is not true of the human uncertainty principle. Theories about human behavior can and do influence human behavior. Marxism had a tremendous impact on history, and market fundamentalism is having a similar influence today. --George Soros, The Alchemy Of Finance
The process of transformation, even if it brings revolutionary change, is likely to be a long one, absent some catastrophic and catalyzing event -- like a new Pearl Harbor. --Project for a New American Century, in 1998 - 3 years before 9-11. [www.newamericancentury.com]
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The family Pandora's Box
PSYCHOLOGY: MIND GAMES
Some victims of parental alienation syndrome don't realize until adulthood that one parent turned them against the other
TRALEE PEARCE
March 24, 2009
After Joe Rabiega's parents divorced, when he was an adolescent, his father repeatedly told him his mother had abandoned him. The boy had to return any gifts that came from his mother's side of the family and, twice daily, he had to pledge his allegiance to his father.
"I was never allowed to have anything to do with her," he says from his home in Raleigh, N.C. "The consequences were dire if I did. He said I would have nobody."
Even though Mr. Rabiega, now 33, had witnessed ugly behaviour by his father toward his mother and knew his dad to be an erratic alcoholic, it wasn't until he sought counselling for personal problems in his early 20s that his past snapped into focus: He had been the victim of parental alienation syndrome - his father had systematically turned him against his mother.
The phenomenon, coined by psychiatrist Richard A. Gardner in 1985, has gained traction recently due to a number of recent high-profile divorce cases in Canada - not to mention the very public case of movie star Alec Baldwin, who accused his former wife, Kim Basinger, of parental alienation.
Although the condition remains controversial, the debate has centred on how to treat children who have been turned against one parent by the other. One model, originally recommended by Dr. Gardner, involves rapid "deprogramming" and the removal of the child from the alienating parent. Another, less aggressive technique, which encourages children to think critically and strives to keep both parents involved, is the focus of a group of Toronto-based mental health experts and lawyers who hope to open a "family reunification clinic" within the year.
But in many cases, experts say, PAS is not identified when the victim is a child. Some never unravel their pasts. Others, like Mr. Rabiega, pry open their family's Pandora's box as adults. It can be confusing and painful; long-held narratives of childhoods crumble, and many adults recoil at their own complicity.
"These people say, 'I was such a fool. I was such a horrible person. How could I have betrayed one of my parents?' " says Amy Baker, a psychology researcher and the author of Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties that Bind.
A common scenario involves an adult realizing that one parent told them the other parent wanted nothing to do with them, all the while denying the former spouse access through the courts, says retired Toronto psychologist Marty McKay who has treated adults dealing with past parental alienation. "That can create a lot of bitterness when it comes to light."
Dr. Baker, who is leading a seminar on this topic at the Canadian Symposium for Parental Alienation Syndrome in Toronto on Friday, uses the analogy of a cult to describe how PAS takes hold.
"No adult wakes up in the morning and says, "You know what? Today's the day I want to shave my head, give away all my money and cut off my friends and family so I can sell flowers at the airport for a nickel so some stranger can drive a Mercedes. Nobody says that. And yet it happens, doesn't it? If it can happen to an adult who gives an allegiance to a total stranger, it can happen to a kid giving allegiance to a parent."
For her part, Dr. Baker, who has a PhD in developmental psychology but is not a practising clinician, says she started her research to answer alienated parents' "burning questions" about whether kids ever figure out what has happened. After she put out a call for participants, 40 people, including Mr. Rabiega, responded.
A number of catalysts can trigger a realization, including getting married, having a first child or the death of a parent. But outcomes vary wildly. "For some people, the same event - the death of the alienating parent [for example] - can function to entrench the alienation, and for another person, it frees the person up," Dr. Baker says.
Rhonda Pisanello had never heard of parental alienation until she was doing online research for a loved one and typed "turning a child against a parent" into a search engine. She believes the term describes her father's efforts to sever her ties with her mother after their divorce.
"I had never had a name for what had happened to me before and had for the most part blamed myself for being such a difficult child!" says the 45-year-old, whose life has been characterized by running away as a teen, depression and attempted suicide, in an e-mail interview.
While Ms. Pisanello, who lives in Rimbey, Alta., is not undergoing therapy, she says she has found solace online with the Oakville, Ont.-based Parental Alienation Awareness Organization and other online resources. She is now estranged from her father but reconciled with her mother before her death in 2007.
For those who seek professional help, a number of therapies are available. Cognitive behavioural therapy is considered helpful by many.
Some adult children come to maintain relationships with both parents. Dr. McKay has overseen many meetings between children and parents. She says it's crucial to focus on what's possible. "What isn't possible is getting into a time machine and going back and making things change in the past," she says. "Even if you didn't have the kind of parent-child relationship you would have wanted as a child or adolescent, you can still have a relationship as adults."
Now that both of Mr. Rabiega's parents are deceased, he says he's still processing some guilt over never fully discussing the past with his mother, although the two had reconciled. His father's behaviour escalated in later years, and Mr. Rabiega eventually took out a restraining order against him.
As the happily married father of a 13-month-old daughter, he says he feels increasingly calm about what he can and can't "fix" about his childhood.
"As a child, it messes with your development and your sense of being," he says. "I don't think you ever truly understand because it's a rewiring of your brain away from what you were supposed to be."
globeandmail.com: The family Pandora's Box
Thank you Dr. Amy Baker for sharing this article with the PAPA (parents against parent alienation) group!
My Two Cents or in today's case my two dollars worth!
I started a My Space Page to connect with other "target" parents.
I am friends with many target parents and we share information on the courts and non custodial parents via bulletins and blogs.
Hence.. I have a lot of information on My "My Space" page about PA/PAS.
I also play the My Space games such as Vampires and Mafia Wars.. so I also get many friend requests for the game apps. These gamers as I call them.. come from all walks of life.. including being adult children of alienation.
With this in mind.. I send out info that would attract an adult that might not know they were the target of a personality disordered adult when they were young.. and perhaps they were alienated and didn't figure it out yet.
Well .. apparently it worked! I've had two - possible three I don't remember.. anywho.. I've had people contact me thanking me for my bulletins and blogs. They claimed after reading through all the material I have available on my pages .. they figured out that they were adults that suffered through their childhoods being separated from a loved one and didn't understand any of it until they read what I had sent out!
One of them wasn't quite sure.. so she kept reading and reading.. and low and behold.. when I Incorporated the personality disorder aspect of alienators.. she put it all together!
Her mother and her grandmother were evil as she worded it - they were evil women!
She went on to say that her grandfather and her had an amazing relationship when she was young.. yet one day "as if he fell off the planet" her grandfather just disappeared!
Many many years later as an adult she began to search for him.. she desperately wanted to know what happened - why he left her like that!
What she found still hurts her to this day..
She did make contact with her granddad.. she found out through him.. that he and her grandmother got a divorce.. and the grandmother put a clause in the divorce that he was to never contact the granddaughter (her) again.
The adult granddaughter then went to the county court house to pull the records of her grandparents divorce to see for herself if this was true.. low and behold right there in front of her own eyes was the clause her granddad told her about...
She returned to the grandfather and told him that she did in fact find her own proof that what he was saying was true.. and they sat and had coffee trying to recapture the closeness they once shared..
Sadly that didn't happen... she said the grandfather seems to have moved on.. he seemed uncomfortable that she had contacted him.. and she thought he wanted to be left alone with his new life..
I told her my opinion from the standpoint of a target parent (grandparent) which is ..
Guilt for allowing ourselves to be manipulated.. hurt or anger for all the years we missed out on.. and fear that we will be wrongly judged by our loved one whom we were separated from.
I told her that because we are also dysfunctional (often times targets are people pleasers -
laid back - nice guys/nice women so to speak - people that want to keep the peace and be liked- those of us that want to just play nice - yes those are often dysfunctional qualities) proven by us having allowed ourselves to be in the situation to begin with .. at the mercy of a personality disordered partner.. that target parents thought process is more likely than not to be an unhealthy thought process.. more likely than not a thought process that is negative.. self defeating.. self sabotaging.. and unproductive.. and without therapy or tons of self help.. that thought process is more than likely to stay with us for a lifetime. So when the smoke clears and years have gone by.. years of suffering the consequences of our passivity or of our aggression (anything but assertiveness) we live in fear of being rejected (negative thought process). We can twist situations to be heard with dysfunctional ears (ie turning an Innocent comment into something negative about ourselves without ever using critical thinking.. or alternative meanings to things.. somehow those people that are victims of personality disordered individuals will always think along those terms of negativity..
So what are we left with? Well, if grandpa was a people pleaser nice guy..keep the peace kind of personality.. I can almost bet his upbringing left him with a negative thought process.. and the granddaughter who freely admits she was raised by her evil mother and her evil grandmother.. well .. her thought process is by design a negative one...
Now lets throw into the mix years of separation.. years of our/their/your own negative thoughts on the subject.. years of hearing often false negative things about the target from the personality disordered custodial parent (or grandparent/aunt/uncle/foster parent/whomever it was) telling the victim child stuff such as... the target didn't want you that's why they left you.. or the target has their own life now and they don't want any part of you .. or the target is a bad person..
The scenarios can go on forever. However the bottom line is the same .. feeling of inadequacy.. feeling of not being good enough.. feelings of being unloved or bad.. after all if this adult (target parent or target grandparent-the one left behind or left out) that I loved doesn't love me.. or is such a bad person.. how can I be loving.. worthy.. or good... It is right there that you can see the disaster that can happen when there is a reunion... both still afraid.. still feeling and thinking negative thoughts.. hearing bad where there isn't any.. feeling bad.. where bad wasn't part of the equation... not connecting like they should.. because of earlier programing by the personality disordered adult.. a program that is nothing more than toxic and in desperate need of being deleted from the mind.. and replaced with a healthier program.. one that will allow all to love themselves and feel worthy!
So what is the answer? Therapy .. long term therapy to change the toxic original program we operate on..
Some of you may be thinking.. ok this chick is insane.. I don't hate myself.. I don't have negative thinking.. what is negative thinking anyway? She's no professional.. she's just an *&^%$#
To those of you.. that may be thinking these or similar thoughts right now..
I challenge you to go to therapy and find out for yourself.. just how negative your thought process may be. It is my opinion that you do not escape being raised by a personality disordered/ aka evil or manipulative/ or intimidating/ smothering/ abusive or just ole dominating and destructive adult without having paid the ultimate price of dysfunctional often negative thinking.. which leads to self sabotage in the end!
You will see I'm right .. if you do go to therapy and figure out that your adult relationships have suffered.. your career has suffered.. and your quality of life in general is not the best it can be..
It's not possible to have a positive thought process (despite your own beliefs that you do and can have a positive outlook) when we are raised by distorted thinking dysfunctional adults.
The problem lies in coming to terms with many ugly facts (stated above) then resisting going for help in changing it!
I also suffered from negative thinking most of my life.. I was my own worst enemy! Perhaps you are too! Additionally.. because this reality came to me after having children and being separated from them.. my children have suffered the ultimate price!
In closing.. I pray that my children Chris, S., Dawn, Louie and Nicky Uccio come to terms with the above realities.. and hear my pleas for them to get therapy not as my saying "your bad- there's something wrong with you" or any of the other negative thinking they may come up with.. but to hear my pleas as just that.. a PLEA to fix what I had a hand in breaking by my own dysfunction back when I was raising them.. by allowing myself to stay in an abusive relationship with what I feel is a psychopath estranged husband! Witnessing my passiveness.. and inability to be strong and assertive.. which led to us becoming estranged.. has effected their lives horrendously .. and I need to make it right! The only way to make it right is to tell them and you (whomever you are) to please get yourself a good therapist.. and change the broken program which you are operating on now. Learn that Narcissists/Psychopaths will destroy anything in their path INCLUDING their partners and their own children!
Sadly those kinds of personality disordered people will rope in those of us with low-self -esteem from our own childhood dysfunction and create history over and over again until someone stands up and says NO MORE! It will be the decision to get therapy or become determined to stop it using self help books and or therapy where you will be saying NO MORE! Then we will see a difference in the quality of our lives.... and sadly not a moment before!
For those nay sayers that don't want to believe me..
I again challenge you - take an honest look at your friends - write down their qualities.. good and bad.. then know that "THE BEST MIRROR- IS A GOOD FRIEND"! If your friends are passive and always end up in "bad relationships" or if you can't figure out why your always hurt in your own relationships.. perhaps it's time to be honest with yourself.
If you find that your friends are either drama queens/kings.. or if there is some other clear dysfunction such as they are alcoholics or sex addicts (loose- or willing to sleep with anybody) or they have a problem with gambling or some other addiction that effects their lives in a bad way.. or even your drama queen/kings or your hypochondriacs.. perhaps its
time to take an honest look at yourself!
Additionally, for those of you that don't want to or aren't ready to accept that your parent is/was the problem.. take a look at who their best friend is.. does his/her best friend stick around because they are just like your parent? Or is your parents best friend sticking around because of the magnetic draw between the psychopath and his good guy/woman victim.
Ever watch "House on TV.com - Free Full Episodes & Clips, & Show Info"?
If the answer is yes.. then you are aware of the dysfunctional psychopath/co-dependent relationship between House and Dr. Wilson. You are also aware of the self awareness of his boss.. Dr. Cuddy! In one episode where Dr. Cuddy and Dr. Wilson were talking about Dr. Cuddy and House being in a relationship.. Dr Cuddy said something along the lines.. of "why would I want a relationship with House.. first it will be bliss, wonderful and alive, then because all that fun is really a disguise for self hatred it will turn into frustration, then anger and fighting.. and it will all be downhill from there.. with alternating days/hours switching somewhere between self hate and false promises to change, why would I put myself through that" She also makes mention of her feeling vulnerable the night before as an explanation of why she allowed herself to kiss House. The psychology behind that segment of the show ..
is phenomenal and should be understood by every person on the planet - so they too can protect them self from the "
"Dr. Greggory Houses" out there.. and see themselves as the Dr Wilsons co-dependent enablers out there! Perhaps in that episode one watching it could understand what when we feel vulnerable we are easy prey for the abusers/narcissists/psychopaths in our lives.. because of that instant pick me up/make you feel better or good about yourself they use to lure you in.. but buyer beware.. it's an act and it's a dangerous act operating on self hate.. and a need to have a victim to abuse - someone to make THEM feel better about them selves or someone to prove to them that their negative thought process telling them they are unworthy is accurate... they alternate between needing to make you feel bad in order to make them feel good.. and punishing you and forcing you to act out and punish them as sort of a validation of their own unworthiness.. ehh I could go on and on.. but I think your beginning to get the picture here. There is so much more involved.. that I couldn't even begin to explain it all in one blog.
Pick up a few self help books.. or do some of your own research..or therapy to get a better understanding or it all... then change your destiny- change your childrens destiny.. don't
let history repeate itself .. not on your watch!
It isn't about accepting "I'm broke theres something wrong with me" it's about I've been a victim of dysfunction. Due to that dysfunction my life isn't as happy as it can be and I have the power to end it right here and now!
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Some victims of parental alienation syndrome don't realize until adulthood that one parent turned them against the other
TRALEE PEARCE
March 24, 2009
After Joe Rabiega's parents divorced, when he was an adolescent, his father repeatedly told him his mother had abandoned him. The boy had to return any gifts that came from his mother's side of the family and, twice daily, he had to pledge his allegiance to his father.
"I was never allowed to have anything to do with her," he says from his home in Raleigh, N.C. "The consequences were dire if I did. He said I would have nobody."
Even though Mr. Rabiega, now 33, had witnessed ugly behaviour by his father toward his mother and knew his dad to be an erratic alcoholic, it wasn't until he sought counselling for personal problems in his early 20s that his past snapped into focus: He had been the victim of parental alienation syndrome - his father had systematically turned him against his mother.
The phenomenon, coined by psychiatrist Richard A. Gardner in 1985, has gained traction recently due to a number of recent high-profile divorce cases in Canada - not to mention the very public case of movie star Alec Baldwin, who accused his former wife, Kim Basinger, of parental alienation.
Although the condition remains controversial, the debate has centred on how to treat children who have been turned against one parent by the other. One model, originally recommended by Dr. Gardner, involves rapid "deprogramming" and the removal of the child from the alienating parent. Another, less aggressive technique, which encourages children to think critically and strives to keep both parents involved, is the focus of a group of Toronto-based mental health experts and lawyers who hope to open a "family reunification clinic" within the year.
But in many cases, experts say, PAS is not identified when the victim is a child. Some never unravel their pasts. Others, like Mr. Rabiega, pry open their family's Pandora's box as adults. It can be confusing and painful; long-held narratives of childhoods crumble, and many adults recoil at their own complicity.
"These people say, 'I was such a fool. I was such a horrible person. How could I have betrayed one of my parents?' " says Amy Baker, a psychology researcher and the author of Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties that Bind.
A common scenario involves an adult realizing that one parent told them the other parent wanted nothing to do with them, all the while denying the former spouse access through the courts, says retired Toronto psychologist Marty McKay who has treated adults dealing with past parental alienation. "That can create a lot of bitterness when it comes to light."
Dr. Baker, who is leading a seminar on this topic at the Canadian Symposium for Parental Alienation Syndrome in Toronto on Friday, uses the analogy of a cult to describe how PAS takes hold.
"No adult wakes up in the morning and says, "You know what? Today's the day I want to shave my head, give away all my money and cut off my friends and family so I can sell flowers at the airport for a nickel so some stranger can drive a Mercedes. Nobody says that. And yet it happens, doesn't it? If it can happen to an adult who gives an allegiance to a total stranger, it can happen to a kid giving allegiance to a parent."
For her part, Dr. Baker, who has a PhD in developmental psychology but is not a practising clinician, says she started her research to answer alienated parents' "burning questions" about whether kids ever figure out what has happened. After she put out a call for participants, 40 people, including Mr. Rabiega, responded.
A number of catalysts can trigger a realization, including getting married, having a first child or the death of a parent. But outcomes vary wildly. "For some people, the same event - the death of the alienating parent [for example] - can function to entrench the alienation, and for another person, it frees the person up," Dr. Baker says.
Rhonda Pisanello had never heard of parental alienation until she was doing online research for a loved one and typed "turning a child against a parent" into a search engine. She believes the term describes her father's efforts to sever her ties with her mother after their divorce.
"I had never had a name for what had happened to me before and had for the most part blamed myself for being such a difficult child!" says the 45-year-old, whose life has been characterized by running away as a teen, depression and attempted suicide, in an e-mail interview.
While Ms. Pisanello, who lives in Rimbey, Alta., is not undergoing therapy, she says she has found solace online with the Oakville, Ont.-based Parental Alienation Awareness Organization and other online resources. She is now estranged from her father but reconciled with her mother before her death in 2007.
For those who seek professional help, a number of therapies are available. Cognitive behavioural therapy is considered helpful by many.
Some adult children come to maintain relationships with both parents. Dr. McKay has overseen many meetings between children and parents. She says it's crucial to focus on what's possible. "What isn't possible is getting into a time machine and going back and making things change in the past," she says. "Even if you didn't have the kind of parent-child relationship you would have wanted as a child or adolescent, you can still have a relationship as adults."
Now that both of Mr. Rabiega's parents are deceased, he says he's still processing some guilt over never fully discussing the past with his mother, although the two had reconciled. His father's behaviour escalated in later years, and Mr. Rabiega eventually took out a restraining order against him.
As the happily married father of a 13-month-old daughter, he says he feels increasingly calm about what he can and can't "fix" about his childhood.
"As a child, it messes with your development and your sense of being," he says. "I don't think you ever truly understand because it's a rewiring of your brain away from what you were supposed to be."
globeandmail.com: The family Pandora's Box
Thank you Dr. Amy Baker for sharing this article with the PAPA (parents against parent alienation) group!
My Two Cents or in today's case my two dollars worth!
I started a My Space Page to connect with other "target" parents.
I am friends with many target parents and we share information on the courts and non custodial parents via bulletins and blogs.
Hence.. I have a lot of information on My "My Space" page about PA/PAS.
I also play the My Space games such as Vampires and Mafia Wars.. so I also get many friend requests for the game apps. These gamers as I call them.. come from all walks of life.. including being adult children of alienation.
With this in mind.. I send out info that would attract an adult that might not know they were the target of a personality disordered adult when they were young.. and perhaps they were alienated and didn't figure it out yet.
Well .. apparently it worked! I've had two - possible three I don't remember.. anywho.. I've had people contact me thanking me for my bulletins and blogs. They claimed after reading through all the material I have available on my pages .. they figured out that they were adults that suffered through their childhoods being separated from a loved one and didn't understand any of it until they read what I had sent out!
One of them wasn't quite sure.. so she kept reading and reading.. and low and behold.. when I Incorporated the personality disorder aspect of alienators.. she put it all together!
Her mother and her grandmother were evil as she worded it - they were evil women!
She went on to say that her grandfather and her had an amazing relationship when she was young.. yet one day "as if he fell off the planet" her grandfather just disappeared!
Many many years later as an adult she began to search for him.. she desperately wanted to know what happened - why he left her like that!
What she found still hurts her to this day..
She did make contact with her granddad.. she found out through him.. that he and her grandmother got a divorce.. and the grandmother put a clause in the divorce that he was to never contact the granddaughter (her) again.
The adult granddaughter then went to the county court house to pull the records of her grandparents divorce to see for herself if this was true.. low and behold right there in front of her own eyes was the clause her granddad told her about...
She returned to the grandfather and told him that she did in fact find her own proof that what he was saying was true.. and they sat and had coffee trying to recapture the closeness they once shared..
Sadly that didn't happen... she said the grandfather seems to have moved on.. he seemed uncomfortable that she had contacted him.. and she thought he wanted to be left alone with his new life..
I told her my opinion from the standpoint of a target parent (grandparent) which is ..
Guilt for allowing ourselves to be manipulated.. hurt or anger for all the years we missed out on.. and fear that we will be wrongly judged by our loved one whom we were separated from.
I told her that because we are also dysfunctional (often times targets are people pleasers -
laid back - nice guys/nice women so to speak - people that want to keep the peace and be liked- those of us that want to just play nice - yes those are often dysfunctional qualities) proven by us having allowed ourselves to be in the situation to begin with .. at the mercy of a personality disordered partner.. that target parents thought process is more likely than not to be an unhealthy thought process.. more likely than not a thought process that is negative.. self defeating.. self sabotaging.. and unproductive.. and without therapy or tons of self help.. that thought process is more than likely to stay with us for a lifetime. So when the smoke clears and years have gone by.. years of suffering the consequences of our passivity or of our aggression (anything but assertiveness) we live in fear of being rejected (negative thought process). We can twist situations to be heard with dysfunctional ears (ie turning an Innocent comment into something negative about ourselves without ever using critical thinking.. or alternative meanings to things.. somehow those people that are victims of personality disordered individuals will always think along those terms of negativity..
So what are we left with? Well, if grandpa was a people pleaser nice guy..keep the peace kind of personality.. I can almost bet his upbringing left him with a negative thought process.. and the granddaughter who freely admits she was raised by her evil mother and her evil grandmother.. well .. her thought process is by design a negative one...
Now lets throw into the mix years of separation.. years of our/their/your own negative thoughts on the subject.. years of hearing often false negative things about the target from the personality disordered custodial parent (or grandparent/aunt/uncle/foster parent/whomever it was) telling the victim child stuff such as... the target didn't want you that's why they left you.. or the target has their own life now and they don't want any part of you .. or the target is a bad person..
The scenarios can go on forever. However the bottom line is the same .. feeling of inadequacy.. feeling of not being good enough.. feelings of being unloved or bad.. after all if this adult (target parent or target grandparent-the one left behind or left out) that I loved doesn't love me.. or is such a bad person.. how can I be loving.. worthy.. or good... It is right there that you can see the disaster that can happen when there is a reunion... both still afraid.. still feeling and thinking negative thoughts.. hearing bad where there isn't any.. feeling bad.. where bad wasn't part of the equation... not connecting like they should.. because of earlier programing by the personality disordered adult.. a program that is nothing more than toxic and in desperate need of being deleted from the mind.. and replaced with a healthier program.. one that will allow all to love themselves and feel worthy!
So what is the answer? Therapy .. long term therapy to change the toxic original program we operate on..
Some of you may be thinking.. ok this chick is insane.. I don't hate myself.. I don't have negative thinking.. what is negative thinking anyway? She's no professional.. she's just an *&^%$#
To those of you.. that may be thinking these or similar thoughts right now..
I challenge you to go to therapy and find out for yourself.. just how negative your thought process may be. It is my opinion that you do not escape being raised by a personality disordered/ aka evil or manipulative/ or intimidating/ smothering/ abusive or just ole dominating and destructive adult without having paid the ultimate price of dysfunctional often negative thinking.. which leads to self sabotage in the end!
You will see I'm right .. if you do go to therapy and figure out that your adult relationships have suffered.. your career has suffered.. and your quality of life in general is not the best it can be..
It's not possible to have a positive thought process (despite your own beliefs that you do and can have a positive outlook) when we are raised by distorted thinking dysfunctional adults.
The problem lies in coming to terms with many ugly facts (stated above) then resisting going for help in changing it!
I also suffered from negative thinking most of my life.. I was my own worst enemy! Perhaps you are too! Additionally.. because this reality came to me after having children and being separated from them.. my children have suffered the ultimate price!
In closing.. I pray that my children Chris, S., Dawn, Louie and Nicky Uccio come to terms with the above realities.. and hear my pleas for them to get therapy not as my saying "your bad- there's something wrong with you" or any of the other negative thinking they may come up with.. but to hear my pleas as just that.. a PLEA to fix what I had a hand in breaking by my own dysfunction back when I was raising them.. by allowing myself to stay in an abusive relationship with what I feel is a psychopath estranged husband! Witnessing my passiveness.. and inability to be strong and assertive.. which led to us becoming estranged.. has effected their lives horrendously .. and I need to make it right! The only way to make it right is to tell them and you (whomever you are) to please get yourself a good therapist.. and change the broken program which you are operating on now. Learn that Narcissists/Psychopaths will destroy anything in their path INCLUDING their partners and their own children!
Sadly those kinds of personality disordered people will rope in those of us with low-self -esteem from our own childhood dysfunction and create history over and over again until someone stands up and says NO MORE! It will be the decision to get therapy or become determined to stop it using self help books and or therapy where you will be saying NO MORE! Then we will see a difference in the quality of our lives.... and sadly not a moment before!
For those nay sayers that don't want to believe me..
I again challenge you - take an honest look at your friends - write down their qualities.. good and bad.. then know that "THE BEST MIRROR- IS A GOOD FRIEND"! If your friends are passive and always end up in "bad relationships" or if you can't figure out why your always hurt in your own relationships.. perhaps it's time to be honest with yourself.
If you find that your friends are either drama queens/kings.. or if there is some other clear dysfunction such as they are alcoholics or sex addicts (loose- or willing to sleep with anybody) or they have a problem with gambling or some other addiction that effects their lives in a bad way.. or even your drama queen/kings or your hypochondriacs.. perhaps its
time to take an honest look at yourself!
Additionally, for those of you that don't want to or aren't ready to accept that your parent is/was the problem.. take a look at who their best friend is.. does his/her best friend stick around because they are just like your parent? Or is your parents best friend sticking around because of the magnetic draw between the psychopath and his good guy/woman victim.
Ever watch "House on TV.com - Free Full Episodes & Clips, & Show Info"?
If the answer is yes.. then you are aware of the dysfunctional psychopath/co-dependent relationship between House and Dr. Wilson. You are also aware of the self awareness of his boss.. Dr. Cuddy! In one episode where Dr. Cuddy and Dr. Wilson were talking about Dr. Cuddy and House being in a relationship.. Dr Cuddy said something along the lines.. of "why would I want a relationship with House.. first it will be bliss, wonderful and alive, then because all that fun is really a disguise for self hatred it will turn into frustration, then anger and fighting.. and it will all be downhill from there.. with alternating days/hours switching somewhere between self hate and false promises to change, why would I put myself through that" She also makes mention of her feeling vulnerable the night before as an explanation of why she allowed herself to kiss House. The psychology behind that segment of the show ..
is phenomenal and should be understood by every person on the planet - so they too can protect them self from the "
"Dr. Greggory Houses" out there.. and see themselves as the Dr Wilsons co-dependent enablers out there! Perhaps in that episode one watching it could understand what when we feel vulnerable we are easy prey for the abusers/narcissists/psychopaths in our lives.. because of that instant pick me up/make you feel better or good about yourself they use to lure you in.. but buyer beware.. it's an act and it's a dangerous act operating on self hate.. and a need to have a victim to abuse - someone to make THEM feel better about them selves or someone to prove to them that their negative thought process telling them they are unworthy is accurate... they alternate between needing to make you feel bad in order to make them feel good.. and punishing you and forcing you to act out and punish them as sort of a validation of their own unworthiness.. ehh I could go on and on.. but I think your beginning to get the picture here. There is so much more involved.. that I couldn't even begin to explain it all in one blog.
Pick up a few self help books.. or do some of your own research..or therapy to get a better understanding or it all... then change your destiny- change your childrens destiny.. don't
let history repeate itself .. not on your watch!
It isn't about accepting "I'm broke theres something wrong with me" it's about I've been a victim of dysfunction. Due to that dysfunction my life isn't as happy as it can be and I have the power to end it right here and now!
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Monday, March 23, 2009
New York Divorce attorneys check list
Funny I should open an email this morning about the laws in New York concerning Divorce and Parent Alienation (article below) as soon as I hit 'post' on the article below (a few posts below this one) about New York and Parent Alienation in the Courts..
Don't miss my comments in red of all the violations of these laws that took place in my case.. beginning with Hearing Officer Bonnie Cohen Gallet, then by Judge Terrence McElrath, then it was Judge Barbara Panepinto (yes she had the gall to have this case in front of her wherein she refused to address child custody and refused to recuse herself during the first two hearings in front of her- yes she finally did recuse-see link - Disgusted with the system: Judge Barbara Irolla Panepinto Recused herself after two attempts by my attorney)) and then the final blow came from her colege, Judge Debra Silber an IDV (domestic violence) Judge, who refused me a divorce on cruel and inhuman treatment (gotta love it- she said I don't have grounds- without ever giving me a hearing on grounds)) what a racket!!.
The latest part of the apparent scandal taking place in the Uccio v Argenziano case was by Judge Debra Silber by her ignoring REFUSING TO ENTERTAIN my Writ of Habeas Corpus..
wherein I stated that my children are being held illegally by a self proclaimed domestic abuser ((see article 78 below right hand side of the blog for HIS OWN WORDS condemning him of domestic violence!))
Yet they allowed him to cross state lines.. file a false child protective case against me which would lead to my suing child services and the city for malicious prosecution and negligent misrepresentation)) and gave him custody..while refusing me any contact with my children..
can you believe this BS!
Anywho.. here are "the guidelines" apparently as long as your ex isn't politically connected .. these should work for you..
New York divorce attorney
The Gary and Eni Skoien case out in Chicago made me think of this topic for a post: what are the factors a court considers in awarding custody to a parent? I have probably done a ton of posts already that pretty much say the same thing, but what is a little repetition going to hurt?
So here goes. What you need to know about custody and the abc’s of how to win a custody battle in New York and around the country:
1) First of all, understand that the court is ultimately only concerned with what is in the “best interest of the child.” The parent who gets custody will be the parent who can best provide for the child’s “best interest.” What, you may ask, is the “best interest” of the child? How does the court determine that for purposes of custody? Well, the court considers a number of factors including but not limited to:
A. Physical ability and fitness of each parent.
B. Mental ability and fitness of each parent (Russo v. Russo 257 AD 2d 926) -
Yet the Richmond County courts - Gave my estranged husband custody and cut me out of my children's lives for eight years - without addressing my concerns of my estranged husbands apparent mental instability and apparent psychopath/narcissistic behavior!!
C. Child’s age -
my children were 6, 8, 12, and 15 at the time
D. Child’s physical and mental health (Cornelius C. v. Linda C 123 AD 2d 536)
Yet the Richmond County courts - Gave my estranged husband custody and cut me out of my children's lives for eight years - without addressing my concerns of my estranged husbands emotional abuse of the children via alienating them from me
E. Child’s special needs (Ocampa v. Jiminez 27 AD 3d 75)
F. Child’s preference (Eschbach v. Eschback 56 NY 2d 167)
G. Religion
H. Who has been the primary caretaker (Lenczycki v. Lencaycki 152 AD 2d 621)
Yet the Richmond County courts - Gave my estranged husband custody and cut me out of my children's lives for eight years - without addressing that I was the primary care taker for our entire marriage.
I. Race
J. The sexual preference of each parent
K. Adultery and its impact upon children
L. Separation of siblings (Meyer v. Rudinger 285 AD 2d 714)
M. Locale of parents - stability of one home and/or relocation of parent (Kemp v. Kemp 19 AD 3d 748)
N. Spousal abuse (DRL sec. 240 (1)(a); Finkbeiner v. Finkbeiner 270 AD 2d 417)
HA- A SELF PROCLAIMED ABUSER GETS THE KIDS IN MY CASE - GO FIGURE!
O. Child abuse -
Oh here's where his false allegations worked for him - then every hearing officer or judge that heard the case OMITTED the FALSE "indicated" child abuse case against me - so that I had NO opportunity to know about it or fight it - which led to a lawsuit against the City and Child Protective services.
P. Child’s refusal to be with one parent
Q. Parent’s work schedule (Ebel v. Urlich 273 AD 2d 530)
R. Children’s schedule
S. The need for supervised visitation
T. Ability of custodial parent to support the child (Matter of Louse E.S. v. W. Stephen S. 64 NY 2d 946)
U. The willingness of one Parent to foster the child’s relationship with the other parent (Darla N. v. Christine N 289 AD 2d 783)
Well this one is an obvious joke in my case they refuse to consider EIGHT YEARS OF ALIENATION a factor in changing custody! What a racket!!
V. Prior criminal conduct of a parent (Russo v. Russo 257 AD 2d 926)
Yeah ok.. not in my estranged husbands case... in addition to the fathers criminal record - they also ignored his fathers murdering his own brother as a concern!!
W. The presence of, and the children’s relationship with, a parent’s “significant other.” (Fairbanks V. Diehl 268 AD 2d 867)
X. Alchol or drug abuse of one parent (Melvina H. V. James Lee W 269 AD 2d 186)
Yep this was the LIE that the estranged husband got custody on - Imaging the courts REFUSED me drug testing - labeled me a dangerous drug addict then IGNORED a 100 % NEGATIVE HAIR DRUG TEST - again I'll say it till the day I die WHAT A FLIPPIN RACKET the family and Matrimonial Courts have going! WHAT A DISGRACE TO JUSTICE!
Source: State of New York Appellate Division, Supreme Court 2nd Judicial Department, Continuing Legal Education Law Guardian Program, 2007
http://www.divorcesaloon.com/new-york-divorce-attorney-custody-checklist
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Last thought on this topic today -
It's so sad that I'm NOT the only person the above Judges screwed - there is another mother on Staten Island that also got railroaded by Judge Terrence McElrath and Judge Barbara Panepinto - same story - they [il]legally kidnapped her children from her as well and gave them to her estranged husband after she already had custody established they went ahead in a lower court and re-decided INITIAL custody changing the original outcome -
What a racket!
Don't miss my comments in red of all the violations of these laws that took place in my case.. beginning with Hearing Officer Bonnie Cohen Gallet, then by Judge Terrence McElrath, then it was Judge Barbara Panepinto (yes she had the gall to have this case in front of her wherein she refused to address child custody and refused to recuse herself during the first two hearings in front of her- yes she finally did recuse-see link - Disgusted with the system: Judge Barbara Irolla Panepinto Recused herself after two attempts by my attorney)) and then the final blow came from her colege, Judge Debra Silber an IDV (domestic violence) Judge, who refused me a divorce on cruel and inhuman treatment (gotta love it- she said I don't have grounds- without ever giving me a hearing on grounds)) what a racket!!.
The latest part of the apparent scandal taking place in the Uccio v Argenziano case was by Judge Debra Silber by her ignoring REFUSING TO ENTERTAIN my Writ of Habeas Corpus..
wherein I stated that my children are being held illegally by a self proclaimed domestic abuser ((see article 78 below right hand side of the blog for HIS OWN WORDS condemning him of domestic violence!))
Yet they allowed him to cross state lines.. file a false child protective case against me which would lead to my suing child services and the city for malicious prosecution and negligent misrepresentation)) and gave him custody..while refusing me any contact with my children..
can you believe this BS!
Anywho.. here are "the guidelines" apparently as long as your ex isn't politically connected .. these should work for you..
New York divorce attorney
The Gary and Eni Skoien case out in Chicago made me think of this topic for a post: what are the factors a court considers in awarding custody to a parent? I have probably done a ton of posts already that pretty much say the same thing, but what is a little repetition going to hurt?
So here goes. What you need to know about custody and the abc’s of how to win a custody battle in New York and around the country:
1) First of all, understand that the court is ultimately only concerned with what is in the “best interest of the child.” The parent who gets custody will be the parent who can best provide for the child’s “best interest.” What, you may ask, is the “best interest” of the child? How does the court determine that for purposes of custody? Well, the court considers a number of factors including but not limited to:
A. Physical ability and fitness of each parent.
B. Mental ability and fitness of each parent (Russo v. Russo 257 AD 2d 926) -
Yet the Richmond County courts - Gave my estranged husband custody and cut me out of my children's lives for eight years - without addressing my concerns of my estranged husbands apparent mental instability and apparent psychopath/narcissistic behavior!!
C. Child’s age -
my children were 6, 8, 12, and 15 at the time
D. Child’s physical and mental health (Cornelius C. v. Linda C 123 AD 2d 536)
Yet the Richmond County courts - Gave my estranged husband custody and cut me out of my children's lives for eight years - without addressing my concerns of my estranged husbands emotional abuse of the children via alienating them from me
E. Child’s special needs (Ocampa v. Jiminez 27 AD 3d 75)
F. Child’s preference (Eschbach v. Eschback 56 NY 2d 167)
G. Religion
H. Who has been the primary caretaker (Lenczycki v. Lencaycki 152 AD 2d 621)
Yet the Richmond County courts - Gave my estranged husband custody and cut me out of my children's lives for eight years - without addressing that I was the primary care taker for our entire marriage.
I. Race
J. The sexual preference of each parent
K. Adultery and its impact upon children
L. Separation of siblings (Meyer v. Rudinger 285 AD 2d 714)
M. Locale of parents - stability of one home and/or relocation of parent (Kemp v. Kemp 19 AD 3d 748)
N. Spousal abuse (DRL sec. 240 (1)(a); Finkbeiner v. Finkbeiner 270 AD 2d 417)
HA- A SELF PROCLAIMED ABUSER GETS THE KIDS IN MY CASE - GO FIGURE!
O. Child abuse -
Oh here's where his false allegations worked for him - then every hearing officer or judge that heard the case OMITTED the FALSE "indicated" child abuse case against me - so that I had NO opportunity to know about it or fight it - which led to a lawsuit against the City and Child Protective services.
P. Child’s refusal to be with one parent
Q. Parent’s work schedule (Ebel v. Urlich 273 AD 2d 530)
R. Children’s schedule
S. The need for supervised visitation
T. Ability of custodial parent to support the child (Matter of Louse E.S. v. W. Stephen S. 64 NY 2d 946)
U. The willingness of one Parent to foster the child’s relationship with the other parent (Darla N. v. Christine N 289 AD 2d 783)
Well this one is an obvious joke in my case they refuse to consider EIGHT YEARS OF ALIENATION a factor in changing custody! What a racket!!
V. Prior criminal conduct of a parent (Russo v. Russo 257 AD 2d 926)
Yeah ok.. not in my estranged husbands case... in addition to the fathers criminal record - they also ignored his fathers murdering his own brother as a concern!!
W. The presence of, and the children’s relationship with, a parent’s “significant other.” (Fairbanks V. Diehl 268 AD 2d 867)
X. Alchol or drug abuse of one parent (Melvina H. V. James Lee W 269 AD 2d 186)
Yep this was the LIE that the estranged husband got custody on - Imaging the courts REFUSED me drug testing - labeled me a dangerous drug addict then IGNORED a 100 % NEGATIVE HAIR DRUG TEST - again I'll say it till the day I die WHAT A FLIPPIN RACKET the family and Matrimonial Courts have going! WHAT A DISGRACE TO JUSTICE!
Source: State of New York Appellate Division, Supreme Court 2nd Judicial Department, Continuing Legal Education Law Guardian Program, 2007
http://www.divorcesaloon.com/new-york-divorce-attorney-custody-checklist
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Last thought on this topic today -
It's so sad that I'm NOT the only person the above Judges screwed - there is another mother on Staten Island that also got railroaded by Judge Terrence McElrath and Judge Barbara Panepinto - same story - they [il]legally kidnapped her children from her as well and gave them to her estranged husband after she already had custody established they went ahead in a lower court and re-decided INITIAL custody changing the original outcome -
What a racket!
Prosecutor finds misconduct at Colville DSHS
The Stevens County prosecutor says he has found a "pattern of misconduct" at the Colville office of the Department of Social and Health Services.
COLVILLE, Wash. —
The Stevens County prosecutor says he has found a "pattern of misconduct" at the Colville office of the Department of Social and Health Services.
The Spokesman-Review newspaper reported Saturday that Prosecutor Tim Rassmussen sent a sharply worded letter about the office last week to Gov. Chris Gregoire, Attorney General Rob McKenna and 30 other state employees and lawmakers.
Rasmussen accused the office of removing foster children from their caregivers without cause and of "shopping" for doctors and counselors to support its agenda. The letter included accusations that children have been subjected to forensic examination to look for evidence of sexual molestation when no allegations of abuse exist.
His letter included a complaint from a doctor who said that even after he determined a baby did not have methamphetamine in its system, DSHS's Child Protective Services ordered the child be placed on a morphine drip. The result, said Dr. Barry J. Bacon, was that the baby became addicted to the drug.
"It is really unfortunate that this child was put through this degree of trauma at such an early age and I believe it can only be laid at the feet of the CPS workers," Dr. Barry J. Bacon wrote.
Rasmussen also noted that a judge blasted the department for removing five foster children on what the court deemed a "very questionable basis."
"The court found that removal by the department was done primarily for financial reasons," Rasmussen wrote. "The court noted its 'displeasure and sense of outrage at the department having operated the way it did in removing the children,' and speaks of the department 'having done a grave disservice' to the children."
When social workers tried to remove two other foster children from that home, the judge refused and called their request "child abuse," Rasmussen wrote.
Connie Lambert-Eckel, deputy regional administrator for the DSHS children's administration, said the department has been working with Rasmussen on his concerns for some time, but his letter contains new allegations which she could not immediately address.
"We will be diving into these concerns very appropriately, very responsively, very quickly and very early next week," she told the newspaper.
State Rep. Joel Kretz, R-Wauconda, said he asked Rasmussen to investigate after receiving complaints about the office. Kretz said he brought complaints to department ombudsman Mary Meining last summer, but now he's hoping for drastic changes in how such complaints are handled.
"I don't think conventional means are going to get to the bottom of this," Kretz said. "There's a culture in that Colville office that needs to be weeded out and have some light shown on it."
The Colville office serves Stevens, Ferry and Pend Oreille counties.
Rasmussen was openly critical of the agency following the dehydration death of 7-year-old Tyler DeLeon in 2005. DeLeon's adoptive mother, Carole DeLeon, was sentenced to six years in prison after pleading guilty to charges of criminal mistreatment.
The state of Washington recently paid a settlement of more than $6 million to children who were under Carole DeLeon's care, including $180,000 to the estate of Tyler DeLeon.
Information from: The Spokesman-Review, http://www.spokesmanreview.com
Copyright © 2009 The Seattle Times Company
COLVILLE, Wash. —
The Stevens County prosecutor says he has found a "pattern of misconduct" at the Colville office of the Department of Social and Health Services.
The Spokesman-Review newspaper reported Saturday that Prosecutor Tim Rassmussen sent a sharply worded letter about the office last week to Gov. Chris Gregoire, Attorney General Rob McKenna and 30 other state employees and lawmakers.
Rasmussen accused the office of removing foster children from their caregivers without cause and of "shopping" for doctors and counselors to support its agenda. The letter included accusations that children have been subjected to forensic examination to look for evidence of sexual molestation when no allegations of abuse exist.
His letter included a complaint from a doctor who said that even after he determined a baby did not have methamphetamine in its system, DSHS's Child Protective Services ordered the child be placed on a morphine drip. The result, said Dr. Barry J. Bacon, was that the baby became addicted to the drug.
"It is really unfortunate that this child was put through this degree of trauma at such an early age and I believe it can only be laid at the feet of the CPS workers," Dr. Barry J. Bacon wrote.
Rasmussen also noted that a judge blasted the department for removing five foster children on what the court deemed a "very questionable basis."
"The court found that removal by the department was done primarily for financial reasons," Rasmussen wrote. "The court noted its 'displeasure and sense of outrage at the department having operated the way it did in removing the children,' and speaks of the department 'having done a grave disservice' to the children."
When social workers tried to remove two other foster children from that home, the judge refused and called their request "child abuse," Rasmussen wrote.
Connie Lambert-Eckel, deputy regional administrator for the DSHS children's administration, said the department has been working with Rasmussen on his concerns for some time, but his letter contains new allegations which she could not immediately address.
"We will be diving into these concerns very appropriately, very responsively, very quickly and very early next week," she told the newspaper.
State Rep. Joel Kretz, R-Wauconda, said he asked Rasmussen to investigate after receiving complaints about the office. Kretz said he brought complaints to department ombudsman Mary Meining last summer, but now he's hoping for drastic changes in how such complaints are handled.
"I don't think conventional means are going to get to the bottom of this," Kretz said. "There's a culture in that Colville office that needs to be weeded out and have some light shown on it."
The Colville office serves Stevens, Ferry and Pend Oreille counties.
Rasmussen was openly critical of the agency following the dehydration death of 7-year-old Tyler DeLeon in 2005. DeLeon's adoptive mother, Carole DeLeon, was sentenced to six years in prison after pleading guilty to charges of criminal mistreatment.
The state of Washington recently paid a settlement of more than $6 million to children who were under Carole DeLeon's care, including $180,000 to the estate of Tyler DeLeon.
Information from: The Spokesman-Review, http://www.spokesmanreview.com
Copyright © 2009 The Seattle Times Company
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A Family's Heartbreak: An Introduction to Parent Alienation
I would like to share an email about a new parent alienation book -
I'm pleased to announce that our book, A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation has been published. In conjunction with the release of our book, we have also introduced a new website -- http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com.
If you have our old Hugs to Heartbreak website bookmarked, in your contact information, or as a link on your webpage, please replace it with our new URL.
You can order the book at http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com. The book is also available on Amazon.com, however you will receive it faster if you order it directly from our new website.We wrote A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation to raise the visibility of an issue that as you know, affects millions of parents, children and extended family members every year. We're confident A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation will help families deal with a very painful situation and educate the legal and mental health professionals involved in these cases about this very destructive family dynamic.
If you should order a book, please provide a comment on the new website or on Amazon after you've finished reading it. We look forward to your feedback.
By the way, for legal reasons we published the books using pseudonyms -- which will explain the name below.If we can help further please do not hesitate to write.
Best,m. "jeff" jeffries
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I'm pleased to announce that our book, A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation has been published. In conjunction with the release of our book, we have also introduced a new website -- http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com.
If you have our old Hugs to Heartbreak website bookmarked, in your contact information, or as a link on your webpage, please replace it with our new URL.
You can order the book at http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com. The book is also available on Amazon.com, however you will receive it faster if you order it directly from our new website.We wrote A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation to raise the visibility of an issue that as you know, affects millions of parents, children and extended family members every year. We're confident A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation will help families deal with a very painful situation and educate the legal and mental health professionals involved in these cases about this very destructive family dynamic.
If you should order a book, please provide a comment on the new website or on Amazon after you've finished reading it. We look forward to your feedback.
By the way, for legal reasons we published the books using pseudonyms -- which will explain the name below.If we can help further please do not hesitate to write.
Best,m. "jeff" jeffries
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Sunday, March 22, 2009
Family and Matrimonial Law and Parent Alienation
Parental alienation is a big and important area of child custody cases. While many non-custodial many believe that parental alienation is occuring the question is what can be done about. Under the New York Domestic Relations Law, parental alienation can result in the reduction of child support, but more importantly it can result in the change of custody.
The New York Appellate courts have come to realize that parental alienation is harmful to the child, and therefore could warrant a change of custody. The First Department, in Osbourne v. Regina S., 55 AD3d 465 found that “the mother’s negative attitude and hostility toward the father, as evidenced by her maligning of the father in the child’s presence, the filing of unsubstantiated reports of abuse and neglect against him, and encouraging the child to lie to support her false claims, failed to demonstrate a willingness or ability on her part to facilitate and encourage a close and optimum relationship between the child and his father.” As a result the court changed custody from the mother to the father.
The key to the decision is the understanding that parental alienation is not in the best interests of the child. In the case of Zeis v. Slater, 57 AD3d 793, the Second Department specifically stated that parental alienation is not in the child’s best interests. The court agreed with the Family Court that the mother should lose custody. The court found that the “mother deliberately interfered with the father’s visitation rights, and moreover, denigrated the father in the child’s presence. This conduct is so inconsistent with the child’s best interests that it per se raises a strong probability that the mother is unfit to act as a custodial parent.”
In fact, the courts are so concerned with parental alienation that not only may a custodial parent lose custody, but may also lose unsupervised visitation. In Stewart v. Stewart, 56 AD3d 1218, the court found that as a result of the parental alienation, that supervised visitation was in the child’s best interest.
The point for the custodial parent is to avoid at all costs saying anything that is derogatory about the non-custodial parent to the children. The point for the non-custodial parent is that you can fight back against parental alienation.
New York Divorce Lawyers Explain Family and Matrimonial Law » Parental Alienation
My Two Cents..
Ok I live in NY where this attorney is quoting law from. Is it possible that these laws got ignored over and over in my case? YES THEY DID!
Could the answer to how the heck they got ignored lay in the Political connections my estranged husband Mr. Louis M. Argenziano has to the Panepinto's (Jospeh Panepinto Director of CYO ((estranged husbands boss)) Richmond County sitting Supree Court Judge Barbara Panepinto ((Estranged husband's Bosses wife)) and Aggie Panepinto ((estranged husbands live in lover- who is now raising my children without any influence from me - COURT ORDERED for the last eight years WITHOUT ONE OUNCE OF PROOF OF ANY ABUSE NEGLECT OT UNFITNESS ON MY PART!!
THERE IS NO DOUBT IN MY MIND..
You decide.. connect all the dots and the picture is VERY UGLY and REEKS OF CORRUPTION in the Staten Island Family and Matrimonial Courts!
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The New York Appellate courts have come to realize that parental alienation is harmful to the child, and therefore could warrant a change of custody. The First Department, in Osbourne v. Regina S., 55 AD3d 465 found that “the mother’s negative attitude and hostility toward the father, as evidenced by her maligning of the father in the child’s presence, the filing of unsubstantiated reports of abuse and neglect against him, and encouraging the child to lie to support her false claims, failed to demonstrate a willingness or ability on her part to facilitate and encourage a close and optimum relationship between the child and his father.” As a result the court changed custody from the mother to the father.
The key to the decision is the understanding that parental alienation is not in the best interests of the child. In the case of Zeis v. Slater, 57 AD3d 793, the Second Department specifically stated that parental alienation is not in the child’s best interests. The court agreed with the Family Court that the mother should lose custody. The court found that the “mother deliberately interfered with the father’s visitation rights, and moreover, denigrated the father in the child’s presence. This conduct is so inconsistent with the child’s best interests that it per se raises a strong probability that the mother is unfit to act as a custodial parent.”
In fact, the courts are so concerned with parental alienation that not only may a custodial parent lose custody, but may also lose unsupervised visitation. In Stewart v. Stewart, 56 AD3d 1218, the court found that as a result of the parental alienation, that supervised visitation was in the child’s best interest.
The point for the custodial parent is to avoid at all costs saying anything that is derogatory about the non-custodial parent to the children. The point for the non-custodial parent is that you can fight back against parental alienation.
New York Divorce Lawyers Explain Family and Matrimonial Law » Parental Alienation
My Two Cents..
Ok I live in NY where this attorney is quoting law from. Is it possible that these laws got ignored over and over in my case? YES THEY DID!
Could the answer to how the heck they got ignored lay in the Political connections my estranged husband Mr. Louis M. Argenziano has to the Panepinto's (Jospeh Panepinto Director of CYO ((estranged husbands boss)) Richmond County sitting Supree Court Judge Barbara Panepinto ((Estranged husband's Bosses wife)) and Aggie Panepinto ((estranged husbands live in lover- who is now raising my children without any influence from me - COURT ORDERED for the last eight years WITHOUT ONE OUNCE OF PROOF OF ANY ABUSE NEGLECT OT UNFITNESS ON MY PART!!
THERE IS NO DOUBT IN MY MIND..
You decide.. connect all the dots and the picture is VERY UGLY and REEKS OF CORRUPTION in the Staten Island Family and Matrimonial Courts!
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Friday, March 20, 2009
Common Traits and Behaviors of Persons with Personality Disorders
Borrowed from Out of the FOG - Personality Disorder Support which I have listed in the links on the right hand side of this blog..
I'd like to bring parents that have been alienated a list of things I'd bet my life on they are very familiar with - symptoms of personality disordered persons...
I say they are probably familiar with these signs because now that I evaluate the list .. my estranged husband who has alienated my children from me .. shows every one of these signs..
I swear psychology should be taught in highschool and it should be mandatory!
Every one needs to know what to run away from ...
Common Traits & Behaviors
Introduction
Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual (PDI) and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual (Non) is as unique as the DNA of the people involved. Therefore there is no formula which can predict the development of any particular relationship or situation.
Nevertheless, there are some common behavior patterns associated with personality disorders, some of which you may recognize in your own situation. Some of them are described here.
Please note that these descriptions are not intended to be used in any kind of diagnosis or evaluation. Nobody exhibits all of these behaviors. Exhibiting some of these behaviors does not necessarily mean that you have a personality disorder.
These descriptions are offered in the hope that Non-PD's who read them might recognize their own situation and discover that they are not alone.
List of Common Behaviors
The Abusive Cycle
Alienation
Always & Never Statements
Blaming
Bullying
Chaos Manufacture
Cheating
Circular Conversations
Comorbidity
Denial
Dependency
Depression
Dissociation - Feelings Create Facts
Domestic Theft
Drama Majors & Drama Queens
Entitlement and Emotional Blackmail
Engulfment
False Accusations & Distortion Campaigns
Frivolous Litigation & Lawsuits
Jealousy and Fear Of Abandonment
Gaslighting
Harassment
Histrionic Behavior
Hoovering
Identity Disturbance
Lack of Conscience
Mirroring
Moments of Clarity
Mood Swings
Munchausen Syndrome
Munchausen By Proxy Syndrome
Narcissism
No-Win Situations
Parental Alienation
Passive Aggressive Behavior
Pathological Lying
Projection
Proxy Recruitment
Push-Pull Behavior
Sabotage
Seasonal Affective Disorder
Selective Memory & Selective Amnesia
Selective Competence
Situational Ethics
Self Harm
Self Loathing
Shaming and Invalidation
Sexual Allegations
Splitting - Idealization and Devaluation
Stalking
Thought Policing
Commitment Testing
Triggering
Violence, Raging & Impulsive Aggression
Other Behaviors
My Two Cents..
Take the time to read these.. then give yourself a realtiy check.. if after that reality check you are concerned.. continue reading out of the fog website and find out what actions to take and take them ...
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I'd like to bring parents that have been alienated a list of things I'd bet my life on they are very familiar with - symptoms of personality disordered persons...
I say they are probably familiar with these signs because now that I evaluate the list .. my estranged husband who has alienated my children from me .. shows every one of these signs..
I swear psychology should be taught in highschool and it should be mandatory!
Every one needs to know what to run away from ...
Common Traits & Behaviors
Introduction
Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual (PDI) and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual (Non) is as unique as the DNA of the people involved. Therefore there is no formula which can predict the development of any particular relationship or situation.
Nevertheless, there are some common behavior patterns associated with personality disorders, some of which you may recognize in your own situation. Some of them are described here.
Please note that these descriptions are not intended to be used in any kind of diagnosis or evaluation. Nobody exhibits all of these behaviors. Exhibiting some of these behaviors does not necessarily mean that you have a personality disorder.
These descriptions are offered in the hope that Non-PD's who read them might recognize their own situation and discover that they are not alone.
List of Common Behaviors
The Abusive Cycle
Alienation
Always & Never Statements
Blaming
Bullying
Chaos Manufacture
Cheating
Circular Conversations
Comorbidity
Denial
Dependency
Depression
Dissociation - Feelings Create Facts
Domestic Theft
Drama Majors & Drama Queens
Entitlement and Emotional Blackmail
Engulfment
False Accusations & Distortion Campaigns
Frivolous Litigation & Lawsuits
Jealousy and Fear Of Abandonment
Gaslighting
Harassment
Histrionic Behavior
Hoovering
Identity Disturbance
Lack of Conscience
Mirroring
Moments of Clarity
Mood Swings
Munchausen Syndrome
Munchausen By Proxy Syndrome
Narcissism
No-Win Situations
Parental Alienation
Passive Aggressive Behavior
Pathological Lying
Projection
Proxy Recruitment
Push-Pull Behavior
Sabotage
Seasonal Affective Disorder
Selective Memory & Selective Amnesia
Selective Competence
Situational Ethics
Self Harm
Self Loathing
Shaming and Invalidation
Sexual Allegations
Splitting - Idealization and Devaluation
Stalking
Thought Policing
Commitment Testing
Triggering
Violence, Raging & Impulsive Aggression
Other Behaviors
My Two Cents..
Take the time to read these.. then give yourself a realtiy check.. if after that reality check you are concerned.. continue reading out of the fog website and find out what actions to take and take them ...
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