Does Parent Alienation have long term effects on the children.. Hell-Mother-Fuckin--- YES!

As most of my readers know I'm writing a book "Connecting The Dots.. Why we are where we are now." I decided to write that book based on my personal journey through being an alienated parent and not understanding how the children that I adored and who adored me in return.. suddenly hated and or feared me.

Low and behold I didn't understand any of it, until I dug to depths that I never thought I'd be capable of digging.

Funny thing happened though. I saw alienation happening to adults in my world as well. I began to see how the parents of full fledged adults were beginning to change the perception of certain adults to align with the opinions of the adult children.

Let me tell you it was the scariest thing I'd ever witnessed. A forty something grown person began parroting the views of their parent which are in all reality the opposite views and opinions of the said adult. So then how? Why? WTF?

Well, children aligned with their parent in childhood suffer from Parent Alienation Syndrome or Stockholm Syndrome. They are stuck in a psychosis with the alienating parent. They are oblivious to the psychotic oneness.. they are fully enmeshed they are powerless, unaware and vulnerable to any and all manipulation.. period!

Unless something rocks their world, unless someone or something hurts them beyond hurt, and they hit rock bottom they won't be willing to come out of what can be called a psychosis functional coma. It's kinda like a functional alcholic.. they get by day to day but they're so unaware of their own vs the alienated parents thoughts they act as if the thoughts and words are their own.

Parent Alienation is nothing new, it already has many names in the DSM.. the only thing that may be new is that people are noticing it more and more because we've bred with more and more malignant narcissists and more alienated parents have been brought up to be submissive to the more dominating abusive personality disordered alienators.

This article below explains it the best. It's titled: Folie à Deux:The Exquisite Madness of the Family.

Here is the link: Folie à Deux: The Exquisite Madness of the Family (Family Court Philosopher #79): Get Off the Bus, Gus!

The reason I wrote this post today is because I came across this article..
Parental Alienation Causes Short and Long-Term Damage to Children penlau software

Don't let ANYONE tell you that Parent Alienation or the effects it has on the children Parent Alienation Syndrome aren't long term.. I will give my kidneys if an honest psychiatrist can prove me wrong. I've lived it over and over watching grown adults suffer unbearable pain eons after the original enmeshment aka alienation.

We as a society need to wake the fuck up.. take out heads out of the sand.. and watch and learn. But before that can happen we the alienated parent have to accept our roles in how we became alienated, why that theme plays/played out in our lives as a reoccurring nightmare over and over and then fuckin do something about our passivity which gives permission to abusers to abuse us and turn our worlds in-fuckin-side-out, up-fuckin-side-down and leaves us with that all to familiar feeling of abandonment!

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Slackin lately

I know I know I've been slaking lately.. it's been a long strange year!

Anywho, I do check in on my site meter to see if this blog is still getting hits despite my lack of anything new, exciting or slanderous to expose that may be goin on...

Nonetheless, I found a new fan who's page has brought me a lot of hits this week.. I want to thank the author and share the blog with my readers..

Great article and awesome blog!

Blow the Whistle, Get Slandered Autism Custody Battles

Did you take Paxil?

The email opened with... "Do you take Reglan"?

The subject line said.. "Did you take Paxil"?

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Paxil Birth Defects

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Things that make ya go hmmmm

Yannooo once in a while I actually let retards in my world for a second or two..

I think I did it again Georgie!

I keep in touch with those I choose to keep in touch with.. the rest I've left somewhere in my past for reasons which are usually varied. But this one is obviously in my past because they aren't playing with a full deck. It almost sounds like my ex trying to implicate something that isn't so and is negative.

Ha didn't he/they learn to be very careful with what they write? I did!

Can anyone tell me why I wasted any time on this conversation?

Elaine Barker
I'm wondering how much you've changed as the person you were many many years ago and if you've tried to make amends for things you've done. After all the things you've gone through with your children I would think (and am hoping) there would have been a revelation of some sort and a different view of things going forward.

Louise Uccio
Hi Elaine, I'm sorry I missed this original message. However, I did see your message today. How can I help you? Do you believe you know me from long ago? Do you think I have/had to view things differently? If so would you elaborate on that thought. If not and you are just asking random questions, I would like to know what it is that you are truly getting at. Please be direct as I do not have time for vagueness.
Thanks, Louise

Elaine Barker
I do know you from long ago and I am hoping that you are different from the way you handled things back then. I am wondering if you truly do things differently now and what changed in you for that to occur.

Louise Uccio
Elaine, Let me start off saying that I don't know where I may know you from, it may be easier for me to understand what you're talking about if I remembered where I might know you from.. so please do tell. Second you are making implications of a negative nature can you please share with me where these comments are coming from? What ways did I handle things long ago that you "hope" have changed?

Elaine Barker
I guess I am implying things of a negative nature. I'm also basically an optimist and want to think that you are different now. I want to believe that not only do you actually help people, but that you've realized you didn't do that before. And that you can admit that at least to yourself. You've put yourself out there, creating this image and I was wondering if something brought you to this--some deep thinking, some real change, or nothing's really changed.

Louise Uccio
Elaine, we seem to be going round and round. Is there a reason you will not reveal yourself? Where do I know you from?

Elaine Barker
No, we're not going round and round, you're just avoiding my questions. If you are what you profess, then you should have no problem answering me.
　
Louise Uccio
Elaine, I am where I am for reasons I have posted online. I will not answer loaded questions for someone that claims to know me yet won't tell me from where or how they know, or believe that they know me. Enjoy your night.

Elaine Barker
You just don't get it. If you can't say that you understand things that you did in your life were messed up, then you've given me your answer--that there was no change in you because you don't see the need to. It's almost as if you can't even comprehend that someone would even ask that. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, but I just thought I'd give it a shot. But it makes everything you present to the world now pretty much worthless if you don't take responsibility.

Elaine Barker
I've tried to latch on to something here where you take responsibility for ANYTHING. But there's nothing. You have much to answer for in your life. Yet here (and seemingly everywhere) you are blaming others for your sorry plight and then wanting compassion and human decency (and money!) when you've shown practically none.How do you justify your own actions and people you've harmed thoughout your life? Do you really believe saying you're a child advocate exonerates you?It's unbelievable that you present yourself as you are doing when really you are just an embodiment of the lowest elements of human nature that exist. Let me repeat that: You are just an embodiment of the lowest elements of human nature that exist.And from what I've seen how your life turned out, karma can be a real bitch, huh?I will concede, though, that I have something I need to work on myself. And that is when I looked you up and found out about your children and looked at your pictures and saw how ragged, old, and out of shape you are now, I tried, but I couldn't quite feel that compassion for you.Eh, fortunately though, I can happily go on with my life never giving you another thought now. I actually feel tarnished that I even allowed myself any communication with you at all.Don't write back. I don't want my inbox soiled by you.

Louise Uccio
You're a sick cookie, I wish you the best!

Foster Children Mistreated, Suit Against City Claims

Lots and lots of stuff goin on in my life been really busy.. but I'll never abandon my blog.. Sorry I'm unable to blog daily now I'm sharing caretaking with my sister of our dying mother. It ain't been easy.. but here ya go this is worth the time it took to post...

Again forgive my lateness in sharing this post..

A federal lawsuit is seeking to bar New York City from allowing troubled foster-care children to be kept in psychiatric hospitals after doctors have recommended their release, a practice that routinely adds months to a hospitalization despite laws that require such children to be placed in the least restrictive environment possible.

The suit, filed on Wednesday in United States District Court in Brooklyn, claims that the practice means that children who no longer require hospitalization are being kept in locked quarters where they have limited access to schooling, family visits and even walks outside.

The suit also claims that the Administration for Children’s Services, which oversees the care of about 16,000 foster children in New York City, and its subcontractors have been “using certain psychiatric hospitals as if they are detention centers,” sending some children to hospitals for disciplinary reasons, like breaking curfew, running away or getting in fights, rather than for mental health reasons.

A spokeswoman for the city’s Corporation Counsel declined to comment on the suit, saying the city had not yet had a chance to review it.

The suit was filed by the Legal Aid Society on behalf of three unnamed foster-care children who are currently hospitalized despite doctors’ recommendations that they be released.

“Every day that it continues, plaintiffs’ extended, wrongful confinement in these institutions is causing them irreparable damage,” the lawsuit says.

One of the children, a 6-year-old boy identified as S. M. who was placed into foster care last year, was hospitalized in Westchester in January, after “misbehavior” in his foster home, according to the complaint. The boy, who was in kindergarten, has been ready for discharge since April 2.

Another child, a 13-year-old boy identified as M. M., remains hospitalized on Long Island, though he was recommended for discharge on Jan. 26.

Legal Aid, a nonprofit group that represents foster-care children in New York, is seeking a preliminary injunction ordering the release of the three children, as well as a court order prohibiting the city from continuing to place foster-care children in hospitals unless doing so is medically necessary, and requiring that less-restrictive placements are made available for any child ready for release within 24 hours. The lawsuit also seeks financial damages.

Legal Aid requested class-action status for the lawsuit and identified two dozen more cases in which it claimed that children were held inappropriately, Nancy Rosenbloom, one of the Legal Aid lawyers handling the case, said. There is a high incidence of mental illness among foster-care children, who have been separated from their families, many after suffering physical or sexual abuse, said Marcia Lowry, executive director of the advocacy group Children’s Rights.

The suit cited a study by the group that estimated that about 14 percent of the foster care children in New York had been admitted to a psychiatric hospital in the course of a single year. Under both state and federal law, the city is required to place the children in the “most homelike” environment.

But foster homes, group homes and residential treatment centers can be unable or unwilling to accept children with mental illness or severe behavioral problems. The city has a policy against transferring children discharged from psychiatric hospitals to its Children’s Center, which temporarily houses other children during transition periods, according to Legal Aid.

“Some of these kids do have serious mental-health needs that may require hospitalization,” Ms. Rosenbloom said. “But the point of this case is once they’re ready to get out, they should get out.”

By A. G. SULZBERGER
Published: May 12, 2010

Oroginal Link- City Agency Accused of Mistreating Foster Children - NYTimes.com

Fathers Day Yankee vs Mets Game

My brother in law got stuck with a buncha tickets to the Yankee vs Mets game.. he has 5 left anyone interested in taking them off his hands for a steal?

Ex-Wife Ordered Jailed for Alienating Children From Father

A Long Island, N.Y., judge has sentenced a woman to six weekends in jail for repeatedly undermining her ex-husband's relationship with their two daughters.

Supreme Court Justice Robert A. Ross in Nassau County ruled that the mother, Lauren R., willfully violated a court order by deliberately alienating the elementary school-age children from her ex-husband, Ted R.

Ross held Ms. R. in civil contempt and ordered her to report to the Nassau County Correctional Facility every other weekend this summer.

Her term was to have begun on Friday, but was temporarily stayed pending appeal by a judge from the Appellate Division, 2nd Department, on Thursday.

"The evidence before me demonstrates a pattern of willful and calculated violations of the clear and express dictates of the parties' Stipulation of Settlement," Ross wrote in Lauren R. v. Ted R., 203699-02.

"The extensive record is replete with instances of attempts to undermine the relationship between the children and their father and replace him with her new husband, manipulation of defendant's parenting access, utter and unfettered vilification of the defendant to the children, false reporting of sexual misconduct without any semblance of 'good faith,' and her imposition upon the children to fear her tirades and punishment if they embrace the relationship they want to have with their father."

The extraordinary hearing to determine whether Ms. R. should be held in contempt for violating the couple's stipulation of settlement began in May 2009 and stretched over 23 days of hearings over the next nine months.

During the hearing, Mr. R. testified to dozens of occasions in which his ex-wife either interfered with his visitation rights or purposefully alienated the children from him.

The judge described about a dozen such incidents or patterns in his eight-page decision.

In the winter of 2007, for example, Ms. R. prevented Mr. R. from seeing his daughters for six weeks, Ross wrote.

"I observed the plaintiff smirk in the courtroom as defendant emotionally related how he was deprived of spending Hanukkah with his children, and was relegated to lighting a menorah and watching his daughters open their grandparents' presents in the back of his truck at the base of plaintiff's driveway," the judge wrote.

Mr. R. also testified that Ms. R. consistently scheduled theater outings and social activities with her children so that they would conflict with his visitation, thereby putting him in the position of either consenting to a missed visit or risking disappointing his daughters.

The "crescendo" of Ms. R.'s contempt involved false accusations of sexual abuse against Mr. R., the judge wrote.

"Allegations that defendant had injured the child were found to be baseless and, by making such allegations, plaintiff needlessly subjected the child to an investigation by Child Protective Services, placing her own interests above those of the child," Ross wrote. "This report was not made in 'good faith' -- rather, the investigating agency warned the mother not to re-utilize the allegations and her children in her custodial litigation with the defendant."

In addition to the contempt finding and the temporarily stayed jail sentence, Ross ordered a hearing to consider a change of custody and to hear Mr. R.'s application for more than $134,000 in attorney fees. Those hearings were postponed pending Ms. R.'s appeal.

Ms. R.'s attorney, Kieth I. Rieger of Barrocas & Rieger in Garden City, N.Y., praised Ross, but criticized the decision, likening it to last week's missed umpire call that cost a Detroit Tigers pitcher a perfect game.

"I think all of us make mistakes, and I think he's just made a good-faith, honest mistake in his assessment of this case," Rieger said. "That's why there's an Appellate Division. I think he just did not accurately assess my client."

Stanley Hirsch, also of Garden City, represented Mr. R.

"I'm very hopeful that this case will be some type of warning to those who don't have the children's best interests at heart when they conduct themselves with their spouses," Hirsch said. "It has great significance to my client, but I think it has a terrific overall impact on people who are going through a divorce and not getting along and involving the children in their disputes."

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