tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217353884669167836.post280561797306074164..comments2023-10-16T06:57:51.220-04:00Comments on Disgusted with the system: My Personal Debate over Maternal Alienation and Parent AlienationZoeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00137007897874209945noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217353884669167836.post-91343309267912322112009-03-10T16:22:00.000-04:002009-03-10T16:22:00.000-04:00Sadly I tried to have a conversation with you. We...Sadly I tried to have a conversation with you. We are not claiming Maternal Alienation, we are saying Maternal Deprivation - there is a big difference and there are studies on Maternal Deprivation. Rather than trying to assign labels (as I said in my blog posts repeatedly) why do we not call it what it is - abuse? I am a custodial mother, and my ex continues to try to degrade me to our children. Do I call it PAS, PA, alienation?<BR/><BR/>No I call it abuse, plain and simple, It is degrading abusive behavior. When we call it like it is, maybe we will get somewhere.<BR/><BR/>I have researched this issue and in my state appeals files (all are availble online), there have been over 1000 cases (that I have discovered to date) of custody cases in which PA or PAS is mentioned. There is only one case of a male being mentioned as the perp. This is not because most moms have custody - quite the contrary, it is because PAS - PA is primarily used against women.<BR/><BR/>I walk a thin tightrope with my children. I make sure they know that while their dad loves them - his feelings for me are quite the opposite (they see this as well so I am not badmouthing dad). I also explain to them this is normal in a divorce. This also should have no bearing on their feelings for him, that he does love them. However, I know he does not love them, he is only using them to exact his revenge, in fact our children return home from visits describing the nasty language used about me (ranging from the w word, to the c word, to the b word and more) and I just tell them I am sorry they had to hear such things. I ask them if they believe it, they say no, I allow them to vent their anger and again explain sometimes grownups have a hard time controlling their emotions and it is sad they have to suffer from hearing these things.<BR/><BR/>I am a different kind of mother however. I do allow my children to question decisions I make so they can learn. We discuss issues in my house so all can have a say. And so far it works.<BR/><BR/>But I digress here. Please stop using labels and call it what it is. ABUSE!!!!Glenn's Cult?https://www.blogger.com/profile/06475346388593553822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217353884669167836.post-74865684023753750192009-03-09T08:50:00.000-04:002009-03-09T08:50:00.000-04:00Pat, Isn't it great.. the lenghts people will go t...Pat, <BR/><BR/>Isn't it great.. the lenghts people will go to just to protect the lies? <BR/><BR/>Pretty sad if ya ask me.. but we know the truth!<BR/><BR/>Keep on keeping on!Zoeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00137007897874209945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9217353884669167836.post-87932934927662611292009-03-07T23:07:00.000-05:002009-03-07T23:07:00.000-05:00You can't reason with a nut like that Louise. But...You can't reason with a nut like that Louise. But it's great that she devoted a whole blog post to you. <BR/><BR/>There's no such thing as bad publicity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com